... to hate “no sibling” parties when they’re whole year group parties?

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I sort of know I am BU. But with 30 kids in the class, it’s pretty tricky to figure out what to do with DD2 when DD1 has one of her many birthday parties (DH works on Saturdays).

And also - even if DH and I could split up the task on the weekend, I feel a bit bad for DD2 who never gets any parties as she’s only 3 and DD1 who gets around 20 a year as she’s 6!

They wind anyone else up?

I’m prob being v unreasonable

If you child is 6,why do you need to stay? Maybe a bit extreme but I left mine from 3

🙄 Either take only the child invited, or don't.

YABU.. what if every child brought a sibling, even if 10 brought a sibling it could push numbers up!

YABVVVU. A whole class party could easily double, and even treble, if everyone brought their siblings. It is such CF territory. Also, at 6 do you really need to stay?

I would definitely drop the 6 year old off and run, and spend some one to one with the younger one.

DD1 surely deserves time with her friends without DD2 tagging along.

And your 3 year old will go to parties when she’s 6 and elder DDs parties will trail off

She doesn’t NEED to go to parties it isn’t essential

Yabu and you know it. You're also being 'that' parent. I.e. the cf one. Leave dd1. Take dd2 somewhere else.

Just drop your 6 year old off and go and do something else with the 3yo

In one of my ex charges class, one of his friends had 3 siblings, another 2 another 4 etc it goes on lol. That would be an expense party.

Your 3 year old time will come when they have loads of parties and the older ones have fizzled out. Drop and run.

YABVU.

Agree with pp you should drop her off. Then you could take dd2 and invite a friend to join her at the park or soft play for an hour or so if you feel she’s missing out. I never stayed with dd after Christmas or Y1 and even if it were expected most parents would be happy to keep an eye on another dc if they know it’s because you have to look after another dc.

If it’s a softplay or trampolining party then just take them with you and pay for them so they can play separately, and you can get them something to eat whilst the birthday tea is going on.

You don't need to stay at a party with a 6 yo, assuming no SN.

Drop and go. You then have an hour or so 1-1 time with your younger child.
Extra siblings really are a pain.

‘No sibling’ parties.

Surely people don’t feel the need to specify ‘no siblings’? The invitation tells you who’s invited, if a child’s name isn’t on it they’re not invited?

Na. 3 years aren't really ideal at 6 year olds parties. And absolutely fine to leave her at 6.

At 6 there is no need to stay, do you just drop off the eldest and take the youngest home, to the park, shopping, whatever you need to do.

You do not take a 3 yr old to a whole class party for 6 yr olds. Imagine if everyone took siblings and stayed, you could be looking at 60+ kids when you'd only invited 30!

The whole class party usually only lasts for 5th and 6th birthdays, after that they get smaller so your eldest won't have 20 parties a year anymore. However your youngest will by then!

Same applies then though, if you can't leave your child at the party then decline the invite unless it's a party siblings are welcome at.

What? Bit confused. The three year old has you all to herself when her sister is at a party. They usually really like that at that ages. She'll have her parties when she's six!!!

Can you clarify OP?

Do you mean you don't know what to do with DD2 whilst DD1 is at a party?

Or do you mean you are taking DD2 to a party with DD1 and staying there but telling DD2 she cannot participate? That is very bad form and I can appreciate it would be very difficult - which is why most parents don't do it.

No parents stayed at DC's 6th Birthday party. YABU drop DC off.

Well. In a couple of years it won’t be whole class parties and DD2 will be 5 and having class parties of her own. That’s life isn’t it? Also why can’t you do something nice with DD2 during this time? We used to take turns among the school mums and a couple of us would stay back and look after the kids, and then the next time it would be someone else’s turn. Although by Y2 we dropped and ran.

Even non-class parties always had a no sibling rule.
And I cannot imagine many 6-year-olds would want a 3-year-old tagging along. Even if soft play I wouldn't stay, youngest will want to be with oldest.
Oldest doesn't need to go to all the parties, and if you cannot drop and go there is no other option.

Omg op get a grip. Why poor dd2 she will have her time. The society of immediate gratification is all to apparent in your post. When your dd1 is 18 will you still be lamenting the fact that your dd2 can't go out like her sister. Like I said get a grip