I want to go grey, but DH says no!

[KindleAndCake]

Who is being unreasonable?
I'm in my 40's and fed up of the constant dying of my hair. I've said I'm going to stop, but he says no. He really doesn't want me to. I've pointed out that he is going grey, but it seems it's one rule for him, and all that.

Out of interest, does constant dying your hair make it go grey quicker?

It's your hair, your choice.

Why does he get to choose what you do with your hair?

As above, it's not his hair so he gets no say in the matter.

Clearly, he is. It’s your hair.

Unless the hair is growing out of his body he gets no say in what is done to it

He's allowed to go grey but you're not? Eh, no.

I'd cover the sexist git in jet black Just For Men as he was sleeping.

He us BU, obvs.

And no, dying your hair has no impact on how fast it goes grey.

It’s your hair, so you decide. Nothing to do with your dh (or anyone else).
I couldn’t be arsed to dye my hair for myself or any others, far too much work.
Spend the time just chilling or have a glass of wine 🍷

He what now?

Tell him to get fucked. How appalling.

DH told me about 5 years ago that he thought my hair looked nice years ago when I would get highlights. Guess what? Still haven’t had highlights again because a) I don’t have the time or money for the upkeep and b) I didn’t like it as much so I’m not doing it. Simple as that. Just like he doesn’t have to style himself to please me.

Your DH is a prick.

Not jet black, you have to use the Andrew Neil colour.

Basically what everyone else said
It's your hair, your choice
He sounds like a knob

It's the age-old 'men who go grey are distinguished silver foxes and women just look old'.
It's always been the bloody same. 🙄

No part of you belongs to him. Til it does, crack on and tell him to shush.

But... what he's really saying is, if you go grey I won't fancy you? Depends how you feel about that.

Are you genuinely not sure if you are being unreasonable? 😱😱

I’m interested to know how he’s going to forcibly dye your hair.

My dh wouldn’t care but almost a year ago I stopped dyeing my hair because it started falling out from deying it. Ask your dh wether he’d rather have you grey or bald!

There are awesome groups on fb that deal with the transition. But honestly I’d be very offended if my dh old me no. For one thing it’s your hair your choice. You are not a child that cannot make their own choices. I’d ignore and do as I damn well pleased.

It’s your hair. That’s all there is to it

Marvellous. If he’s willing to use Just For Men every week too on your say-so then fine.

Otherwise he can fuck off.

FWIW, were in our 50s, and my DH is well
enough aware of his own flaws than to try and influence or dictate mine.

Dying your hair all the time hides how grey you are getting so it is a bigger shock when you stop as you haven’t had time to adjust to a gradual change.

I have highlights to blend in the grey but at some point I will stop ( nearly 50).

I'm going to have to go against the grain here.... oh hang on, obviously not! Of course he is BU. What a tool!

Can we have a pic of the Adonis, just to deliberate?

Your hair, your choice. He has no say

I know he's being unreasonable, I just needed to 'hear' it. I dont know what I'm going to do though. I did mention it to my hairdresser 2 cuts ago, and she was really against me going grey too. She said I'm too young.