AIBU over what DC call their grandparents?

[AmericasDonkey]

I have 2 DC from a previous relationship, and a DC with my current partner. He also has a DC from a previous relationship.

My eldest DC call their grandmothers Nana and Grandma. My partner’s DC calls both their grandmothers Nanny (obviously this includes MIL). When I was pregnant, I said I didn’t want the baby to call MIL Nanny. Her other grandchildren call her Grandma, and I’d have liked our DC to do the same. I find the term Nanny a bit too cutesy. I know lots of people love it, it’s just not for me!

My partner has completely ignored my wishes and insists that MIL is Nanny. Our DC is starting to talk and I’m dreading when they’ll start calling MIL Nanny because that’s what my partner has taught them. AIBU?

All the working class people I know use Nanna, not a single one uses granny or grandma. Whereas the MC folk use granny or grandma. Doesn’t make a difference what part of the country they’re from either.

I’m hoping some great name for a grandma comes up before mine have children. I can’t think of anything worse than being nanna, granny or nanny.

I am leaning towards being one of those eccentric grandparents in denial at getting old who insist on being called by her first name.

@FiddleFaddleDingDong

”I do think it's a class thing though and you will have to humour it.”

Alas, this is the risk one takes when one jilts a marquess for a footman.

^ genius

Yab absolutely ridiculous.

Just ask your MIL what she prefers. My mum had a name she hates foisted on her by my sister, while my DC uses what she prefers. It works out fine.

"Nanny just gets my goat!" Good one OP AmericasDonkey

Interesting people are saying Nana is a working class choice. The Italian word for grandmother is Nonna, the Indian word is Nanni, the Welsh is Nain. They are all very similar, there's obviously some sort of link!

It does make me laugh when people pretend they think nanny can only relate to a paid employee, especially when you consider how uncommon nannies were 30 years ago when most posters were young. It’s only recently middle classe could afford nannies- but I guess the hyacinth bucket wannabe gene runs strong

I don't like Nanny either. Nor Gramps. Unfortunately those are my PILs' chosen variations and imma have to lump it 🤷‍♀️

I can’t stop hearing The Worst Actress In Employment- her from Downton Abbey - saying “granny” whenever I see this thread.

Nanny' is naff but harmless. I'd be inclined to let this one slide, OP.

The one who played Lady Mary, @BertrandRussell? I watched part of a documentary on Japanese wildlife for which she did the voiceover recently and before I even recognised her voice I wondered why they had hired someone who sounded as if she were dying of ennui on a chaise-longue rather than talking about monkeys in hot springs.

"I can’t stop hearing The Worst Actress In Employment"

I used to think she was an awful actor as well but then I saw her tv series "Good Behaviour" and she was amazing! She even played a drag queen in one episode and was scarily convincing! Seriously you should try watching it (It was shown in the USA, not sure if it was shown in the UK)

Our DC are the first grandchildren on both sides, so DC1 set the trend, as it were. DH and I weren't too bothered what they were called - we thought they should choose. The only thing I said to both DM and DMIL was that, growing up, I had a Granny Surname1 and Granny Surname2, and it seems really clunky. There are lots of lovely names; why didn't they choose something unique to them.

One way or they other, they both decided Nanny was the only thing they liked. So now we have Nanny Firstname1 and Nanny Firstname1...

I don't mind, but it is still clunky and awkward! Hopefully, one day I'll have grandchildren and I'll set a different trend.

Nanny Firstname1 and Nanny Firstname2, rather!