Would you pay?

[WendyBagina]

If you'd been invited to a baby shower, would you be happy if you were asked to pay for the food/activity? In this case, £20 per person for afternoon tea? If you weren't happy, would you decline the invite or would you complain to the organiser/grandma (to be)?

For what it's worth, I think baby showers are bullshit but let's not get into that debate this time...

I'd decline.

Yeah I wouldn't mind paying for it

I'd decline.

No, I wouldn't go because I think they're grabby.

I'd buy a gift when the baby arrives though.

If it was just an afternoon tea, nice catch up with lovely friends and they'd been up front about the price - absolutely, no problem.

If it was £20 in a church hall, lots of gifts expected and tacky games, only told after accepting - no thank you.

Assuming they expect gifts on top, given it's a 'shower'! I think it's unreasonable to ask guests to stump up.

It depends, a good friend I'd think I would pay £20 for a nice afternoon tea regardless and I'd get to see a lot of female friends.

Work/distant friend I'd decline.

I certainly wouldn't complain to the organiser under any circumstances

I think baby showers are bullshit but let's not get into that debate this time

Yeah, good luck with that.

I would either pay or just decline, but I wouldn’t dream of complaining to the grandmother to be.

No I wouldn’t be happy.

The organiser (in this case Grandma) should be hosting it at her house rather than asking people to pay for afternoon tea on top of the expected gift.

I would decline rather than say anything though.

Why would you "complain"?

Decline the invitation by all means if you're too tight to attend, but you've no grounds to "complain" FFS.

£20 for afternoon tea is hardly extortionate.

No I wouldn't pay for the privilege of attending.

Baby showers aren’t really my thing but £20 for afternoon tea doesn’t seem a rip off? What would you complain about exactly? If you want to go, go. If you don’t, don’t. 🤷‍♀️

If it was a good friend I'd just pay it and go. I didn't have baby showers, but have been to a few. I'm really not sure what you would complain about. You aren't being forced to go, you can decline if you want.

If paying for something in particular like afternoon tea at a nice hotel then that's fine to me, I don't really see the difference to going to a hen do and paying for an activity there.

If you're too tight for it then decline, I wouldn't even think for a second about moaning to the organiser

£20 is cinema and a pizza - a lovely night out.

The baby will be pay-per-view present wise, hang onto your cash for that.

I love an afternoon tea, and don't mind baby showers, so I'd be there. I don't see the big deal. Afternoon tea with friends celebrating a friends pregnancy.

I’d decline, it’d give me an excuse not to go!
I think they are tacky and to have to pay to attend is awful.
I’m due in a couple of weeks but there have been no showers here! Friends and work colleagues have generously given gifts, but that was not expected and there was no “event”.

I hate baby showers and I hate afternoon tea. But if I liked the friend I would pay £20 and take along a present to make them happy.

Nope, decline

How is a hen party any different to a baby shower in this case?

Depends who it as but yes I'd probably pay.

£20 isn't too bad at all. Yes I'd pay I suppose, I'm not potty about the idea of baby showers, didn't have them in my day, but if I was invited to one so cheap I would certainly enter into the spirit of the thing.

I would either pay or just decline, but I wouldn’t dream of complaining to the grandmother to be

^this. Rude to complain to th GM, disinvite them.