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Need someones help..... bit personal

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Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 11:27

So it's a long story.. ok bare with me.

Basically when I was single I slept with a guy on the 25th of may, a one night thing, I took the morning after pill 12 hours after it. So then on the 1st of june I woke up one morning and stood up and felt like a gush and it was dark red. I went and wiped and it was like dark red/pink for the first wipe then after that it was red/dark brown, I'm really sorry for the TMI but I even stood up from toilet and looked on floor and there was red droplets.. then I had to use tampons for 3 days so that was my last bleed and it was a dark brown dark red when using tampons. My period wasnt due until the 12th of june but I read online that the morning after pill can make it come early and even lighter. So.. on the 3rd of june then I got back together with my ex boyfriend (never thought would happen) and we blew caution to the wind and had unprotected sex about 10 times in the space of 4 days from the 3rd-7th of june then it was once everyday from the 7th. The only 2 days we didnt have sex later on was the 16th and 17th of June. So just to be on the safe side that I wasnt pregnant from the 25th of may guy I done clear blue preg tests on the 10th,14th and 18th of June and the one I done on the 18th of June was the weeks indicator and they all came back Negative.. so the very last test I done on the 18th of June would of been 3 weeks and 4 days after I slept with the one night guy. So also around the 14th of june I could of swore I was starting my period as I got little twinges in my ovaries and then around the 23rd of june I got sore boobs.. so then on the 26th of June I done a clear blue pregnancy test and i got my positive and it said pregnant 2-3 weeks.. then a few days later on the 29th of june I done another and it also said 2-3 weeks pregnant. Then on the 3rd of July I done another and it just changed to 3+. On that same day I went and cried to my doctor cause i wasnt sure how far along so i got an early scan and went and she tried to scan my belly and nothing.. then an internal was done and there was just a little sac.. and she said sorry i cant tell u an age (she tried to measure it) and she said come back in 2 weeks so I went on the 16th of july and she measured it and there was a heart beat on screen and she said you are 6 weeks and 1 day.. gestational age?? And it was tiny the baby was only like 0.33cm is she going from last period or is that how old the baby is from conception that confuses me alot.. but basically I want someone to help me as this is stressing me out so much .. when I went to my doctor and told her everything she said I would of got a positive on either the 14th of 18th for definite. And also if it was the one night guy the baby would of been bigger on the scan on the 3rd. Thank u to anyone who took the time to read this x

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1forAll74 · 30/07/2019 16:19

Good luck with your pregnancy, and glad you and partner are happy.
Just maybe not post anything on here again regarding wanting advice with problems. All the judging and harshness is not what you want to hear is it. Some people have mindsets that need adjusting big time.

plasterboots · 30/07/2019 16:19

Have I missed anything?

Yes the ginger ale and the ex boyfriend at the time flying to where she was on holiday because she was having a "bad time" aww!

GimmieTheCoffeeAndNooneDies · 30/07/2019 16:20

To be fair, I think it was over two months.

Scorpiovenus · 30/07/2019 16:21

LOL OMG now that's a mess.

Just do yourself a favour dude, get on the coil and stop with this madness of pregnancy. You must have a stack of them at home and a bit weird tbh. Ive slept with probably double if not triple you have on a bad year and never had to touch one in my life??? LOL

Lindormilk · 30/07/2019 16:21

Jeez all very Jeremy Kyle!

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 30/07/2019 16:21

This thread just keeps on giving

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 30/07/2019 16:22

I did wonder what would happen when they axed Jeremy Kyle......

JinglingHellsBells · 30/07/2019 16:23

@sjoe456 Just for the record....

you are still single.

Unless you have got married and haven't told us.

You might have a boyfriend back but you are still legally single.

Is this house rented or have you made a joint commitment to a mortgage? I hope it's in both your names whichever, or you will be in deep do dah if you split and it's just all in his name.

You need to wake up to how life will be financially if you do split up again and you are relying on him for a house.

UnicornCat · 30/07/2019 16:25

@scorpiovenus

Are you actually telling her to get an abortion?!

I have no words.

Geminijes · 30/07/2019 16:25

@NoBaggyPants

Have I missed anything?

You forgot the ginger ale Grin

Rainonmyguitar · 30/07/2019 16:26

Just do yourself a favour dude, get on the coil and stop with this madness of pregnancy. You must have a stack of them at home and a bit weird tbh. Ive slept with probably double if not triple you have on a bad year and never had to touch one in my life??? LOL

A stack of what? Coils? And what have you never touched?

ItsAllGoingToBeMagnificent · 30/07/2019 16:27

NoBaggyPants thanks for the recap, it's hard to keep up as the plot unfolds.

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 30/07/2019 16:27

making the best of a bad situation?

A situation of your making! You decided to have a ONS then ttc with your ex ...

anon812 · 30/07/2019 16:29

It's your boyfriends baby

Do you want a baby?

Lemonlady22 · 30/07/2019 16:31

all sounds unhinged to me!

Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 16:32

People are being dicks.. the main thing is were happy and we BOTH wanted a baby.. yes it was to quick but the baby will be in good hands and it will be so loved and we are a team. No one knows if there going to break up with someone.. someone could be married 10 years and have 3 children and break up.. other couples could concieve straight away and last forever. You just DONT know but what I do know is we will try very hard and the baby will have a good life.

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 30/07/2019 16:34

I suppose you need to look on the bright side
The last thread like this that I recall the poor unfortunate op had a one night stand with a chap who was, if I recall correctly, black so the poor thing had the added worry that the baby might look somewhat different shall we say to her current partner
I'll see if I can find the thread as I'm sure there'll be lots of helpful advice there for you op. Though obviously yours isn't such a dramatic situation

BIWI · 30/07/2019 16:36

What is the AIBU question here?

plasterboots · 30/07/2019 16:36

People are being dicks.

Yes you two for starters, for God's sake this is a child a huge commitment and you two have form for breaking up "over something silly", then conceiving a child immediately.

Sounds really stable..... it wasn't an accident either it was a life choice.

Accidents do happen but this isn't one of them.

Your relationship sounds unstable at best, not a good place to bring a child into.

ShawshanksRedemption · 30/07/2019 16:36

@Sjoe456 AIBU is where people come for a discussion, which can get very heated. If you need support in the future, best head over to the Relationships board.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships

Also: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy

anon812 · 30/07/2019 16:37

If you do want a baby then congrats!

Sounds obvious but I would stop drinking/smoking now (you would be surprised how many people don't) and get a folic acid supplement. You should take the folic acid for at least the first 3 months to avoid him/her having neural tube defects. Also get a good pregnancy vitamin, I'm 19 weeks and take pregnacare.

Don't worry about the marriage thing just make sure you're financially secure. Personally, I'm engaged but we won't get married till next year (need to lose the baby weight lol) and the baby is due in December. Main reason we left it so long is that I don't believe in marriage (if we are going to break up ultimately, we still will whether we are married or not) but it's important to my DP so happy to :)

ThatssomebadhatHarry · 30/07/2019 16:39

Have I missed anything?

Also got engaged!

anon812 · 30/07/2019 16:39

@hobnobsaremyfave this is a true story my friends sister-

White devout Christian couple from small village with black priest in village church get married (presumably as virgins). 9 months to the day the wife gives birth except the baby is black. It was the priest's baby. They were having an affair whilst planning her wedding to white Christian guy. Needless to say they are no longer together.

anon812 · 30/07/2019 16:40

@ThatssomebadhatHarry congratulations 💍

plasterboots · 30/07/2019 16:42

What is the AIBU question here?

I think it's AIBU to ask if the one night stand could be the father of the baby.

The OP had a ONS , then few weeks later got back with her ex, couldn't even wait one month to be sure that the MAP had worked, just decided to try for a baby straight away, because she didn't think it would happen so quickly lol.

So now pregnant and not sure if now fiancé is the father.

All OP had to do was not start trying for a baby for one month.....,