MIL gives bigger plates of food to men

[Sofin]

We are often invited for dinner by MIL, about once a week. MIL has the idea that men need significantly more food than women, and DH's plate is always way bigger than mine. I've come to terms with this. But yesterday, she made pie and chips and DH literally had about three times as many chips as me and twice as much pie! I got about 7-8 chips and he had a tower of them. I felt like I was given a kids portion. I'm 21 weeks pregnant and had been working all day yesterday and was starving! DH had not been working, just been to the park for a little bit with DD. There are no extra helpings at MIL's either as she literally dishes out all the food to everyone. I was still hungry after, and honestly felt insulted and embarrassed :( AIBU?

We get this too. Although everyone gets rather small portions so DH & DS gets what I'd usually eat, I get what 5 yr old DD would usually get (if she ate as much as a normal 5yr old) and she gets the amount a 2 year old would eat, which she is happy with as they always have loads of pudding.

Their food is always rather luke warm and a bit over cooked and under seasoned too. 🙄

@LovePoppy
Why are you like this??

@LovePoppy
Why are you like this??

I wondered the same. There seem to be some people who don't actually realise that MN isn't the UN or an urgently convened COBRA committee.

They often say "If this is the only thing that you have to worry about, you must lead a very charmed life" etc. - as if you can't possibly raise anything that irks you for a general discussion unless neither you nor anybody else in the world is experiencing any worse circumstances in their lives.

Same advice as always: if a thread doesn't interest you, just keep scrolling along until you find one that does. Nobody is forcing you to read every - or indeed any - thread on MN.

That's typical older women say 70s& 80s as my mum was the same! It reflects the bygone hard manual workers needing refuelling I think, vs us little females. Ha ha!!

This is v common. My mil alwaus did it. My husband and i just used to swap plates! Your Dh should have given you some of his! Its one reason why when having family to dinner I put all the food on serving dishes and they serve themselves.more washing up but I don't have to think about who doesn't like peas etc.

I'd make sure I never go there hungry ever again!!!! I'd go through the drive thru on the way there hahahaha

If someone hasn't already said it, take your own pack up and after you've finished your meagre helping, whip it out and tuck in, saying 'I need my extra calories so thought I'd make sure I had enough food to keep me going.' 🙄