I forgot to pick up dc's classmate from school

[johnwinstonlennon]

Once a week they play football after classes finish. On this particular day, I received a phone call from another mum inviting dc to a playover -after classes, they were skipping football. I said fine and kept on working at the office. I leave the office and, while grocery shopping, my mobile rings. It was another child's mum, I am supposed to take him home on football day. It had completely slipped my mind. She started yelling and being very aggressive. It was only 5 minutes past the hour, so I said why don't you call so and so. She hanged up. I froze. Long story short, she insists that I am at fault for bringing out violence in her. WTF?? Apparently -this has never happened before- her child had to leave with the football teacher because he had to pick up his car from the mechanic's. Now, this mum is not the kind who worries about pedophiles -I am!-, so I just do not see why the anger. She even said to another mum that she wanted to have me killed.

This post has taken a whole new spin on “batshit crayzeeeeeeeeee!!!”

wont tell us the country as x can’t read English but will know lol!!

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That's interesting FattyPeddledFuriously999

So johnwinstonlennon you admit to being a violent woman yourself?

Almost every day you're angry and shouty at the silliest and smallest of things?

To the point where you actually felt the need hit someone sitting opposite you and you don't even remember why?

I think you need help and you won't find it by frustrating yourself on the internet, typing in a different language.

I think this thread would have taken a whole other direction had the OP said, the boys are 12 and 13 and I of course I was in the wrong.

At 12 and 13 - unless there are transport service issues most kids are making their own way to school.

KC225 - absolutely agree :) except the OP didn't include that information!

Perhaps because ..

1. The kids weren't 12, but we're actually much younger as originally implied, but the OP is making them sound older so we r not so hard on her

And/or..

1. She didn't apologise a d didn't really care, but now feels she should say she did apologise

And/or

1. Both the above

Or

1. The OP is now being honest - the kids were 12/13, she did apologise, but she simply forgot to tell us all this in the original post. I guess it's likely she could have forgotten this as she does seem quite forgetful ...

I think the ages are irrelevant really because as a PP pointed out, it could be that the boys live rurally and there is no decent transport service.

Either way regardless of age, pick up was arranged between the two parents and only they know why.

I'd agree with Worra that the ages are irrelevant because the point is he was expecting to be picked up. You're then leaving a child to make the right decision of do I ask for help/assume my lift will be here soon/wait around/try and make my own way home. Now the chances are they will be fine, but there could be quite a long time of not knowing where they are and trying to locate them.

In some ways that age can be more at risk, because at that age the coach might say "have you got a lift?" "Oh yes, Mrs Op is picking me up." "I've got to dash, are you okay?"
Whereas there's no way a 6yo would be left on their own, at 12/13yo a lot of my dc's activities would assume that unless they asked for help they have a lift sorted or are making their own way back.

Sorry what violence?! I’m confused!

Honest mistake OP. I understand the other mum being upset but not to the point of yelling, and DEFINITELY NOT to the point of violence. I mean jesus, these kids are 12 and 13, not toddlers! A sincere apology should suffice. People are overreacting for sure!

There was no violence Hailey

And unless the OP is living in an episode of the Sopranos, I suspect she misunderstood the mother saying she wanted to have her killed.

Fgs mistakes happen, the child is fine, furious and wishing someone dead for a simple mistake is totally ott imo

johnwinstonlennon

To be fair I've only read this thread properly to about 75 posts. The rest I've scanned but have read your posts in detail.

Maybe it's due to stress but your use and understanding of English varies dramatically as the thread progresses.

And I'm another who would be really annoyed if you forgot to pick up my child and didn't even apologise.

I might well have said, "I could have killed her!".

sunflowers211 I bet you are lovely.

some mean stuff here! no, I didn't make up the ages, I just did not mention it in the original post, I do not know why.
I wish I could attach audio messages here -although they are in Spanish- so you could assess the level of violence in them. Apparently I cannot convey it well enough. Or many of you are comfortable or numb to violence. That is worrying.

worraliberty have you been to menopause? that post was about some symptoms I had for a few days, I was so worried that I posted here. They have subsided thank god.

bouncingraindrops of course I said sorry! I offered a gift to my dc's friend -that made the mum more furious. Yesterday she was all laughs about it. And of course I am paying for the taxi ride. I just posted here because I felt confused about the violence. I know, and made it VERY clear to the ones involved, that I screw up big time. But it was not intentional ffs.
this is a major city, and the school is in a good neighbourghood. People involved are upper class. Any more details?

Just to clarify what you are describing is aggression NOT violence
I'm going to assume that as English is not your 1st language that you are making a translation error.
This is causing a lot of confusion

maddening my thoughts exactly. And you didn't hear the tone! Once again: I was devastated and apologised! I did not react quick enough maybe because I was with the flu -head felt like it was full of air-.

Wtf have I just read?

belfield the audio about having someone kill me was sent to me by a third party but it was the original audio. Not fun.

Whaaaaaaaaaat? You and your friends go round recording people??? This is getting too weird for me now!!!

smellbowsmellbow123 I hope you never have to go through domestic violence. I you ever do, you wouldn't be so flippant about these type of fear.

Cool story bro

ItsLateImTired 1 2 and 3 omg you are very mean and think the worst of people! The only normal option is your last one? shouldn't be the other way round?

FireBloodAndIce I do have ptsd. your post is very thoughtful and you seem like a sensitive and sensible person, only very few here I can read. Yes, I have seen them and the older child -the one I forgot to pick up- once said it himself while we were in a car with a third mum driving.

ItsLateImTired what do you mean we go around recording people? it's whatsapp! why would you think such a twisted thing? the third mum became involved not out of gossip, but in order to make peace. she is a friend to both parties.