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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

OP posts:
DonnaDarko · 15/06/2019 12:53

I don't think you did anything wrong and, tbh, if it has been my buggy I would have laughed it off. Kids do silly things sometimes , regardless of development. I think that person was being extremely rude.

PanteneProV · 15/06/2019 12:54

She was really rude, yanbu

waterrat · 15/06/2019 12:56

She was over reacting op. Maybe she was having a bad day....don't take it personally she is in the wrong.

Original poster
Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:56

Thank you ino I’m probably be over emotional but it’s just really wound me up.

OP posts:
GraceSlicksRabbit · 15/06/2019 12:56

WTF did the other person expect you to have done? People are getting ruder and ruder. It’s some juice, if a parent can’t deal with that then they need to give themselves a shake.

Was it one of those ridiculous designer buggies with a frilly pink blanket inside?

BigRedLondonBus · 15/06/2019 12:59

Tbh I would have been annoyed if I had to put my child back down into a wet buggy so I think yabu

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 15/06/2019 12:59

The other woman has issues- ignore!!!

Teddybear45 · 15/06/2019 13:01

I guess she wanted money but while rude enough to have a go at you, wasn’t cheeky enough to actually do it.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 15/06/2019 13:01

It sounds like you did what you could. You didn’t ignore your dd, you moved her out of the way, presumably so she couldn’t do it again. All 3 year olds have their moments, regardless of SEN. It sounds like the other mother overreacted (which admittedly most of us have probably done on occasion in the past as well). If possible try to put it behind you (although I’m a total over thinker myself so I appreciate it’s easier said than done).
Flowers

Geminijes · 15/06/2019 13:02

She was rude. You did all you could do at the time.

Her own children have probably done similar to the buggy. Most children end up spilling drinks etc. while in a buggy.

Forget her and enjoy the rest of the day.

MammaMia19 · 15/06/2019 13:02

Hopefully next time her child does something wrong another mum will be as awful to her so she gets her karma!
I wouldn’t of been happy if another kid squirted my buggy but I wouldn’t of gone off about it. Kids do these things!

Whisky2014 · 15/06/2019 13:03

Mmm I think it would have looked like you just saw what your daughter did then carry on with what you were doing. If it was me, I'd have looked around for the owner maybe gesture that you acknowledged what your daughter done and that you would be dealing with it. Otherwise she might have just thought you were walking away. Doesn't sound like she was in the right either though. The whole situation could have been handled better.

TheInvestigator · 15/06/2019 13:04

Did you actually reprimand your daughter or was it just a casual "oh honey, don't do that" in a tinkly voice. If you actually reprimanded her for it then you did what you could. If you saw it happen and didn't provide a consequence then the other mother probably felt you'd just watched her do it and not bothered to punish the behaviour. I get annoyed if some kid does something to my belongings and the parent doesn't actually step in and parent their child or reprimand them.

LizzieMacQueen · 15/06/2019 13:04

There was juice in her bottle so likely to leave a sticky mess. Sorry OP but I think you should have cleaned it up immediately even if it meant you had to wrestle again with your son.

I know you said DD has additional needs but that wouldn't have been obvious to the woman watching her deliberately spray her buggy with juice. I would have been fuming too.

HennyPennyHorror · 15/06/2019 13:04

You moved her straight away...that's all you could do. She's probably one of those weirdos who treats their pram like a precious item.

WhiteRedRose · 15/06/2019 13:05

I'd appreciate a bit of juice on our buggy, OP. Might help free up some squished banana and quavers and save me the job later 😁

Whisky2014 · 15/06/2019 13:07

@HennyPennyHorror

You moved her straight away...that's all you could do.
What do you mean that's all she could do? She could have got tissues or wipes and cleared the mess!

B3ck89 · 15/06/2019 13:07

If you moved her straight away and definitely had the intention of cleaning it up then yanbu

gamerchick · 15/06/2019 13:09

There was juice in her bottle so likely to leave a sticky mess. Sorry OP but I think you should have cleaned it up immediately even if it meant you had to wrestle again with your son

Erm no, you sort out children first and foremost, especially when you have one with SN Hmm they are far more important than a bloody buggy.

It sounds like she was after money, just ignore her and don't let it get you down Flowers

Wearywithteens · 15/06/2019 13:11

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gamerchick · 15/06/2019 13:11

A tip though with getting them in the buggy easily. Plonk them in, grab the Inbetween the legs strap and pull it up. They can't slide out then. Fasten each clasp under the arms then feed arms though last.

Whisky2014 · 15/06/2019 13:13

It sounds like she was after money, just ignore her and don't let it get you down wtf? No it doesnt. It sounds like she was pissed that her buggy was now wet. Mumsnet really is a weird place sometimes.

gamerchick · 15/06/2019 13:13

She was understandably annoyed and probably could’ve been assuaged with a simple, polite and heartfelt apology. Why is this so difficult?

How about reading the room, noticing another mother was probably struggling slightly and having a bit of empathy?

BigRedLondonBus · 15/06/2019 13:13

Tbh I think you should have cleaned the buggy immediately. How weird to suggest she wanted money. You make a mess on someone’s stuff you clean it, it really is that simple.

HermioneKipper · 15/06/2019 13:13

I’ve really looked after our buggy so wouldn’t have been impressed if sticky juice had been squirted on it/I then had to put my child in a wet pram. (I only allow water/dry snacks for this reason!) But, it doesn’t sound like she was very nice while you were clearly having a tough time too. I’d have accepted your apology and gritted my teeth.