AIBU to think that just as a male should not slap a woman's face ,a woman shouldn't slap a man ?

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Son slapped in face by girlfriend . Night out ,son went outside club/bar to speak to friends ,girlfriend offended and came out and slapped him.

Appreciate there may be more to it than I know ,but is it ever right to slap someone round the face ?

Son seems ok with it ,but I'm not .

I don't want to look at it at a population level on this thread because it's irrelevant.

It's just interesting to see that the numbers of men affected by it isn't insignificant.

If you don't want to look at it at population level why are you posting ons stats

(Which are known to be questionable for a number of reasons).

“The OP could have simply asked for help. Instead she posted an inflammatory thread title and started making pointlessly comparing victims“

And, incidentally, ignored the post I wrote directly to her giving her some suggestions about supporting a child who is a victim of abuse.

This is tiresome

I'm going to the shops

Good luck with your endeavours to get change in how society views male violence against women and vice versa. Whatever they may be.

Fraggling I agree. Having been a victim of male violence, it's not taken seriously enough.

However the does not impact the the topic of this thread. Which is, is it as bad if a woman hit a man.

In my opinion, yes it is. A man hitting a woman may well inflict more damage. Not always. Abusers are often good at hurting with leaving marks. The emotional side of being a victim is very similar. Though I imagine there could be points from both sides saying each sex has it worse from an emotional perspective.

On an individual level, abuse victims suffer horrendously and their abusers should be held accountable in the same way.

Then consider how much damage they actually caused, rather than could potentially cause, in their attacks and up the charges from there.

And theres no reason that acceoting violence against men is awful and shouldnt happen, should automatically mean the violence against women isnt that much of a problem.

I have said it several times.

You can agree Male violence is a major issue that needs sorting. That more women are victims of abuse. While also accepting the some female abuse their partners and it's that's awful too.

Its doesnt have to be an either or situation. Accepting one doesnt cancel out the other.

If you don't want to look at it at population level why are you posting ons stats

Just to show that it isn't an insignificant number of men that it is happening to.

And, incidentally, ignored the post I wrote directly to her giving her some suggestions about supporting a child who is a victim of abuse

I would think that the OP has been scared off by the ensuing argument and chances are that the odd helpful post has been buried under the ensuing onslaught.

In a post specifically about a woman hitting a man, why is it any more acceptable to push the discussion onto the subject of VAWG than it is for a man to wade into a discussion precisely about VAWG to start shouting that men can be victims of domestic abuse too? It absolutely grinds my gears when men try to NAMALT us...and it grinds my gears when a conversation about the rarer, but no more or less excusable female-on-male violence. No matter how often someone tries to make the false equivalence that NAMALT somehow = NSHA.

So what is this thread for? What should w be talking about on it? Once we have answered the OP’s question by saying no, a woman should not hit a man. What next?

Well the the op has asked how she can help her son and has about half a dozen posts at best, so maybe that's what needs to be posted about?

Fair enough. She doesn’t seem very interested in the posts offering help, though.

They are hidden in amongst the ranting though - maybe she can't see the helpful posts.

Possibly. I @ed mine though. Up to her, of course.

I @ ed mine though.

She may have it turned off. I do.

I didn’t know you could turn it off!