To be over the moon my DP has finally took his balls out of Mummy's handbag and told her where to go

[FirstTimeMummyDS88]

from Hell, like she's actually a Demon http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amibeing_unreasonable/3610296-mil-from-hell-like-she-s-actually-a-demon

Link to previous thread above

So as a few of you may remember reading my previous posts my MiL is bat shit crazy. The lest few weeks my DP has been more supportive but was still getting a lift to work everyday from her (they work in same place and she says there's no point them both driving).

It was DS 1st birthday 2 weeks ago and we decided to have a few friends and family around for cake and a few party games, decided against a big party as he's 1 and will never remember it and we planned a few days out over his birthday week.

Party started at 2pm, DS was sat on floor with a few other children playing pass the parcel (with help from my brother who is 14) when PIL arrived at 3.15, MIL swanned in like a Disney Villain and picked up DS mid game from my brothers knee without so much of a word to anyone. I asked her if she could give DS back to my brother so he could finish game as DS was trying to get down. She loudly announced that she wanted to give him his presents. DP stepped in and said "well it won't hurt to wait 5 minutes, let's let him finish playing first, we can do the cake and then presents"

She handed DS over to DP who gave him straight to my brother. She muttered something about how I always have a problem with everything she does and called me a cow, my brother took exception to this and said "don't talk about my sister like that, especially in her house and at a kids party, act your age"

MIL demanded to have a word in kitchen with DP and myself where she proceeded to tell us that she had wanted private time with her Grandson on his birthday and was furious at being spoken to like that by my disrespectful little shit brother. Now I have probably called my brother far worse over the years but I am not having anyone speak about him like that and especially as I don't think he said anything wrong so I told her if she couldn't be civil then to leave as I wasn't having a scene and if I hear another word about my brother I'll throw her arse out myself

Anyway a bit later we go to do the cake and as I'm walking in with the cake and we are all singing happy birthday she tries to take DS from DP who shrugged her off and helped DS blow out candles. She loudly asked what the problem was and my DP tried to shush her. She suddenly shouted at the top of her voice "your trying to keep me away from my baby" Well it was like a switch was finally set off in DP's brain and he told her to shut up and he would speak to her after party. Guests all left probably feeling quite awkward. DP then went off like a bomb telling her that she was disgusting to ruin his party and that DS is not her baby he is our baby and from now on she needs to back the fuck off or she won't be seeing either of them again. She tried to argue back but he wouldn't have it (was actually quite a turn on haha) since then he hasn't seen her, she has phoned once to see how him and baby are and he has just said "we are all fine, we will see you soon I'll ring you" and he has started driving himself to and from work. SIL sent a message kicking off about the way he spoke to their mum and his reply was "you can go and fuck off aswell"

I actually know I'm not being unreasonable I just wanted to brag about my DP finding his spine and finally slaying the monster

Yay! Loving the h with his newly reclaimed balls!!!

He’s a mumsnet legend!

How did SIL react to that information?

@GreenTulips

Told him how she doesn't know her own brother any more, he's changed, family doesn't mean anything to him, the usual stuff

They really had him under the thumb didn’t that? Does his forehead still have a thumb print?

At least now he’s thinking for himself and doing what he wants to do, and your right they are kicking back.

Sis wants to keep the house but only at her brothers expense (and in turn your expense)

They sound very narrow minded and have expectations of others wanting what they want.

I’m surprised you have put up with it for so long. The worm has turned and has seen the light.

Hopefully he can get on an even keel with his parents and get some distance and perspective. Those boundaries need to be high to start with and he can lower them as they become better behaved.

I hope it’s all worth it in the end.

@FudgeBrownie2019

There could be a nuclear holocaust across the Midlands and all that would remain is my MIL, DH's toenails and a few wasps.
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

@FirstTimeMummyDS88
FWIW I love everything about this thread (sorry, apart from the latest update)

All sounds exhausting

I love my MIL. She's an absolute rock.

Honestly, once he’s told them he doesn’t want the house (which may have to be sold to fund carehomes for the pil anyway, you won’t be looking after them!) I reckon the pil will calm down. As soon as I told my parents I refused to accept cash and didn’t want to be in the will, they were a lot calmer about everything.

Your DP is brilliant!

They can put whatever they want it their will, it can always be challenged when they're dead. Or not - DP does not have to comply, he can renounce any claim he has and sign the whole shebang over to his sister.

Their attempt to exercise control from beyond the grave is absolutely textbook.

Your narcissist MIL sounds hideous. So does the MIL who can't be trusted to not feed the baby allergens.

I used to have terrors that my narcissist mother would snatch my baby away from me 'because she is the expert and knows best' and not give it back when I wanted it....
luckily I had gone NC by the time I became a mother.

Another couple I know had a super duper organic mother. However the house had a rat problem. When the child ate something at Granny's house she adamantly denied poison had been put down. Hours of desperate pleading went by before she finally admitted it was rat poison.

That is how dangerous narcissists can be.

This post is from July..