That if you kid is vegan you don't withhold that information till 6 hours before the playday?

[Luxplus]

Sunday a girls mom from nusery txt me and wants to plan playday for today with dd1. All well, arrange that I pick the girls up at 2.30pm after I get off work and the girl eats here. I ask the mom regarding allergies ect and get told "the girl is not fussy - likes food" all well and good.
I buy and plan to make pasta carbonara with corn hobbs (a favourite dish with my dds).
9am this morning get a txt from the mom "oh btw you do know that girl is vegan?" ... Nope did not know that
So spend my break and inbetween time at work searching for vegan recipes for kids... Hurried out after work to shop vegan stuff and managed to make falafel in lettuces burgers with fries. Was actually quite proud of myself for pulling it off (not a confident chef). Dad turns up and it turns out that the family only eats fries for birthdays ... No received a txt from me asking me to plz remember that the family do not eat any processed food and that she prefers me to not serve the unhealthy food we normally eat for her girl?
What the heck do I answer back to that?

Recipes?!! FFS. These are preschoolers. Jaysus wept. The day I have to start preparing special "recipes" for preschooler playdates*... the world is going to the dogs I tell you. You're supposed to bung chips & ice lollies at them & be done with the meal.

*genuine life or death dietary needs aside.

I think you're a star for doing the falafel. My DD has allergies and we are always so grateful when people make an effort. Mum and Dad sound bonkers.

Pasta and 'freefrom' Salca pesto would be my go to, but they'd probably object and expect home made pesto. Best to do short playdates with no food. Poor kid.

Luxplus most dried pasta ( especially cheap stuff) is egg free

She seems like a CF to be honest. You did your best, which is a lot better than I'd have come up with. Next time give her some celery and call it a day.

@LauraMipsum thanks for the tips. I definitely going to save them

I got an reply from the mom saying that she'll make sure to let me know in the future the food I can make for her girl and which stores to get it that's not exactly the response I was hoping for. Will no reply more tonight. Will wait and think what I can reply tomorrow.

Unbelievable

Next time make your family a lovely carbonara or similar and give the child carrot sticks, celery and cucumber. Even cooking food is ‘processing’ it in some way!!!

Just say it’s beans on toast then.... no butter!

With that response, no matter how sweet and nice the girl is, I would not be feeding her again or even having a play date

Summertime- and?? How is the child having ASD causing you pain??

Don't even wait to reply "If we do decide to have x again you can send her with a packed lunch, I certainly won't be making a meal. Honestly I am astounded at your rudeness" You don't have to be confrontational but she is a cheeky bitch, don't let her speak to you like that ffs

Yup it's baked beans on toast next time!

And before anyone wants to start whining about not wanting to buy special bread, you don't have to...99% of bread is vegan .

Wow, just wow, she is off the scale rude.
Maybe just reply that in future any more play dates at your house will not include food as you take umbrage at your food choices being criticised and you will not appreciate being told where to shop. Cheeky cow.

There is no reply tothat! Say nothing. If you do a play date in future have carrot sticks and store bought humous (from whatever shop you're in) as a snack or apple slices and peanut butter (Sun Pat ) and water to drink.

And without a doubt, when this wonderful woman invites your child for a play date, tell her your child's dietary requirements are frozen meat eaters pizza and chips. With ketchup.

I'm with CalmdownJanet on this one. Respond that then turn your phone off until morning.

Cheeky bitch.

Absolutely send what @calmdownjanet said.
She is cheeky as fuck!

I wouldn't be having her again after that, it's just plain rude. How dare she think she can tell you where to go and buy things to feed her daughter. My reply would be something like-

That won't work for me, I already have a set day and place for my food shop. I felt I was very accommodating today and in future it may be best for you just to send her with a pack up.

I'd give them a wide berth tbh. Kid might be ok now, but look at the parents, she'll be like them in no time.
I seriously like the Fuck off approach. Or that's fine, we don't hang around with ill mannered rude obsessive types.

Just a funny anecdote for the thread - My son said to me today at dinner time 'Mum, have I ever eaten vegan food?' I told him that he had courgette and potato on his plate which were vegan, he said 'oh, where abouts is Vega?'

Thanks for all the suggestions for an response. I will write back tomorrow to the mom or try to see if I can find her at nursery...

I hope the DM pick up on these bat shit parents and they recognise themselves. There should be a cf prize on here, they'd win hands down.
I wouldn't want my child playing with someone being raised like this, very poor parenting.

Text back.

Don't worry there won't be a next time.

In future I’d ask her to either provide food for her daughter or avoid mealtimes. If it continues to be a bone of contention I’d stop inviting her. If asked, I’d say that it was clearly more important that the right foods were provided than the socialisation of the children and that’s not how I prioritise.

@Wheresthebeach I'm more than happy to try to accommodate allergies ect., I just wished to be given more time.
Dd1s best friend is allergic to a long list of food and I always manage to cook for him something suitable.

With time I can cook vegan food but I'm amazed you did it with such short notice without pasta (most cheap dried pasta is vegan, just avoid the expensive egg pasta!)