Aibu to not give this child a lift?

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My DC do a sporting activity in the next town over on a Sunday morning. One of my ds' classmates wanted to go along too but his mum doesn't drive. So for the past 6 months we've been ferrying him to and from the sports club.

This Sunday is the last week of it before the summer break and they have their big club presentation/awards ceremony which all the kids really look forward to.

However, this week we're driving there and then heading straight off from there on our holiday. I explained to the DC's mum that we wouldn't be able to give a lift this week as we're not driving back to hometown after the awards.

Apparently her ds is heartbroken he can't come to the final day and will miss the awards ceremony. She is begging us to please give him a lift there and then either drop him back home (would be a 40 minute detour for us) or drop him at his grans house (would add 20 minutes onto our journey).

I know that if we go for his grans house then it's only a tiny delay towards our holiday but I just really had it set in my mind that we would just head straight from the activity to our holiday, we have quite a long car journey to get there and could do without our DC being cooped up in the car for any extra time.

Why can't she book a taxi just for the one day?

Can you take him and his mum and then suggest maybe she finds out how the public transport system works?

Wouldn't she like to actually see the awards bit herself anyway? And the child would probably appreciate his parent bothering to turn up.

I'd do it if I had the twenty mins, but I'd be curious why she can't get him there herself? Bus trains?

How about you take him and the mum pays for a taxi back? The cheek of some people! You have happily taken her son for 6 MONTHS and on this one occasion you can't and she needs to understand that. Be firm.

Take him and drop him home. It’s 40 mins out of your life. Or take him to his Nan 20 mins.
I would.

I did suggest a taxi, but because it's Sunday so taxis are double fare. Bus services are pretty much non existent on a Sunday.

As a non driver myself I wouldn't dream of asking you this. Why can't she use public transport or get a taxi for the last event? Do other parents usually attend this ceremony? Sounds like she should be there anyway. She is being a cheeky fucker. What a way to repay you.

For the sake of 20 minutes I think you would be unreasonable not to bring him. It's nice of you to have given him the lifts for 6 months but it would be a bit mean not to do it for the last time, it's not the poor kids fault he can't get there himself.

oh bless him, absolutely. shouldn't have to is there anyone else at the club who could drop at nans or nan pick up from club?

I'd feel so sorry for him I'd probably crack and take him. could one of you drop him to his nans while the rest of you chat at the club.

I did suggest a taxi, but because it's Sunday so taxis are double fare.

Where do you live? Which licensing authority?

She is a CF. You have done a lovely thing for the last sixth months.

Double fair Sunday taxis and non existent bus service? Where on earth do you live?

She should have always had a contingency plan should you not be driving for any reason. What if you’re DC was ill and not attending? Or you were all away that weekend?

I bet she gives you nothing for petrol.

Errrrrr no. She is making this your problem to solve and it really isn’t. There must be someone else in her circle of friends or family who she can ask surely? How would he be getting back from his band? Talk about ingratitude

Nans.... not band. Jesus bloody autocorrect

For the sake of 20 minutes I would.

YANBU. And surely your car will be so full of holiday stuff there wont be room for an extra child? Mine certainly is.

I wouldn't have the nerve to expect this from another parent!

YANBU, she is a CF for trying to guilt trip you...however... I would probably drop him at his grans house. Not ideal but it is the kind thing to do.

Pretty much non existent and actually non existent arent quite the same thing either. I bet if she were prepared to make an effort she'd find a way.

For the sake of 20 minutes I probably would take him. But wtf double fare on a Sunday?! Not where I live

But if he stays at his nans the night before it's only half the journey she needs to sort. Also if you are going on holiday you won't have room for him!