I want to go grey, but DH says no!

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Who is being unreasonable?
I'm in my 40's and fed up of the constant dying of my hair. I've said I'm going to stop, but he says no. He really doesn't want me to. I've pointed out that he is going grey, but it seems it's one rule for him, and all that.

Out of interest, does constant dying your hair make it go grey quicker?

Of course your hairdresser is against you going grey. She wants your money!

How old are you op?
Not that it makes a difference to the fact you should not dye your hair if you don't want to, I'm just a nosy, grey 33year old.
I stopped dying my hair a while ago.
Got sick of the time money and mess of doing it. Couldn't see the point anymore.
I like it, I've got a young face so it confuses people which adds to the enjoyment for me.
If threads on here are anything to go by it seems a lot of women are coming to the same conclusion.

I'm a makeup artist and hairstylist. I haven't dyed my hair since I was 19 and a bunch of it fell out. I'm going grey - I always told myself I want to be one of those silver haired grandmothers.

Going grey while looking good aint cheap. I have shoulder length hair, so my hairdresser is using highlights and a darker colour on the bottom, my son says it looks ombre. Who knew he would know what that meant. After a year we are a third of the way there.

I stopped colouring my hair about 4 years ago. I love my natural colour, it suits me, I look younger than I did when I dyed it, my hair is in better condition, and there's more of it!

Those who weren't keen were my hairdresser - even though I always did my own colour, but she clearly has a vested interest in ensuring women feel pressured to keep their hair dyed; my mother who has never coloured her own hair, but didn't want to have a daughter with grey hair; and a guy I see from time to time, who's always had a hang-up about being old - this started when he was 21!

Your hair, your decision!

Try telling him you don't want to look at his grey hair and he must start dying it immediately. When he tells you No chance, say that that's exactly how you feel about continuing to dye yours.

Your hair, your choice, end of. If he's just expressed a preference for you not to then that's a bit rude but he's entitled to his opinion. If he has ordered you to keep dying your hair, or threatened you with consequences for disobedience then you've got a bigger problem than your hair.

I went to the hairdressers with a brunette bob. I came home with an ash blonde pixie cut.

ExDP took one look, stormed off upstairs ranting "what the fuck have you done to your hair?!"

In his rage, he didnt notice his best mates following me through the door. The response to his comment, from his friends was "not your hair, not your choice... and we think it looks amazing"

ExDP never made another comment

(Btw, the ash blonde was to make the grey transition easier. Im now a steel grey and get nothinf but compliments about my hair. Im 38)

Yeap, an I will if you will stand off seems a good way forward...or just saying no.

I went grey to the horror of friends asunde loved ones. They now compliment my hair for its "distinguished" look!

You what??
Its your hair not his, he has no say. If you want to let your grey grow through, you do it! I ask my dps opinion, but will do what I want with my hair.

The only time I listen to him is when it comes to a fringe, but that's because general concensus from everyone including my hair dresser is I don't suit a fringe 🙄

I’ve stopped dyeing and gone grey (at 54). It looks okay and I don’t think I’ll ever go back to the dye.

DH is not keen at all. Sadly this means I can no longer bully him into getting rid of his horrid beard by threatening to withdraw my favours. He has put his foot down too.

I am in my later 40's and after many years of home dying and then finally having it pro dyed, I have got fed up of the condition of it and have decided to stop colouring it. My dh has mentioned if I would like to have it dyed at the hairdressers then I can, but there is no you mustn't stop dying it etc. I may well decide to dye it again when I have grown it all out, but I am quite interested to know what my 'real' hair colour is.

I'm transitioning atm. It's a long job, not made any easier by my hairdresser who is vociferously anti-grey . DH doesn't have an opinion, or if he does, he's wisely keeping it to himself . My friends are complimentary but my adult kids (both men) don't like it much.

Your hairdresser has a vested interest.

I haven't ever dyed my hair as I'm too lazy/tight to pay for enough hairdresser appts to keep the roots at bay. Plus the only time I dyed my own hair, it went a weird shade of green and there was hysterics from my housemates.

I am, apparently, going grey.

grey hair is really in and suits a lot of people. there are some really good wigs about , why not call his bluff and try one out , and see if it suits you as well?

I wish I could go grey naturally and for it to look elegant. I've been going grey since I was 17 but it's all around my temples and I have a Mallen streak at the front. It looks awful. Your DH sounds like a controlling knob. What's he afraid of? His wife looking natural?

I like the wig idea 😁

You have a dh problem, never mind the bloody hair.
Tell him to do one, wtf has it to do with him.
Buy him some hair dye, if he refuses tell him he has to, see how the pig likes it.

I'm 48 OP and about 5 months into growing out my grey. I've had years and years of colour, blended with blonde highlights and I got to the point where I was starting to get a belting headache for 2 days after I'd had my hair done.

There are some days when I despair, but the hair that's grown through (around 2/3 inches on top) is in gorgeous condition, and I'm actually a lot darker in colour than I'd realised. I thought I'd be around 60% grey but there is a lot more dark hair than I realised and the hairdresser thinks the grey is across my T section only and not at all in the back of my hair.

I'm really enjoying seeing what's growing through! Do it. It's very liberating. My goal is to be 50 and actually know what my own hair colour is

There are so many of is born again greysters around now. Maybe it is a reaction to all the fakery and obsession with youth.

I’ve been dying my hair since I was 14. That’s 40 years. I’ve been every colour imaginable. Stopping feels really liberating.

But yeah, I bet the trend has the hairdressers worried.

If you look on pinterest, instagram, there are some amazing grey ladies out there.

He doesn't get a say in the matter. And he's a dick for even expressing an opinion on what he wants you to do.

My mum started going grey at 19 (she already had two kids by then so hardly surprising) she’s never dyed it and now in her mid 40s her hair is an incredible silver on top with dark brown underneath, it looks beautiful. I’m in my mid 20s and not going grey yet but when I do I intend to embrace it.