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Original poster

No sign of DH and DD - AIBU to feel really really worried?

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crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:43

Starting to feel a bit panicky - AIBU?

DH picks DD (2.5) up from nursery on Wednesdays, usually at about 5.30. The nursery closes at 6.30. Sometimes he takes her to visit his grandmother before they come home.

She just called to ask if she can see them later in the week as he didn’t drop by today. So if they aren’t there, where are they??? The nursery closed over an hour ago.

AIBU to start to panic? DH doesn’t carry a mobile phone, and I can’t phone his work/the nursery to find out what time he picked up as both are now closed. If he hadn’t picked her up, they’d have been phoning me, right?

OP posts:
RomanyQueen · 19/06/2019 19:52

They've probably just stopped off somewhere, or are caught in traffic.
I wouldn't worry yet. I hope he's home soon.

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crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:54

Thanks for the advice, guys. I tried the nursery, no answer. He must have picked her up on time. There isn’t anyone else he would visit, the only other family nearby is my parents and they would call me. He’s never taken her on a play date and wouldn’t know where her friends live. Besides, it’s really late and I imagine if he knocked on a door of anyone else with a two year old they’d send him away!

The nursery is about 30 mins drive from here, as we picked one close to his work. So if they didn’t stop off anywhere the latest they should have been back was an hour ago, and he usually picks her up about an hour before that, so I can’t explain the last two hours!

No traffic on route according to google.

OP posts:
pyard · 19/06/2019 19:54

Definitely phone nursery as there may be someone there still.

Original poster
crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:54

Trying to distract myself to avoid insanity!

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MairzyDoats · 19/06/2019 19:55

Can you drive the route he would usually take to the nursery? And then the route from the nursery to his mum's? I'd be getting concerned by now.

pyard · 19/06/2019 19:55

Cross post Blush

GreyCloud0 · 19/06/2019 19:55

Maybe he called in the shops ? Went to the park?

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crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:56

I don’t have a car. I could phone my parents, they are close by and would do it, but I don’t want to cause a panic for no reason. They don’t like him much, and particularly don’t like the fact that he doesn’t carry a phone, so this would be fuel on the fire with them.

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Overmydeadbody456 · 19/06/2019 19:56

Do you have another car to be able to drive their route home in reverse?

Overmydeadbody456 · 19/06/2019 19:56

Sorry cross post

howwudufeel · 19/06/2019 19:56

It’s a lovely evening. Perhaps they are making the most of it?

Quartz2208 · 19/06/2019 19:57

99.99% of the time there is an explanation for these things and they are fine but yes I would also be panicking.

Can you walk or drive the route

aintnothinbutagstring · 19/06/2019 19:57

Could he have popped to the shops on the way home? Really not good he doesn't carry a phone while driving.

SmellMySmellbow · 19/06/2019 19:57

Can you phone the local hospital just to check admissions? Rule it out?

EAIOU · 19/06/2019 19:57

Did he say he was taking anywhere today and you possibly zoned out? (No offense meant but it happens)

Would he usually stop off for an ice cream or some shopping?

icelollycraving · 19/06/2019 19:58

Call your parents. Also, this is the best example of why he should carry a bloody phone!

Fiveletters · 19/06/2019 19:58

I’d be worried. Hopefully they walk through the door soon.

PumpkinPie2016 · 19/06/2019 19:58

I would be worried to OP Flowers it's late for him to be anywhere else with a child that age as she would surely be tired?

Call your parents just in case? Can either of them drive? If so, any chance they could drive the route he takes just in case he has broken down?

Check local news for any bad traffic that could be affecting them.

I hope they get back soon, please let us know.

Original poster
crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:59

I don’t think he’d pop to the shops. She’d be tired and hungry by now, she hardly eats at nursery, so there’s no way I can picture that they’re out doing something without her giving him an incredibly hard time.

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Divgirl2 · 19/06/2019 19:59

When is your DDs usual bedtime? If it gets more than about half an hour past that I'd be calling 101.

Singlebutmarried · 19/06/2019 19:59

Oh blimey.

Hope they turn up soon OP

Wildorchidz · 19/06/2019 19:59

Is there a local traffic twitter account that you could check to see if unexpected traffic issues?

Onemorecrisp · 19/06/2019 19:59

This is really selfish of him sorry. Ridiculous not having a phone with young children. I would get
My parents to go out and look. Have you called his grandma

Blankspace4 · 19/06/2019 19:59

Occupy yourself for an hour and in all likelihood they’ll be home. I would insist he carries a mobile though, in this day an age, for circumstances exactly like this!

justasking111 · 19/06/2019 19:59

Oh not having a phone would wind me up in these circumstances. Even an emergency one in the car if he really hates the things.