Man Walking Into The Toilet Whilst Child Using The Toilet

[TreeHuggerMom]

Hi,
I’m not sure if this post belongs in here but I just wanted to get other people’s opinions on a situation. Whilst at Soft Play today, my 8 year old son was using the toilet in a cubicle, the lock was broken so his older brother was next to the toilet guarding the door but you could see a child was inside using the toilet from the outside. A man walked in and went in front of my older son and pushed the door open and was looking down at my son’s private parts whilst he was going to the toilet, which lasted about 8 seconds. He then left and continued to wait out of the cubicle then my son left the toilet. Both my children came to me and told me that the man had been watching my son inside the cubicle whilst going to the toilet. I approached the guy who was quite hostile, whose mother then said “Don’t you start with us!”. I wasn’t hostile atall, I just stated calmly that my son said he entered the toilet whilst he was in there and watched him, he said he went into the toilet and was looking at the piss (his word) on the floor. I then said it didn’t give him the right to go into the toilet and invade his privacy because it made my son uncomfortable. He was again hostile and told me to go away. I then explained, as a parent, it is my duty to enquire because it clearly made my son very uncomfortable. Now I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable to question him, I feel if I hadn’t I would have been dismissing my son’s concerns. I would never do something like this myself and can’t see any reason why he needed to enter the toilet whilst my son was going to the toilet.

Thanks in advance!

OP you were right to be concerned, right to confront, right to report and right to believe your children. I hope it was innocent but it's certainly suspicious. Good luck getting a resolution.

Why would you stand outside with the door open? If her ds “needed help”, it could only be given by her actually stepping inside

How bloody rude of you, Fillipe

OP, I think you should keep this thread up. It can serve as a reminder and warning to normal parents, that there is a large number of perve apologists around, on here and in rl.

You did the right thing at the playcentre and also in reporting to the police.

Fillipe, the OP has not said she's reported anything to the police.

In fact she said (of the soft play centre) They will have CCTV footage, so if they feel it’s worth talking to the police then I will have something to go by.

When it was pointed out that as the child's parent it was her responsibility to report, if she felt a crime had been committed, she disagreed.

So unless the OP has changed her mind, she hasn't reported the incident.

09.51 it's being dealt with as we speak
I assumed that meant OP had reported to the police. Have you not done that OP?

Headintheiclouds
How is it "bloody rude" of me to show that Soontobe60 was exaggerating lying?

I totally disagree that the poster couldn't help ds from outside an open door. Have you never helped young children by advising rather than doing everything for them?
That's how they learn isn't it?

Unless of course...... you agree with Soon's shit stirring posts?

I was referring to your post addressed to TeddyBear

Nope, not rude at all. No apology whatsoever to Teddy. She blatantly called a 13 year old a liar when he was reporting a possible child sexual predator. Good on the 13 year old.

Bad on Teddy and anyone who supports disbelieving children.

Well I’m sure Teddy will survive without your apology, but asking her to reassure “normal” parents that she doesn’t have children is a dickish thing to say.

Own it.

You're missing the point HeadintheiClouds. It was meant to be dickish, I do own it.
I'll be dickish to anyone who calls a child a liar when he's reporting a possible child predator.

Beginning to wonder why you're supporting Teddy?

The soft play place will not want bad publicity so depending on who makes the decision, they may well not want to take it to the police.

I would go to the police yourself. It doesn't sound right at all. The man may be known to them for doing things to children. It isn't worth the risk not to. They will know how to handle it. I hope you have reported it to them.

This thread is appalling.
I hope your boys are okay, OP. They did exactly the right thing telling you and I hope you've been able to report this to the police.

To all the people calling bullshit on the poster with the toilet/urinal in one cubicle, the cafe down the road from me has exactly this set up. I know because its a one person toilet and I've used it when the ladies has been busy. Just because you've not seen it doesn't mean it's lies.

This thread is appalling
Agreed.
Brave boys and brave mum
But please report to police.