AIBU to think that just as a male should not slap a woman's face ,a woman shouldn't slap a man ?

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Son slapped in face by girlfriend . Night out ,son went outside club/bar to speak to friends ,girlfriend offended and came out and slapped him.

Appreciate there may be more to it than I know ,but is it ever right to slap someone round the face ?

Son seems ok with it ,but I'm not .

Call the police

It's unacceptable regardless of who slapped who. I'd be very upset if this happened to my ds.

Of course it’s not right.

I would be encouraging him to consider the future of the relationship

If course she shouldnt .......that's abuse. And the annoying thing is.if he'd have pelted her one back it would have been him in trouble for it.

No, you should never use physical force to convey anger - it’s assault regardless of gender.

No one should hit anyone, violence isn't acceptable it's quite simple

That’s not right at all. He should dump her arse.

There have been threads where women have been pushed to their edge of endurance by abusive men and have lashed out in the face of aggressive behaviour, and I have sympathy for those women. However what GF did is unacceptable. Tell your son that violence is not excusable by either sex.

I agree with you , Male nor female should use violence. She has assaulted him end of.

Of course it’s not OK.

People shouldn’t slap people & your son is in a shitty relationship. He’ll presumably work that out for himself sooner or later.

No. Slapping people is assault. They all need to stop doing it.

It's not acceptable no.

Is the gf controlling in other ways too? Why didn't she want him talking to his friends?

Absolutely not ok. Hopefully you can help your son see that

No one should be slapping anyone.
The end!

Not acceptable at all and I hope he ends the relationship and wouldn’t be unreasonable to report her to the police.

Not ok at all. Man or woman, violence is violence.

No , it’s assault . He should dump her and be explicit as to why .

As the mother of 2 sons I would be very upset at this too. YANBU at all.

YANBU. Violence is wrong, regardless of what sex the perpetrator is. I hope your son is okay.

It's not acceptable

But there is an argument, mainly seen on mn that that it worse for men to hit women, because men are stronger and will do more damage and inflict more fear. Because power is balanced in the male favour, it's very different and that a woman slapping a man isnt great, but mo where near as bad

What this argument doewnt take into account is abusive women. A relative of mine was far stronger than his wife, but was brought up that you never hit women. Which is a good thing. However, because she knew this she used against him she had the power. She hospitalised him several times. The last time, she repeatedly punched him in the back of his head and he has scars. At the hospital, I over heard her adult son say 'if anyone calls the police, say he hit you first'.

She had power because she knew he had far more chance of being arrested on DV charges that she did.

Same women also claimed her neighbour attacked her. Except there was CCTV and she clearly jumped the neighbour. Claiming self defense was a ploy.

She had the power, because she was certain he wouldnt hit her back, even to defend himself. Also the shame, humiliation and emotional pain (that someone you love would do this to you) are the same for all victims, male or female. This damages self esteem, mental health etc.

Power doesnt always come from being stronger

I would also say that on MN there are a lot of people that will claim women who hit their partners have been goaded and abused until they snap. But men cant every have been goaded or abused until they snap.

It’s assault, regardless of who slaps who. The consequences of a male assaulting a female are likely to be worse than the other way around but assault is assault.

Did your son volunteer this information? Do you think it’s the first time this has happened?

Of course it’s not OK.

But oh boy, people do love a “man bites dog” story.

No slapping of anybody, by anybody is acceptable

But yeah...women do it too. Get the fuck over it.

But there is an argument, mainly seen on mn that that it worse for men to hit women, because men are stronger and will do more damage and inflict more fear.

Whilst I think violence is abhorrent, there have been threads where a woman has hit a man and he has responded with much more force. There are men who good women into violence so they can hit that much harder and say ‘you hit me first’.

*goad