AIBU? about paying for holiday

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Hi all. I was just wondering if you think I am being unreasonable. My brother and I are thinking of taking our parents away for their 30th wedding anniversary. He and his wife have 2 young children, we don't have any children coming.

My brother and his wife want to split the cost of the cottage 50/50. They will require 2 bedrooms for the four of them whereas we will only require 1. Am I being unreasonable by not wanting to pay half?

YANBU. Cost should be split by rooms used.

depends entirely on the finances in my view, if they are struggling and you're doing well - not so much

We earn roughly the same amount per household. If they were less well off then I'd be happy to pay.

Surely the object is to ttake your parents away, therefore that is the gift and the gift is 50/50 ?

If it were a general family holiday I'd say you were right. But it isnt. How would you split it?

Bro 50% (2 beds)
you 25% (1 bed)
Paretns 25% (1 bed) split between you and bro?
so you pay 1/3rd and bro pays 2/3rds? that effectively means he is paying to take your parents away and you get a cheap holiday

YANBU.

It's a joint gift to your parents. 50/50 is appropriate.

I agree that if it's a joint gift for your parents it's a 50/50 split.

If it was a hotel they wouldn't expect you to pay for 2 rooms for their use, so they shouldn't expect you to pay half the cost of the cottage either. I think they should pay a bit more.

It's a joint gift
50 50

50/50 as it's not your holiday, its a gift to your parents

I would say 50:50 in these circumstances.

I think you need to pay for 1½ rooms and your brother needs to pay for 2½ rooms. That way you're splitting the cost of your parents room.

If they are young children then I would say 50/50. It is not like they are teens

50/50 split for your parents, so your db pays 66.66% and you pay 33.33%

So you want to split it so you pay for 1.5 rooms and he pays for 2.5 rooms so 37.5 to 62.5?

Yes given that it is a gift though that doesnt seem quite right either - maybe a 45/55 split

What is the price difference though between a 3 bed and a 4 bed? BEcause in effect that is what it is. I am not sure it would be 25% more

Also how would the best rooms work i.e. in terms of ensuite etc?

and hate to be pedantic but it wouldnt be a 1/3 2/3 split as I assume there are 4 rooms so its 1.5 to 2.5 which is 37.5/62.5

Are you booking a bigger cottage because of the dc?if so then your db should pay the difference between the prices of a three bedroom and four bedroom.However,if you all chose the cottage for it's location etc,it should be split equally between you as the extra bedroom will be irrelevant.

The adults are paying so you go 50/50, unless you are expecting the children to contribute as well.

Whenever we have been on family trips like this we always split the bill of self catering accomodation by rooms. I don't see how if you all went out for a meal (as an example) you should be expected to pay 50% when he has more mouths to feed.

I'd never suggest splitting a bill (food or accomodation or anything else) to my childless siblings when i have 2 children - why should they pay for my children?

50/50

Another way we have occasionally split things is to consider my 2 children as 1 adult. So in this example you would be going as 7 adults - you pay for 3 (yourselves and 1 parent) and they pay for 4 (themselves, one parents and the children combined)

50/50 imo as it’s a present to your parents

Ordinarily I'd say split by room cost, but as this is a gift of family time for your parents anniversary 50/50 is fair otherwise they'll be paying more for the gift than you.

If you can't stomach that as an option then you need to rethink the 'gift' because this will keep cropping up in the future otherwise.

Essentially...do you think your nieces/nephews are liable for any of the cost of the gift?

If you earn the same per household, and they have two children, you're clearly in a better financial position so don't understand your argument there!

Agree with PPs. It's a gift so 50-50

50/50 because it is a gift to your parents.