I forgot to pick up dc's classmate from school

[johnwinstonlennon]

Once a week they play football after classes finish. On this particular day, I received a phone call from another mum inviting dc to a playover -after classes, they were skipping football. I said fine and kept on working at the office. I leave the office and, while grocery shopping, my mobile rings. It was another child's mum, I am supposed to take him home on football day. It had completely slipped my mind. She started yelling and being very aggressive. It was only 5 minutes past the hour, so I said why don't you call so and so. She hanged up. I froze. Long story short, she insists that I am at fault for bringing out violence in her. WTF?? Apparently -this has never happened before- her child had to leave with the football teacher because he had to pick up his car from the mechanic's. Now, this mum is not the kind who worries about pedophiles -I am!-, so I just do not see why the anger. She even said to another mum that she wanted to have me killed.

She. Did. Not. Get. Violent.

You plainly don’t understand what the word “violence” means.

LatteLove thank you, language barrier then.

Stressedout10 why do I need to get a grip? not being cynical, just curious.

Violence
Noun
Behaviour involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.
As I said violence is physical and aggression can be both physical and or verbal

Stressedout10 thank you. they are both nasty though.

Haven't you heard of psychologica violence, economic violence?

I think it is a language barrier. I would most often here those referred to as types of abuse. I would describe your phone call as abusive not violent.

Obviously abusive phone calls and messages aren't ok the mother was wrong! But I think it's just a way of wording things.

@johnwinstonlennon
Your welcome
Yes they are both really quiet vile as are the people who use them

Getting violent in this context would mean she came up to you and physically attacked you. It is a criminal offence. This did not happen.
If English is not your first language why are you disputing with people for whom English is their first language what the word "violence " means?

@lattelove, sex offenders statistically prefer pre pubescent or pubescent children, so I don't see being, 12 ish means they're safe. In fact that's bang on age wise for the majority of child sex offenders (my relative is a prison psychologist).

bellinisurge because there are no good parenting forums in Spanish. At least I couldn't find any.

CSIblonde I agree.

That doesn't answer the question. I wouldn't argue the toss with Spanish speakers that embarazada means 'embarrassed' rather than 'pregnant ' because I am determined it must mean what I think it sounds like. I would be wrong.

@CSIblonde fair enough but what reason was there to believe the child was at risk of a sex offender at all? What I meant was 12 and 13 year old children are often out and about on their own, walking to friends’, school, shops etc it’s not “dangerous” to let them do this as a rule, unlike with a much younger child

I would have been furious if I were her but she's certainly been way OTT in her comments about wanting you killed.

What do you mean she's not the type to worry about pedophiles...?

I think op is getting a hard time here for some ridiculous things. Mocking or invalidating her fears after domestic violence is disgusting too. It's like how some people might be afraid to go out after being attacked, even though the likelihood of meeting the attacker again is very low. It's just what happens after these types of things sometimes. Lots of people will always feel on edge after, will always look over their shoulder and will make up scenarios of the person coming back again.
I think it's really bad that a couple of people have actually either laughed at her, said it's ridiculous or mocked her over it
It's so common for dv victims to worry about saying anything just in case a random stranger happens to know somebody who knows somebody the abuser knows, I've seen lots of people like that.

Op, of course it's bad that you forgot but it's happened now, all you can do is apologise, you can't build a time machine and make it not happen.
And if she is really making threats, just block and move on. Your mutual friend doesn't need to try and make the peace because I'm sure you don't want to be friends with somebody who threatens you anyway.

vasya I meant she does not worry about it, I see a potential paedophile almost in any men. and no, I haven't been sexually abused.

MrsNonsense you are a kind person, thank you for your words.

to the mean ones: no, I am not playing the victim. The subject of domestic abuse came up in order to make clear why I know a lot about violence/abuse. I wish more people knew without having to go through it. Many here apparently do not.

Haven't RTFT
But just wanted to say as a teacher- kids get forgotten a LOT. It's no biggie, couple of phone calls sort it out