Need someones help..... bit personal

[Sjoe456]

So it's a long story.. ok bare with me.

Basically when I was single I slept with a guy on the 25th of may, a one night thing, I took the morning after pill 12 hours after it. So then on the 1st of june I woke up one morning and stood up and felt like a gush and it was dark red. I went and wiped and it was like dark red/pink for the first wipe then after that it was red/dark brown, I'm really sorry for the TMI but I even stood up from toilet and looked on floor and there was red droplets.. then I had to use tampons for 3 days so that was my last bleed and it was a dark brown dark red when using tampons. My period wasnt due until the 12th of june but I read online that the morning after pill can make it come early and even lighter. So.. on the 3rd of june then I got back together with my ex boyfriend (never thought would happen) and we blew caution to the wind and had unprotected sex about 10 times in the space of 4 days from the 3rd-7th of june then it was once everyday from the 7th. The only 2 days we didnt have sex later on was the 16th and 17th of June. So just to be on the safe side that I wasnt pregnant from the 25th of may guy I done clear blue preg tests on the 10th,14th and 18th of June and the one I done on the 18th of June was the weeks indicator and they all came back Negative.. so the very last test I done on the 18th of June would of been 3 weeks and 4 days after I slept with the one night guy. So also around the 14th of june I could of swore I was starting my period as I got little twinges in my ovaries and then around the 23rd of june I got sore boobs.. so then on the 26th of June I done a clear blue pregnancy test and i got my positive and it said pregnant 2-3 weeks.. then a few days later on the 29th of june I done another and it also said 2-3 weeks pregnant. Then on the 3rd of July I done another and it just changed to 3+. On that same day I went and cried to my doctor cause i wasnt sure how far along so i got an early scan and went and she tried to scan my belly and nothing.. then an internal was done and there was just a little sac.. and she said sorry i cant tell u an age (she tried to measure it) and she said come back in 2 weeks so I went on the 16th of july and she measured it and there was a heart beat on screen and she said you are 6 weeks and 1 day.. gestational age?? And it was tiny the baby was only like 0.33cm is she going from last period or is that how old the baby is from conception that confuses me alot.. but basically I want someone to help me as this is stressing me out so much .. when I went to my doctor and told her everything she said I would of got a positive on either the 14th of 18th for definite. And also if it was the one night guy the baby would of been bigger on the scan on the 3rd. Thank u to anyone who took the time to read this x

OP, no judgment from me. Unfortunately the AIBU boards are not the best place for these sort of posts – as a pp said, posting in Relationships would get a better response.

The way I read it is you came out of a long (2 yr) relationship and while single, you had a drunken unprotected ONS on holiday. Doing the responsible thing you took the MAP. Shortly after this you got back together with your bf and then after that found you were pregnant. Haven’t a clue on working out timings but from what your Dr (as well as others on here) says, it seems your bf might most likely be the dad – of course DNA testing will help confirm this.

There’s a bit of misinformation from other posters on here re HIV testing. Re the HIV test you took at the GUM clinic – if you gave a blood sample from your arm this would be a 4th generation test analysed in a laboratory. It would, as well as detecting HIV antibodies, also detect the P24 antigen (part of the virus itself) that shows up in blood sooner than the antibodies – from about 2 weeks post exposure. Tests generally detect 95% of all HIV infections at 28 days and are conclusive at 3 months. These tests take about 1 week to get the results back.
It doesn’t not take any longer than 3 months for HIV infection to show up in any modern tests.
i-base.info/guides/testing/what-is-the-window-period

It’s great you have been totally honest with your bf and with your Dr, and you also got yourselves tested (being responsible again!) Perhaps also consider that if your bf had any unprotected sex while you were both single that he get conclusively tested for any STIs post any last exposure, taking into account window periods. Just to be on the safe side – he should explain he has a pregnant fiancée!

For yourself – you ask if STI testing is done while pregnant. Despite what other posters have written (and perhaps they don’t live in the UK) yes – you should be offered these tests – HIV, hepatitis B and syphilis. I strongly suggest you consent to these in August as this should take care of any window periods for HIV and syphilis
www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/antenatal-care-checks-tests/

…..These tests are not however compulsory (I wish they were, considering there’s about 8,000 people living unknowingly with HIV in the UK). Suffice to say, if a woman has unprotected sex with a man who has not been tested for STIS and has had other past sexual partners, there is always a risk, whoever they are.

Whether the pregnancy was intentional or not, and the fact you fell pregnant so fast, you and your bf have decided to make a go of things. You have a house together, you are now engaged and are happy. Your bf has taken another job with better pay and you are working more hours. You also have a loving family who will support you. It sounds like, other than the “blip”, you are off to an excellent start and as with any relationship, it’s up to the two of you to make it work. Wishing you all the best OP.

Oh - and don’t diss the ginger nuts/ginger ale, they can be very helpful

Crikey, you sound about 12, not 24. Why are you having unprotected sex at an age where you should be more informed? What a mess.

Answering your question, it sounds like the more recent partner.