No sign of DH and DD - AIBU to feel really really worried?

[crazychemist]

Starting to feel a bit panicky - AIBU?

DH picks DD (2.5) up from nursery on Wednesdays, usually at about 5.30. The nursery closes at 6.30. Sometimes he takes her to visit his grandmother before they come home.

She just called to ask if she can see them later in the week as he didn’t drop by today. So if they aren’t there, where are they??? The nursery closed over an hour ago.

AIBU to start to panic? DH doesn’t carry a mobile phone, and I can’t phone his work/the nursery to find out what time he picked up as both are now closed. If he hadn’t picked her up, they’d have been phoning me, right?

Police op.

Is the fare insurance and his licence all tickety boo?

Could he have been pulled over by the police and had to go to the station for something?

I think I'd be ringing 101 now OP. And hospitals. At the very least they can tell you that something bad hasn't happened.

I hope they get home soon and he just lost track of time making the most of the lovely weather. I think after this I would be insisting he carries a mobile though. I understand why people don't like to but if he allows something like this to happen (I'm staying positive and thinking he's just been a bit of a thoughtless idiot rather than anything bad has happened) then he doesn't really get to argue his case x

Poor you op. I'd be very stressed too. Car broken down is the most likely explaination. despite what you said, I'd rope in parents to drive the route between home and nursery. Then they can bring dd home whilst he sorts the car.

If he's broken down then he isn't necessarily holding up others, the car could be pushed to the side of the road.

Have you and your DH had any problems? Is there any chance he's run away with her?

I know it's no help now however this is a very good reason for him to have a phone, even if it's just a cheap one he keeps in the car for emergencies.

I'd call your parents ASAP and then non emergency number if no luck.

I'd be panicking.. I am sure he will come back soon. I would call your mom and dad or anyone else who he may have gone to see... do you know any of the other parents at the nursery or have there numbers?

I'd give it a little longer and possibly also contact the police or hospital... I am not saying that anything has happened but if it's out of character you never know if he isn't well or your little one..

Hope they both turn up soon hoping they stopped off for some food and ended up having father and child bonding time and they will be home safe soon not realising the time

I would call the police on the basis it’s been over two hours since the nurses closed, not visited relatives as per routine and they are not home still.

If it becomes apparent he took a detour or stuck in traffic then let it be a lesson to carry his phone for contact - having it on him doesn’t mean he has to be addicted to it.

How worrying hope they turn up soon

If he had gone to visit his grandmother, what time would he arrive home then?

Please call the police now and your parents it doesn’t matter about causing a fuss right now finding your child is the important thing, there is no reasonable excuse to have a pre schooler out at this time without her tea and in bed. He would have called if there was an emergency or got a cab/break down call out if the car had an issue surely? How is your relationship in general?
If he lost track of time or something this will be a lesson to him for scaring you and proves he needs a mobile with him 24/7.
Sorry this is happening you must be worried out of your mind I really hope they are back soon

Any news OP?

To be honest, I agree with others, I would be calling the police - they are very late with no reasonable explanation.

It will probably turn out to be something simple but the police will have info on any local accidents etc.

I would be panicking by now, please don't wait any longer and ring your parents st least! I would be phoning the police and a&e.

Hope they turn up soon. How worrying for you

Oh goodness I feel stressed for you.

I would be calling the police at this stage, and definitely getting your parents to do the drive to check.

And WHEN this all proves to be fine, your husband is going to carry a mobile phone. Non negotiable, its ludicrous that you should be put through worry like this.

Oh poor you, OP. You must be frantic. Have you called the nearby hospitals?

Hope they are home soon - you must be out of your mind. He needs to get a basic phone -

I hope they turn up soon.
Please don't hesitate to call the police. You need help, they are the ones to help

Why doesn't he have a phone? I'd be insisting on him getting one now.

I hope everything is ok.

Does he have form for being a bit scatty, or is this completely out of character? If it's the second I'd also check with emergency services - not because it's likely anything bad's happened, but just to help with the anxiety

There'll almost certainly be a good reason for this, but I agree with PPs; a mobile phone's essential for the future

I would be calling the police and the local hospital to make sure they are not there. I would also not hesitate to call parents.

Really hope they turn up soon OP! Another vote for call 101 at this point. Hopefully there’s an innocent explanation but you need to know what’s going on. Fingers tightly crossed for you.

Hoping all will be fine op