DP and his friend speaking German in front of me

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I'm currently at a festival with my bf and his good friend, who's German. Bf is fluent in German, and the friend speaks English but quite slowly/hesitantly. Sometimes he'd need to glance at bf for a translation.
They're both also taking some acid, which I said I was fine with, but am pregnant and so can obviously ingest nooothing of the sort.
Anyway, they have almost exclusively German convs whens I'm there. I try to contribute and things go to English, or my boyfriend occasionally translates. But I feel like some fucking third wheel. I understand the guy not understanding English perfectly , I don't want him to feel uncomfortable :( But I'm getting sort of simmeringly pissed off about it, and just told my boyfriend who sat down next to me at a show instead of his friend, to maybe move away from me while he was smoking (he's having a couple while he's out there). I feel like a bitch tbh. My bf is usually extremely kind and understanding, but I just can't be arsed atm. Still first trimester so I suppose I can blame it on hormones 🤔

I think you are BU. I'm Dutch, my DDs don't speak the language and nor did my late H. I have an aunt who comes and stays with us a lot - her English is pretty good, but for some more complex things, Dutch is easier for her. And these tend to be the longer conversations. Neither my H nor my kids have ever had a problem with this.

The acid on the other hand...

Someone with English as a hesitant second language tripping their balls off won't have a hope in hell of speaking it.

Your problem was expecting people on acid to be anything other than monumentally tedious when you're straight. I used to babysit friends on acid and it's like dealing with less intelligent toddlers.

With a baby due, I think the drugs are more of a problem than speaking German to a German guy.

Acid, eh?

YABU you need to try learn some German maybe
If you're going on maternity leave why not take it up
If you knew his friend speaks little English but your DP speaks fluent German then YABU you must have known they'd converse in German
As for the acid dropping .. if you're not bothered and you trust him I don't know why a bunch of strangers would be bothered

Let em enjoy it, my friends get alot more native when we're all on acid and they are fluent

Well, aren’t you the super-cool one?

Oh for god sake he’s took some acid while she’s pregnant, it’s not like he is in care of an actual baby tripping his head off.

tbh If he was with his mate I would have probably give the festival a miss today or just gone for a few hours so they could have some fun without me.

Him speaking German is the least of your problems OP. My DH's mother tongue isn't English and he almost always speaks his mother tongue when some of his friends visit as their english isn't as good as DH's

Sort yourself the fuck out and wake up - he's sat with his GF, who's pregnant, taking acid..... is that what you want from life?????

*She obviously doesn't care about the acid so why the fuck does anyone else care?g

I couldn’t care less. I’m just rolling my eyes as it’s so juvenile.

god, i cant imagine both being pregnant at a festival whilst babysitting two german speakers tripping. I think id leave them to it and do something else. Are they properly tripping, or just a bit?
Yanbu to be feeling excluded.

What a fun time you must be having, sitting there stone cold sober while your companions take acid and converse in a language you can't understand.

So why put yourself in that situation, then?

The whole situation sounds bloody miserable tbh

You aren't a bitch for asking him not to sit next to you while he smokes drugs but you are an idiot. It's not fine.

A grown man about to have a baby taking acid is tragic. I couldn't be with a man child like that.

Die Drogen sind ein Problem (meiner Meinung nach) aber Deutsch sprechen ist kein Problem....

I don't care about the acid. They both yool a small amount, my bf a micro dose, and are hardly tripping out. Also, he's not going to do this closer to the time the babies born/when it's actually here.
Ok, can accept I'm not being reasonable about the language situation; it does feel a bit dull listening to people make jokes and laugh in a foreign language but yes - guess i need to learn! Especially as I'd like the baby to be bilingual..

You poor thing, sounds like a shit day all round.

He's not tragic, but at least I'm sure of that situation (and should never have included it in a Mumsnet thread I know BETTER than this 🙈), while I wasn't about the language barrier

If they are on acid are you sure either of them are saying anything coherent at all, let alone in German?

I just threw up after a show, so am now back in the tent resting, with my boyfriend on hand to provide water and Haribo tangfastics

She obviously doesn't care about the acid so why the fuck does anyone else care?

Because these immature fools are about to have a baby.

As I said, they both took microdoses, so are perfectly coherent - much more so than someone who's had a bit too much to drink say

We are not immature fools :) Well, I can be on a bad day 🤔

Sie sind unvernünftig. Du solltest auch einen säurefreien Freund haben

I think my boyfriend does recognise the difference bewteen a. Necking a load of drugs compared to a small dose and b. Doing so around a baby, or at a festival when said baby won't be around until next Spring.