AIBU? about paying for holiday

[digger2014]

Hi all. I was just wondering if you think I am being unreasonable. My brother and I are thinking of taking our parents away for their 30th wedding anniversary. He and his wife have 2 young children, we don't have any children coming.

My brother and his wife want to split the cost of the cottage 50/50. They will require 2 bedrooms for the four of them whereas we will only require 1. Am I being unreasonable by not wanting to pay half?

What a ridiculous response from him. Good on your for making the decision. You can have a decent weekend away for the cost of that house, I suspect.

Which palace does brother call home?

So glad you stood up to your brother and aren’t letting him get away with it

He said they have different standards to us.

Which by the sound of it they do by getting others to pay for their 'standards'.

Well done OP.

For the best OP. Fwiw I would imagine a weekend abroad treating DPs will come to a lot more than the £400 which shows it was about principles rather than cash

As Rookiemere says, a weekend abroad won't necessarily be a cheaper option but you won't end up feeling resentful.

There are so many AIBU threads about the problems that arise when families or large groups of friends go out for meals (How to divide out children's meals? Should the person who had a starter, pudding and coffee pay the same as the person who ate one course but guzzled most of a bottle of wine etc). Often the amounts involved are small but they still create hurt feelings. This could have been really difficult either if you had all gone for the expensive option or the cheaper one. You made the right decision and this experience will help when (hopefully) your parents celebrate their ruby wedding (or whichever one it is for 40 years)

Well at the start you honestly didnt know your brother would be such a CF.

Does he always treat you like the poor relation?
From now on act it. No more birthday /Xmas gifts. He is a nasty fuckwit.

Result.

Have a lovely time away with your parents doing adult type things without the need to pander to a 6 year old and 2 year old. They can do a different style weekend away with the parents which will be just as nice for them. Everyone wins. Especially the parents who get 2 treats in different styles.

I wouldn't just split by bedrooms - you'll spend less than a third of the time in the bedrooms anyway and it's not like you'll get much benefit.

Imagine if they didn't have kids - then to do the same thing you would need a 3 bed property rather than a 4 bed and you would split 50:50. A 4 bed rental is a little more expensive but it's not proportional to 4:3. More like 10% more. A 55%:45% split would be more reasonable.

I agree with you OP. I think if their children were sharing with them then that’s one thing but if they need two rooms they can pay for two rooms. The gift for your parent is that you’ll all be there and you’ll be paying for their room but you don’t have to pay for a room for their children.

Sorry OP just read the updates

I hope you have a nice weekend away with your parents and this doesn’t cause too much upset