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Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 11:27

So it's a long story.. ok bare with me.

Basically when I was single I slept with a guy on the 25th of may, a one night thing, I took the morning after pill 12 hours after it. So then on the 1st of june I woke up one morning and stood up and felt like a gush and it was dark red. I went and wiped and it was like dark red/pink for the first wipe then after that it was red/dark brown, I'm really sorry for the TMI but I even stood up from toilet and looked on floor and there was red droplets.. then I had to use tampons for 3 days so that was my last bleed and it was a dark brown dark red when using tampons. My period wasnt due until the 12th of june but I read online that the morning after pill can make it come early and even lighter. So.. on the 3rd of june then I got back together with my ex boyfriend (never thought would happen) and we blew caution to the wind and had unprotected sex about 10 times in the space of 4 days from the 3rd-7th of june then it was once everyday from the 7th. The only 2 days we didnt have sex later on was the 16th and 17th of June. So just to be on the safe side that I wasnt pregnant from the 25th of may guy I done clear blue preg tests on the 10th,14th and 18th of June and the one I done on the 18th of June was the weeks indicator and they all came back Negative.. so the very last test I done on the 18th of June would of been 3 weeks and 4 days after I slept with the one night guy. So also around the 14th of june I could of swore I was starting my period as I got little twinges in my ovaries and then around the 23rd of june I got sore boobs.. so then on the 26th of June I done a clear blue pregnancy test and i got my positive and it said pregnant 2-3 weeks.. then a few days later on the 29th of june I done another and it also said 2-3 weeks pregnant. Then on the 3rd of July I done another and it just changed to 3+. On that same day I went and cried to my doctor cause i wasnt sure how far along so i got an early scan and went and she tried to scan my belly and nothing.. then an internal was done and there was just a little sac.. and she said sorry i cant tell u an age (she tried to measure it) and she said come back in 2 weeks so I went on the 16th of july and she measured it and there was a heart beat on screen and she said you are 6 weeks and 1 day.. gestational age?? And it was tiny the baby was only like 0.33cm is she going from last period or is that how old the baby is from conception that confuses me alot.. but basically I want someone to help me as this is stressing me out so much .. when I went to my doctor and told her everything she said I would of got a positive on either the 14th of 18th for definite. And also if it was the one night guy the baby would of been bigger on the scan on the 3rd. Thank u to anyone who took the time to read this x

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PinkyPrincessy · 30/07/2019 14:06

Wow, he’s got you some ginger nuts and ginger ale so I think this relationship where you conceived a baby within days of getting back together, not knowing if he’s the actual father is definitely built to last.

Geminijes · 30/07/2019 14:10

Op, you sound so immature in your attitude towards sex, pregnancy and future motherhood.

I feel sorry for your baby. Maybe you can both grow up together.

Emmapeeler · 30/07/2019 14:20

I also don’t think the OP’s experiences are out of the ordinary. She is pregnant now, wants to continue and is trying to be positive. There but for the grace of god go a lot of people!

Pinkout · 30/07/2019 14:22

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MatildaTheCat · 30/07/2019 14:22

lso don’t think the OP’s experiences are out of the ordinary. She is pregnant now, wants to continue and is trying to be positive. There but for the grace of god go a lot of people!

Maybe ordinary on Eastenders.

buttertoasty · 30/07/2019 14:25

I hope you and your bf have tested for STIs

Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 14:25

God some people on here cant take a joke!! I was clearly joking about the ginger nuts and ginger ale.. I'm tryna make a bit of light out of a bad situation jesus christ 😂😂 yeah I did get as angry with my friend.. shes cut out of my life now . I dont get why people are judging me.. at the end of the day yeah we concieved quickly but were happy and were engaged and we were together nearly 2 years before, moved into a new house and it's going perfect. So dont know why people are judging my relationship. Yeah I made a mistake when I was single, doesnt make me a bad person

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Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 14:26

We have both got tested for stis also both all clear

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CatInADoghouse · 30/07/2019 14:27

It does sound like it's your bfs baby with those dates. For your own sanity now please stop replying to people on this thread. People can be harsh and judgemental when sat at a keyboard. I think you have made it clear that you realise unprotected sex with the ONS was more than a silly thing to do but we all make mistakes. Just please learn from this. You were lucky to be in the clear. I hope you have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby at the end of it because that's all that matters now, is your baby. Pregnancy can be tough and so can motherhood! I hope you're ready!

Lovemusic33 · 30/07/2019 14:27

What you experienced after the morning after pill was exactly what I experienced when I took it at Christmas, it totally messed up my periods and made then very heavy and irregular. I would say that there’s no way the baby could be from the guy you had a ONS with, the baby is your partners.

I would be me worried about wether you planned to get pregnant to get back with your ex? Sounds like you knew what you were doing but then again he should have been more careful if he didn’t want to get you pregnant.

It sounds like a scene from Jeremy Kyle 🤨

omafiet · 30/07/2019 14:28

when I have had HIV screening it has come back much quicker than 3 months so don't know where this information is from

The issue isn't the speed with which the test results come back; it's that the HIV can take months to show up after youve been exposed. If you are infected on January 1 and get tested on January 10 it'll likely show negative. But if you go back on April 1, it may be positive.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/07/2019 14:30

I fell pregnant in the first two months of a new relationship. Sometimes it happens. My DD is now 5 and I’m married to her dad.

Has OP made sensible decisions? No. But I really hope it all works out for you and your baby. Some couples are together before children and still break up.

Noseynails · 30/07/2019 14:32

You need to sit with a pen and paper, write down the dates and use a calculator to see if the dates match up, and then ask the GP to confirm it.

buttertoasty · 30/07/2019 14:32

I dont get why people are judging m

Because your life sounds like a complete mess and you are bringing a baby into it. You broke up over "something stupid" so let's see how well you cope with a newborn baby dependent on the pair of you.

I hope that either this thread is a joke or you do some serious growing up over the next 9 months.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 30/07/2019 14:33

some couples are together a long time before children

Really need to proofread.

Thefifthmovement · 30/07/2019 14:34

Good luck to you both. Just a thought, (not read all posts) does your BF know about the one night stand and is the one night stand guy likely to be questioning you, making things awkward when he knows about due dates etc..?

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Thefifthmovement · 30/07/2019 14:37

I hope that either this thread is a joke or you do some serious growing up over the next 9 months.
Surely this can't be a joke the way all those bloody dates have been worked out ! Grin

Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 14:37

Thanks but my life isnt a mess. I'm really happy. Just wanted other people's opinions. I'm engaged, in my own house, work full time and took on extra hours for the future baby. I have a loving family who will support me, who are very good to me, so people who are saying my life is a mess no my life is good. I made one silly mistake on 25th of may wile I was drunk and took the morning after pill 12 hours after, me and my now boyfriend have got on the best we have ever got on .

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midsummabreak · 30/07/2019 14:38

Congratulations on your pregnancy and best wishes for a healthy and happy pregnancy for your little one

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 30/07/2019 14:41

Blimey this one reads either like a novel or the poster who posts over and over again with various "who's the father of my baby" scenarios
If those threads haven't been deleted op maybe you could have a read, sure there'll be tonnes of good advice there

CatInADoghouse · 30/07/2019 14:46

Just to clarify about HIV testing. It all depends on the type of test used. When OP has said they have told her she is clear then this can be true. If the test is for HIV RNA then it doesn't need to be 3 months after possible exposure to be classed as negative.

JustDanceAddict · 30/07/2019 14:51

They test for hIV at 12 weeks, or they used to.
I assume you were actively Tx with your ex-boyfriend as why would you have had so much unprotected sex?

JustDanceAddict · 30/07/2019 14:52

*ttc

Sjoe456 · 30/07/2019 15:01

@justdanceaddict yeah we did say because we did want a baby. We were going to try before that when we were together. And were stronger than ever now

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