To be upset by this comment

[Justanotherusernamemydear]

Sat at work the joy of shift work and a male colleague of mine was making idle chit chat, and asked me my height. I said 5”6 why??
His reply? - “the average female is like, 5”4 isn’t it? So you’re a proper giant. When I look at you I’m shocked at how tall you are, you’re like a giant”. he’s 5”10 and obviously taller than me, I don’t fully understand why he’s decided to say that to me? He’s normally really nice, and I suspect that he has a little crush (would never go anywhere as I’m in a long term relationship and don’t see him like that). He’s a 29 year old man, is this normal?
It’s actually really upset me. I’ve laughed it off and gone a bit quiet, but it’s really played on my insecurities. I’ve always felt really tall, even DP has asked me not to wear heels as it makes him feel short, so I don’t wear heels anymore...
AIBU to be upset at this comment? Am I a “giant”? it’s made me feel like a great big lumbering oaf, and made me feel shit about myself.

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I wish I was 5.6. I am asian and 5.2 . I am normal height or even a bit good height from asian standards but really short from western standards. I hate standing under people's armpits in tube and don't even get me started on the handles on buses and trains which are so high up I feel like I am being punished trying to reach them on tippie toes. I have to get help if I need to get something from the top shelf. my DH calls me height disadvantaged (jokingly! obvs). Point is that you are lucky and tbh not that tall considering western women.

So your DP doesn't let you wear high heels on your size 6 'clown feet' OP.

You need to go and buy yourself a gorgeous pair of fuck off high heels and use them to walk away from this very insecure bossy little man.

Either that or give him a good kick up the arse with them.

and btw I have size 6 feet. I must be a hobbit!

I thought 5'6 was average 😂. I'm 5'6!!! Most of my friends are exactly same height or way taller!

He probably didn't mean it and trying to have 'banter' with you which has back fired. Ignore it, he probably didn't mean it

Whenever someone comments on an insecurity you always take it to heart, don’t you?

Only if you let it (and I mean that kindly). This reflects on him being weird, not on you and your perfectly-within-the-normal-range of-the-bell-curve height.

Also your DP is an idiot for saying size 6 is clown feet size. Again, average.

Work on being Teflon where these stupid comments are concerned and give them as much attention as they deserve: none.

OP i would say you re average these days. I m 5 foot 7 with size 7 feet and used to think i was tall ( got lots of remarks as i do have quite long legs) but now i only feel like a clodhopper next to my 5 foot nothing dm and her friends.
My ds is 6 foot 3 and says i m little!
Your colleague is a bit rude and weird imo. Its not like you could help it if you really were very tall/short or whatever.

I think you need to kick some of the short-arsed men in your life into touch. Start with your DP: wear what you like, he can get over himself. Your colleague sounds a bit socially inept, I’d make a comment about him in a very pointed way. You are just over the average. I’m 5’ 7” and would be very happy to be taller. These commenters have the problem, not you.

Size 6 feet are not clown feet! I'm a size 9

If it's any consolation OP, a colleague of mine said to me today "I could have sworn you were taller". I'm also 5'6, said colleague is just about 5'10 if they stand up straight 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m 5ft 6 and I’ve always felt just a smidge taller than average, which is just fine.

Yep I agree he’s trying to snag your attention, very clumsily!

How bizarre your colleague is! You are, I would say, a perfectly normal, average height - I am a chap, 5'11", my partner ( female) is 6', my stepdaughter (13) is 5'10", my employer ( female) is 6'. I cannot say that I would regard any of them as 'giants' even, just perfectly normal, proportionate women.

Please don't give it another thought - not worth excercising your brain cells over!

Oh and wear what shoes you want! Life s too short to shuffle about apologetically in flats coz your dp is insecure

I would say your normal height with normal sized feet based on the majority of females I know. In my friendship group I’m the short one with little feet (5ft 2, shoe size 4) with the rest of them been around 5.5 to 5.8 with feet from 5s to 7s.

You need to rethink your DP. A DP should build your confidence and make you feel amazing, not pick on your insecurities and make throwaway comments like your colleagues cause you this much upset. (Using the term throwaway as it doesn’t sound like it was said maliciously.)

Just another perspective, could colleague be making a bad attempt at sarcastic humour? I know he mentioned 5.4 been average so was it more like a god your a giant then sarcastic/trying to be funny comment rather than him actually thinking you are super tall?

6ft1 in my bare feet. he would think i'm like wun wun's taller sister....
what a weirdo!

What is so wrong with a woman being tall anyway? Why should it be a negative attribute? Very puzzled!

Small man syndrome

I’m 5ft 6, and my DP is very tall at 6ft 5. He frequently teases me about being “freakishly short”. (It’s an in-joke, not in any way abusive or controlling.)

Your colleague is a giant dick.

Ignore him. Either 1) he's one of those type who "neg" you, in an effort to try to make you feel like you have to win their approval - either because they fancy you & are too lazy to do the chasing, or because their self esteem relies on other people propping it up. Or 2) he's really, really crap at small talk / jokes, & this was an attempt that fell very badly wide of the mark.
Either way, he sounds like rather a knob.

If it's any consolation, I'm just under 5'3". In winter, the bottom 4 inches of all my trousers get soggy & muddy because just about everything is slightly too long on me, unless I faff about taking up the hems. 5'6" seems a much more convenient height. And don't get me started on the difficulty of buying adult shoes in a size three. No I do not want a bloody toy in the sodding heel!

It sounds more awkward than purposely offensive?

I'm 4'11" with size 1 feet :|
Can only buy kids shoes 😬

That's not giant and he sounds like a bumbling idiot trying to be funny and failing because it comes across as mean. Sounds like you're insecure about your height anyways. Just know plenty of shorter women would LOVE to have a few extra inches in height (myself especially). Probably a grass is greener scenario. However it should be mentioned that supermodels are tall....

Your colleague sounds like a bit of a dick but so does your partner.

I'm not suprised you have insecurities when the person who is supposed to love you is being a twat in telling you to consider his feelings about what you wear.

Your dp feels short if you wear heels? And why does he think being shorter than you is a no no? Does he think his penis is gonna fall off or something? All he has done is take his own insecurities about not being the tallest and put them on to you by making dickhead requests in your footwear and size of your feet.

Why does feeling shorter than you make him so uncomfortable that he asks you not to wear heels?

Genuinely OP, in the nicest possible way, you’re not even that tall? I’m 5’3” and most of my TALL friends are six foot in heels. You’re a completely average size. I find it amazing enough people have commented on this to give you a complex. Colleague was a total dick but I’m amazed your DP has ever mentioned it. Do you live in Lilliput?!