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No sign of DH and DD - AIBU to feel really really worried?

317 replies

crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:43

Starting to feel a bit panicky - AIBU?

DH picks DD (2.5) up from nursery on Wednesdays, usually at about 5.30. The nursery closes at 6.30. Sometimes he takes her to visit his grandmother before they come home.

She just called to ask if she can see them later in the week as he didn’t drop by today. So if they aren’t there, where are they??? The nursery closed over an hour ago.

AIBU to start to panic? DH doesn’t carry a mobile phone, and I can’t phone his work/the nursery to find out what time he picked up as both are now closed. If he hadn’t picked her up, they’d have been phoning me, right?

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Aquamarine1029 · 19/06/2019 19:44

I would be worried, too. How far is the drive?

Gustavo1 · 19/06/2019 19:44

Yes, if DD was t collected then she would certainly have been collected. They may have got caught in traffic, stopped for a snack etc. Try not to worry. You could google traffic in your area but don’t do that if it will make you worry further if you see what I mean.
Hope they’re home soon Flowers

Rainatnight · 19/06/2019 19:45

Gosh, that is odd, I’m so sorry. Do you know any other parents from nursery who might have seen him?

I’m sure he must have got DC, because nursery would have phoned you if not?

Is he usually pretty reliable? (I’d say someone with no mobile phone bloody well ought to be!).

RuggerHug · 19/06/2019 19:45

They would have phoned. Try and not panic. If he doesn't have a mobile with him could be car problem, bus delay, anything. If there was a problem he'd get in touch with you!

NavyBlueHue · 19/06/2019 19:45

Do you have any reason to be worried other than his lateness? Is he vulnerable in any way?

SmellMySmellbow · 19/06/2019 19:46

Oof. I would worry but then I am a worrier by nature. Could they have gone on an imptomptu playdate?

Pomegranateseeds · 19/06/2019 19:46

Call the nursery anyway. There’s a chance someone will be there and it will be a relief to at least know she was picked up.

Divgirl2 · 19/06/2019 19:46

The nursery would definitely have called if he hadn't picked her up. I hope they're home soon Flowers

GruciusMalfoy · 19/06/2019 19:46

You would have had a call from nursery if he didn't pick her up. I'd presume they'd visited someone else, if they're not at his gran's.

MustardScreams · 19/06/2019 19:47

I would worry as well, although 99% of the time there is a totally mundane reason for it, it’s just the not knowing.

When he eats back first thing to do is get a mobile phone in case of emergencies.

Earlywalker · 19/06/2019 19:47

Yes, nursery would’ve called if Dd wasn’t collected.

Does he have any other friends or family in the area he may have visited?

Wolfiefan · 19/06/2019 19:48

Any chance the car has broken down? Hope they’re home soon.

yawning801 · 19/06/2019 19:49

Can you call friends etc to see if they have stopped by?

22Giraffes · 19/06/2019 19:49

YANBU to worry but try not to panic yet, easier said than done of course. Nursery would of phoned you if DD hadn't been picked up so that's a good sign.

Any other family members he might be visiting? Any possibility he's stopped off to do some food shopping or similar? How are they travelling home, maybe there are delays on public transport or serious traffic?

Flowers
WeeDangerousSpike · 19/06/2019 19:49

Could he have gone to the supermarket or something on the way home?

LadyGardens · 19/06/2019 19:49

Why doesn’t he carry a mobile? That’s virtually unheard of nowadays.

I’m sorry you are worried OP. Can you drive the route he would have taken?

FinnBalorsAbs · 19/06/2019 19:49

Worth a quick look on Google Maps to see if they could be stuck in traffic?

SavageBeauty73 · 19/06/2019 19:50

I would assume car breaking down. What a nightmare he doesn't have a mobile phone. Why?

MyNewBearTotoro · 19/06/2019 19:50

I would try his work and the nursery just on the off-chance somebody is still there.

Is there really no way for you to get in touch with your DH? Will he definitely not have his mobile on him? Surely you have a way to get in touch with him in case of an emergency?

It’s probably nothing and hes been stuck in traffic or following an incident - can you check google maps or local traffic news to see if there are any delays or road closures on his normal route?

In future I would also be insisting he has a mobile phone on him, especially if he has your DD. You need to be able to be in touch in case of an emergency.

GreyCloud0 · 19/06/2019 19:50

I wouldn’t worry.

Nursery would of called if she wasn’t collected.

He has probably just popped out.

MRex · 19/06/2019 19:50

Try the nursery just in case someone is there. I'd worry too, mainly because it's getting late but also because I sometimes worry about such things. Is there a chance that he could have taken DD to someone else's house or out for a drink, any idea who won you can call them?

RomanyQueen · 19/06/2019 19:51

(I’d say someone with no mobile phone bloody well ought to be!).

Really? Grin HTF do you think we got this far without mobiles.

Oysterbabe · 19/06/2019 19:51

How far is it? I'd be tempted to go and look for them.

CantspellWontspell · 19/06/2019 19:51

If he had have visited his Granny, what time would you be expecting them?

cheeseislife8 · 19/06/2019 19:51

I'd be worried too but I'm guessing it's something and nothing. I'd he doesn't have a mobile he could have been messing about with a flat tyre and unable to contact you or similar. Fingers crossed he appears soon OP, and get him to buy a mobile for your own peace of mind

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