That if you kid is vegan you don't withhold that information till 6 hours before the playday?

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Sunday a girls mom from nusery txt me and wants to plan playday for today with dd1. All well, arrange that I pick the girls up at 2.30pm after I get off work and the girl eats here. I ask the mom regarding allergies ect and get told "the girl is not fussy - likes food" all well and good.
I buy and plan to make pasta carbonara with corn hobbs (a favourite dish with my dds).
9am this morning get a txt from the mom "oh btw you do know that girl is vegan?" ... Nope did not know that
So spend my break and inbetween time at work searching for vegan recipes for kids... Hurried out after work to shop vegan stuff and managed to make falafel in lettuces burgers with fries. Was actually quite proud of myself for pulling it off (not a confident chef). Dad turns up and it turns out that the family only eats fries for birthdays ... No received a txt from me asking me to plz remember that the family do not eat any processed food and that she prefers me to not serve the unhealthy food we normally eat for her girl?
What the heck do I answer back to that?

The mum sounds like a right twat and you're being VERY nice about it. "oh btw you do know that she's vegan?" is not the way to communicate this stuff, and 'the family do not eat any processed food and that she prefers me to not serve the unhealthy food we normally eat' is plain fucking rude.

I get that you're doing it for the girls' friendship, but I would honestly have to tell her where to stick her unprocessed food.

OH went up to daughter's school to collect her French exchange girl, it was about 10pm on Saturday night, they'd been delayed by poor weather, I'd planned a light supper then bed. He phoned from the school, they'd arrived, she was vegan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As it was about 25 years ago I'd never even heard the word, quick phone call to an evangelical vegetarian friend for help and the start of 2 weeks of hell.
Later in the year daughter went on the retirn fixture and when she returned I asked what the French mother gave her as they lived on a farm and couldn't imagine they were all vegan. Apparently being vegan had started on the coach comng over, she ate what her mother put on the table, not vegetarian at all, and her mother had been furious with her about saying she was vegan!

ZforZack standard Heinz beans are vegan but the no-added-sugar aren't!

@LadyRannaldini

My French exchange declared herself to be a vegetarian on arrival. I had already been to her home and her favourite food was rice with pork, but she completely denied having eaten meat while I was there.

It never occurred to me that it could have been worse - she could have been vegan.

The nursery displays your phone number?!! Seriously? So literally any parent could see it or pass it on to someone else? If children fall out - which happens, my child was bitten recently at nursery - then the parent of the other child could phone you and have a go at you? That seems like a massive issue to me. Massive. My child’s school won’t even give out a list of the names of the kids in the class because of data protection, to put a list of phone numbers up seems outright bizarre. I’m surprised you don’t think it’s weird.

Reginald Perrin has a similar problem with the two hippy-dippy twats he called his daughter and son-in-law (2nd episode, 1st series).

Enforcing veganism on a child is child abuse. It is a fad that needs to be stamped out. Get that child down Nandos straight away.

@Upanddownandroundagain I completely agree. I was stunned when the OP said they have aprent phone numbers listed at nursery. not at any childcare establishment I've ever been in in the last 10 years they' don't. They treat parent contact details like gold dust. Huge DP issue there.

I’m not sure if the OP is in the UK or not due to her using ‘mom’ a lot. Maybe different rules surrounding patent contact details to here. In the UK that would not be ok.

*parent not patent

I'm living in Denmark and not British so apologise for any incorrect words or grammatical setup.
All parents have to consent to have their name and number on display so perhaps some parents have opted from it. I find it very good

But I think all is fine with the family now.
They have invited dd1 for a playday at their place next week including dinner.
Thank you all for the kind help and suggestions how to handle the situation

Mom is used a lot in the midlands..... good call though! Good luck OP, hope your DD has a good time!

We’re in London and there is a class parents whatsapp. Class reps
collected phone numbers, addresses and dates of birth. You could consent to all ir some or recuse completely. I was apprehensive about it to start with but it was very handy for organising birthday parties and playdates.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Ah so it's you who bagged my username of choice!

Benji I’ve had it for the last 9 years! Actually I was after another but it had been taken

In fact @LauraMipsum and @ZforZack

Heinz normal beans are 100% vegan

Heinz low sugar beans contain flavouring derived from honey so they're not vegan and also shouldn't be given to babies less than a year old.