To ask for help :-( **Graphic - Thread title edited at OP's request**

[boredaloneandwaiting]

Just had a baby (three days ago!)

All well but had a pretty traumatic birth ending in forceps and episiotomy. Was in hospital then got early this morning. Before being discharged I had to do a wee (after catheter removal) and have my bladder scanned. All good.

Tonight I went upstairs to do my first poo (sorry!) and before I even got my pants off I lost complete control of my bladder. Cue bleeding and weeing on the floor. :-( think the bleeding was from my stitches (I've had bleeding there since birth).

I also haven't managed to do a poo as it was so painful I couldn't even sit on the toilet or push at all.

I tried pressing a wet flannel on my stitches but that didn't really help :-(

Any advice or similar stories??

Please I'm feeling particularly crap tonight :-(

I feel you. The first few weeks after birth are horrendous.

Advice::

But a rubber ring, like a pool one, to sit on. Honestly. It sounds weird but it means you're not actually sat on the sensitive area which helps.

Multi-gyn do maternity compresses. They're quite expensive but they really worked for me. I actually have a nearly full box left so if you'd like me to send them to you please let me know.

Put your maternity towels in the fridge, gives a little relief.

I doubled up with disposable underwear and pad, then big cheap briefs from primark over that, felt secure. Buy black so doesn't look too horrendous when you bleed through.

Be patient with yourself, rest and take all the help you can.

Congratulations on the little one