To think you shouldn’t announce non-whole-class parties to the whole class?

[ChunkyMonkey4321]

I’m in a Facebook group for my daughter’s school class and a mum has just posted ‘DD is having a small party with friends she has chosen and I still need to hear back from the following...’ From that list and who I know they are friends with, I realised my daughter was the only girl not invited. If it hadn’t been announced I wouldn’t have known or cared. DD has some special needs but no formal diagnosis as of yet so I know I’m very sensitive! Of course you can’t invite everyone and I’ve never done whole class parties but am I the only one who thinks it’s a bit out of order announcing it to everyone?

That is very odd and quite nasty!

That is awful. Can you report the post to admin?

@snitzelvoncrumb admin is just a mum in the class so I don’t think that would do anything. Feels silly to be upset. A friend said she would comment ‘oh you must have forgotten about my DD’ but I wouldn’t dare!

You should ask just to make her uncomfortable.
I would report it and see what happens. Do you need to be part of the group?

Have you got a mate who can point out that it is not kind?

Perhaps she has forgotten?
Either way I think you should say 'MiniChunky' has mislaid her invite but if you can reconfirm the details, I will let you know ASAP.'
If it is a pure mistake/oversight then it's easily rectified.

Yes I know you can invite who you want to parties but when it comes to primary school, you either invite the whole class or just a few.
It's bad manners to invite 19 out of a class of 20 children & leave 1 child out.

That's shit.

Could you post something like "It's a bit uncomfortable for you to post this here as you seem to have invited all the girls excluding my dd."

@BlackeyedGruesome I wish I did! Don’t know many of the mums in this class. We can’t even go anyway I just feel so sad for my daughter :(

Ok my comment is : Not trying to be funny but next time if it’s not a whole class invite, please don’t announce it to the whole class. To be honest it’s upset me as it seems like my daughter is about the only girl not invited and I’d rather have not known.

I think that's a good comment.

Well said ChunkyMonkey! I think that's a reasonable reply.

Good for you!

I think the problem with people like this is that they actually ENJOY knowing they've upset people.

It won't change her attitude to post anything.

Just ignore the cow.

If it really was just a few friends invited I wouldn't have a problem with that but if only one or 2 children are excluded that is very rude.

Maybe it was a mistake? If not it's extremely cunty.

Your reply is good. Although maybe drop the 'I'm not being funny' because you always are when you preface it with that.

No, it takes a couple of bloody minutes to set up a group with just the people you need to message. She's either very stupid or very mean.

@OliviaHarrison yes, I only ever do small parties so I understand not inviting everyone but I don’t announce it to the uninvited ones!

Good reply. Call her out on it. Although I’d drop the “not being funny” part and the “about”. Your DD isn’t about the only only girl not invited. She is the only girl not invited. Don’t soften what that horrid woman has done.

A good reply. Can't be having with stuff like this.

How ugly.

That is awful. Is that what people do nowadays, announce things on facebook? Whatever happened to privacy I wonder.

And I'm sure most every one else will be rolling their eyes and thinking how spiteful it is if they notice.

I think your comment is totally appropriate. You have called her out in a way nobody could object to.

YANBU OP.

I would be hurt and angry for my DD too.

I’m dreading this shit when she starts school next year...