To be upset by this comment

[Justanotherusernamemydear]

Sat at work the joy of shift work and a male colleague of mine was making idle chit chat, and asked me my height. I said 5”6 why??
His reply? - “the average female is like, 5”4 isn’t it? So you’re a proper giant. When I look at you I’m shocked at how tall you are, you’re like a giant”. he’s 5”10 and obviously taller than me, I don’t fully understand why he’s decided to say that to me? He’s normally really nice, and I suspect that he has a little crush (would never go anywhere as I’m in a long term relationship and don’t see him like that). He’s a 29 year old man, is this normal?
It’s actually really upset me. I’ve laughed it off and gone a bit quiet, but it’s really played on my insecurities. I’ve always felt really tall, even DP has asked me not to wear heels as it makes him feel short, so I don’t wear heels anymore...
AIBU to be upset at this comment? Am I a “giant”? it’s made me feel like a great big lumbering oaf, and made me feel shit about myself.

5, 6 is tall now?? where do you live, the Maldives?
I'm 5,4 and I get called a short arse all day long. my best friend is 6 foot 1, that what you call tall!

Inarticulate compliment from man who knows he is standing no chance...but doing some very clumsy flirting anyway. Personally, I would have replied 'Size isn't everything, shrek" and rolled my eyes. Don't take the 'giant' comment as an insult, you are average height for a woman. He is just telling you that you are a 'big' influence in his life...

I don’t even wear long length jeans, they’re all regular!
I know it sounds silly and like I’m being a drama queen, but the way he said it made me feel like it was an awful thing to be taller than 5’4. Whenever someone comments on an insecurity you always take it to heart, don’t you?

I'm 6'2 and wear heels. Your colleague is a prize prat. Probably with a very small penis.

I'm 5ft nothing and shrinking with each passing year (not joking at all, my bones seem to be grinding away into dust due to my health condition!)
I wish I had a little extra height to me.

5ft 6 is a perfectly normal height. Don't let him and his small man syndrome tendency use you as a tool to reaffirm his 'manliness' - just because he's a short arse.

Also, you mention a crush. It could be that he's deflecting that by using your height as an insult, not right at all, but if that's all he can find to pick on; then you must be pretty perfect all round.
Don't allow him to make you feel like shit:

Id purposely wear heels to the next shift you share (if you can) and he does it again just pat his head in a patronising manner.
Or say; 'Do you know what I call men 5ft 11 and under? Friends.

You aren’t tall though so just ignore?

Like pp I am 5’9 & have always worn heels so usually around 6’. I feel really short when I’m wearing flats!

I’ve never had any negative remarks about my height and while I know I’m tall I don’t think I am abnormally tall (except when I try & buy trousers).

If this is a genuine insecurity for you, at 5’6 rest assured it’s unfounded. And it’s very unusual that people have mentioned it in the past - did you grow fast so stood out as “tall” amongst your peers in youth and it’s still a hang-up (even though presumably everyone else caught up)?

I think making any comments at all on a person's appearance is incredibly rude, and I have no problem telling people so!

I’m still amazed your height has drawn comments over the years, and you’ve become super sensitive about it. I’m a bit taller than you, and have never had cause to give it a 2nd thought.

It’s just never come up.

I think you might be right that you’ve landed a group of friends/family/colleagues that are extra short and have complexes about it. Come live in my community, and bask in your average-ness, if you like.

Also maybe he picked the word giant because your clearly not. A boy at school used to tease me about my skin. However I had nice skin so I didn’t feel bad. I would have if he teased me about my skinny legs or hairy arms!

@Justanotherusernamemydear again, you DP - he’s given you a complex OP - why’s he telling you what to wear on your own feet?

*your

I think you should be asking yourself why you're letting this get to you. You're not particularly tall, and even if you were that's not a negative thing. Why are you letting some random bloke upset you - is he suggesting you don't fit his arbitrary idea of femininity? Is that not entirely his problem?

As @VenusTiger has said to. Your 'D'P has his part to play here too.
He is feeding your insecurity by not 'allowing' you to wear heels.

Wear them! If he moans say 'Why are you trying to control what I put on my feet? That's not normal.'

Again, just a man trying to reaffirm his manliness by monopolising height. If that's all they've got then it's pretty embarrassing for them.
Imagine waking up in the morning and thinking 'I hope my partner doesn't wear heels today, they make her taller than me and I don't look manly enough anymore.' Pathetic.

You could always offer him a pair of heels if he's feeling uncomfortable. Or get him some blocks Simon Cowell style.

*too

Just to clarify, even if a woman is 6’5 she’s lovely. I’m in no way bashing anyone that’s tall. It’s more a case of someone commenting on your appearance in a rude way and thinking that it’s acceptable. I try and live by the 5 minute rule; If it can be fixed in 5 minutes then it’s ok to say something (like a shoelace being untied), otherwise keep your mouth shut and don’t be a massive arsehole. Clearly he doesn’t

If you are very slim, have a short body with long legs then you could possibly look taller than you actually are especially if you wear heels, is that why everyone thinks you are so tall when actually you are only a little above average?

He's being a Twit!!!!
Just a stupid nasty comment is all try not to let it get you down

It possibly has been intensified by DP, you’re right. He (DP) also likes to state that I have clown feet, they’re a size 6? Which is also an insecurity too. Who needs enemies when you have a DP like mine!

unless next to tiny wee old ladies.

I used to be slim with long legs, but after DD I look like more like a misshapen potato

Maybe your opposite somewhere is 5'6" and the shortest of all her female friends and family, and made to feel embarrassingly short!

WTH?! Do you live in the Shires? You're height isn't actually that tall. I can't believe this has been a sore point your whole life?

Instead of feeling upset by your idiot colleague's remarks, why not find your anger? It's so rude to comment like that about someone, more so when it's ^not even accurate.
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He's not exactly tall either so perhaps he's projecting his own securities but anyway just tell him to GTF.

You’re overthinking this completely. I’m 5 ft 4 and people have made comments about me being small. Sometimes as banter , sometimes as a straightforward comment. And I am small ( would love to be a couple of inches taller ) Didn’t ever see it as an insult or even give it a second thought.
I agree with others - it’s clumsy flirting .

@Justanotherusernamemydear well there you have it... I don’t think your colleagues comment would have bothered you in the slightest if you didn’t have a partner who puts your height and feet size down!
Tell him you wished he had a bigger dick!

In my early twenties, I dated two men who both made comments about my small chest!! It played on my mind for years until one day, I thought, no fuck you! It’s my body - go date someone with big boobs not try and change me!
My DH could tell I had a thing about them and tells me I’m beautiful all the time. You don’t need your life partner making you feel like crap OP. I’m so angry for you.