I have a secret - multiple marriages

[EltonHoratio]

I’m a regular poster under a different name. I have a secret and I’d like your opinions. I’ve been married 4 times. Obviously some people know my secret, but as the first 2 marriages were pre social media and a long time ago, most people think I’ve been married twice and I don’t correct them. DH knows the truth.

Some may think it was gold digging, quite the opposite, all were skint, all left me i debt. I’ve managed to have a nice life through my own hard work.

No children. Only DH has children from a previous relationship.

Do you judge me? What are your thoughts?

It doesn’t make you a knob at all.

Do you consider yourself someone that gives others benefit of the doubt and dismisses red flags as a result ?

Are you the type that doesn’t trust your instincts and your own judgement ?

Are you too scared to be lonely? And the anxiety puts pressure on you?

I don’t think you’re a knob. I think you focusing on what other people think of your failed marriages might be stopping you from actually examining yourself with kindness and finding out the truth of why you might be vulnerable to wrong decisions about men.

It could very well be bad luck. But I think you would know if there is a Pattern you keep falling into. Whether these were avoidable or not.

Only you can judge the situation and decide to do something about it or not- for your own sake not anyone else’s.

Some people see the good in people and are tolerant. See it as a positive