I forgot to pick up dc's classmate from school

[johnwinstonlennon]

Once a week they play football after classes finish. On this particular day, I received a phone call from another mum inviting dc to a playover -after classes, they were skipping football. I said fine and kept on working at the office. I leave the office and, while grocery shopping, my mobile rings. It was another child's mum, I am supposed to take him home on football day. It had completely slipped my mind. She started yelling and being very aggressive. It was only 5 minutes past the hour, so I said why don't you call so and so. She hanged up. I froze. Long story short, she insists that I am at fault for bringing out violence in her. WTF?? Apparently -this has never happened before- her child had to leave with the football teacher because he had to pick up his car from the mechanic's. Now, this mum is not the kind who worries about pedophiles -I am!-, so I just do not see why the anger. She even said to another mum that she wanted to have me killed.

Celebelly - I suspect the baiting for blood was related to OPs lack of understanding she's done anything wrong! and lack of apology ....

Great story bro

Yeah the lack of apology is weird but it sounds like the yelling started before that? Maybe not. I got the impression she called OP and was yelling from the get-go but perhaps not.

The whole thing is odd.

I think her attitude was wrong, you could have been in an emergency and her child wasn’t going to come to harm with a teacher. She also should have text you that morning to remind you, something I have and always would do for my own peace of mind that my child is definitely being picked up as her child is still her responsibility regardless. Don’t be hard on yourself some of these comments are harsh, people make mistakes and she sounds unhinged.

ItsLateImTired, I thought the OP was accusing the football coach but that makes no sense either really

I think the paedophiles thing is meant to tell us that the kid's mother isn't someone who generally thinks that someone is lurking round every corner to snatch her child or overly anxious about his safety in that way, so it's an unusually out of character reaction? I don't know.

I don't really understand how he was in danger in the first place if the football coach was there the whole time anyway. It sounds like the coach was the person most inconvenienced by the whole thing tbh. I'm on his side.

I don’t get it, who’s a potential pedophile? Does the football coach morph into one when the session finishes? Is it the mechanic? Why are they more likely to be one than you?

But yes, YABU

Oh pleassse you do not know why she is angry? Clearly are an idiot.

I would have been so angry at your flippant attitude. If you forget someone's child that you promised to pick up, you at the very least apologise. You don't just go 'oh, call so and so." WTH. I would have hung up on you as well.

Apologise to her. You were at fault. And tell her that the present arrangement will no longer work (if she hasn't come to that conclusion already).

I would be mortified if I forgot someone's child and grovelling forever, you don't even seem bothered 🤷‍♀️

CF

We only have the OP version of events. I guarantee OP made bits up to try muster sympathy. Lying and unreliable and you yourself are a parent?

Have the people who'd be angry at OP never forgotten anything or got their days mixed up?! Total non event and I wouldn't be having someone shout at me for it. The kid was fine. (Unless the football teacher who gave him a lift home actually is a paedophile. OP isn't clear on the point.)

I’d be furious with you. How irresponsible. You should apologise. And YABU for posting on AIBU. Because of course you’re bloody unreasonable - you’re in the wrong

chamenanged I suspect any parent would be angry due to worry but would calm down and accept the mistake, if the OP was suitably apologetic.

Now she may well have been but if she was, it's certainly not coming across in her opening post.

She even said to another mum that she wanted to have me killed.

You forgot her child. You changed arrangements and you left her child. If it were me, I could well have uttered phrases like 'I could kill her for what she did.'

When you suggested she just get her child to go home with somebody else, I could imaging my blood boiling to the point of me saying 'I wanted to kill her when she said that.'

Both references to killing are figures of speech, not expressions of intent. Are you sure that you're not trying to paint the child's Mum as a bit unhinged, just so your blatantly inappropriate response seems more normal?

You had an existing arrangement to collect her child after football. You completely forgot about her child. You only realised when she phoned to tell you, no doubt when another parent tipped her off. You weren't apologetic or remorseful. You scared the shit out of her. You don't get to dictate how she responds when you were so lacking in the ability to appreciate how much you fucked up.

You come across as a very shallow id**t.

When was pick up arranged?

I doubt she is going to organise a hit and have you killed. It was a flippant comment in a moment of anger.
How do you know something hasn't happened her in the past to cause this reaction, how do you know she is not the type to worry paedophiles or abduction? She obviously cares if she organised a lift for DS.
I doubt you were 5 minutes when she called.

How old is the DC.

I don't know people who make flippant comments in anger about having people killed.

Op, she’s panicked, gotten stressed out and gone a bit loopy. It’s understandable.

Apologise profusely and nip this in the bud.

@jennymanara You must live in a nice area. I've heard people threatening to kill others many times, not actually take them out, talking in anger.

Everyone is a bit jumpy aren’t they, I’m with Mittler the more DC I had the more one has a chance to get forgotten let alone anyone else’s!

It was a simple mistake, you were doing her a favour anyway. You should have apologised, she should get a grip.

And there was no danger a coach isn’t likely to just kick a kid out and go home.

I’m waiting on the update that the boys are 19