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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

464 replies

Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

OP posts:
DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 10:54

Are you talking about my sarcastic comment about them being allowed a dry cracker on high days and holidays?

The sarcastic comment made in reply to what a miserable childhood my kids must have had?

Is that what you meant by eating wafers?

I think maybe you need to work on your comprehension skills.

Biancadelrioisback · 16/06/2019 10:58

Why the fuck are you lot arguing about poo and wee? Breastfeeding and vomiting?
OPs child splashed a bit of juice on the footrest of another pushchair. That has sod all to to with whether your child has a poonami or not....

boobirdblue · 16/06/2019 10:59

@DecomposingComposers yep that was it, so they didn't even get that?

Biancadelrioisback · 16/06/2019 11:01

Also, whether you gave your child food or drink in the buggy is also irrelevant since the 3 year old in this scenario wasn't in a buggy. She was stood next to her mum.

You also have no idea if the child who sits in the other buggy is allowed food or drink so it is pointless arguing about it.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 11:08

*boobirdblue

You are being totally ridiculous. I've tried to reply to you in good faith. Not engaging anymore.

Have a good day.

transformandriseup · 16/06/2019 11:11

Whether it was my DD who squirted the juice or I was the buggy owner I wouldn’t have dwelled on this for more than a few moments. It would have been nice if the OP had had time to clean the buggy with a wet wipe but it may not have been possible if she was busy with her other child. I would have just said sorry and walked away.
I’m still using a carry cot which is part of a very expensive travel system but easy to clean. If a seagul has pood all over it I would have just got on with it and cleaned it myself.

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 11:12

My DD1 would have run off and not sat down at all, so it would have been far too stressful to sit her on a mat. What would the point of that have been anyway when there was a buggy to put her in? With bibs there wasn't much mess.

Especially since when she was a young toddler; she was very fussy so I used to give her a jar sometimes that I knew she would like.

In addition, mine were adopted and when they were young toddlers we couldn't risk anything going wrong as SS was still on the scene.

Anyway, this is a far cry from a little spilt juice, however much there was.

lucymegan · 16/06/2019 11:16

Op I wouldn't give this woman a second thought she's clearly a sandwich short of a picnic.

And for all the posters saying about the juice going on the seat. Op mentions above that the juice was no where near the feet it was where the kids feet go. So you can all stop frothing at the mouth!

MrsMiggins37 · 16/06/2019 11:23

But I would be upset, she would of either had of cleaned her buggy at the park and if she couldn't she'd have to carry her child home, which may of been awhile away, as well as push a sticky wet pushchair. Then after the potentially very difficult trip home get the thing washed and dry, meaning if she had other plans she'd have to cancel them until she could get out and about again. Its a massive nuisance to her really and I can very much see why she would be upset.

Oh, get a grip of yourself. Utterly pathetic.

Sockwomble · 16/06/2019 11:29

Our continence nurse is judgemental, thinks she knows it all when she doesn't and has a habit of winding parents up. I thought for a while she was on this thread.

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 11:31

Op mentions above that the juice was no where near the feet it was where the kids feet go. So you can all stop frothing at the mouth!

Except that we've moved beyond the OP, who isn't here anymore. We've ended up arguing about whether we gave our DC food in the buggy.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 11:33

Lizzie48

But all children are different. What worked for mine doesn't work for yours, because children are individuals.

What is the problem with that? You parent your children according to their needs and I parented mine according to their needs.

What's the problem with that?

Aaarrgghh · 16/06/2019 11:41

Peachsummer the OP's DD is developmentally delayed, so wouldn't have understood?

To be fair, my child has developmental delays and possibly autism, she cannot be trusted with water because she will CIA tangly pour it everywhere. The best thing to do is take the bottle away. Take it away and she can’t do it anymore, every single time. She doesn’t understand us telling her it’s wrong so we take it away. It makes sense. I take toys off her that she continues to throw and if she picks up other things and continues then she goes in her pushchair because it’s the only way to stop her. I don’t think that’s being a bad parent it’s just adjusting parenting to a child that doesn’t understand. Physical actions like removing things seems the best way.

Aaarrgghh · 16/06/2019 11:42

CIA tangly should be constantly*

Original poster
Millymollymandybestie · 16/06/2019 11:43

I’m still here but nothing is actually relevant to my post - it’s all gone a little crazy. Should have realised juice would have been questioned

OP posts:
lucymegan · 16/06/2019 11:49

@Millymollymandybestie getting their knickers in a pissy twist over some juice. Anybody would think you gave the child acid in a sports bottle 🙈 MN is like nothing I've seen before.

Biancadelrioisback · 16/06/2019 11:50

Lizzie we haven't moved beyond to OP, some posters have decided to hijack the thread and discuss incontinence in babies and eating in prams.

All it would have took would be one comment to the OP to say that some parents try to keep their buggies pristine which perhaps is why the lady was upset. Nothing she can do now except be more aware for next time.

Pinkmouse6 · 16/06/2019 11:53

Weird she even approached you, I wouldn’t dream of confronting someone over this.

Surely it’s just a simple job for a wet wipe, absolutely no need for her to talk to you like shit.

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 11:57

There isn't a problem with that. You seem to have a problem with it, though, believing that other mums might have a harder time, though considering your judgemental comments about other parents.

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 12:04

Lizzie48

Where have I been judgemental of other parents? All I've said is what I did with my children.

I've had plenty of judgemental comments made to me. The fact that I said that my children didn't drink juice, were breast fed and didn't eat in their pram isn't judging others. It is simply saying what I did.

If you are confident in the choices that you made why do you feel judged by other people making different choices? If you are happy with the choices you made why does it matter what anyone else chose to do?

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 12:08

That was my point really, @Biancadelrioisback the discussion about eating in buggies was nothing to do with the OP. I think a lot of us were surprised at the efforts some will go to to keep the buggy pristine. Some of us needed to focus all our efforts on keeping our DC safe whilst also feeding them. A pristine buggy was the least of our worries.

But if you were able to keep your buggy clean, that's great, well done, but please understand that some mums have a much harder time of it and cut them some slack.

Lizzie48 · 16/06/2019 12:11

I don't feel judged, actually, I was speaking up for other mums. It's too long ago to worry about what happened when my DDs were little.

Can we stop this argument? I'm not judging you, honestly, I'm sure you were a great mum; I was trying to explain that life is a lot harder for some of us. Smile

PortiaCastis · 16/06/2019 12:13

Oh FFS it's a buggy not the crown jewels

DecomposingComposers · 16/06/2019 12:18

but please understand that some mums have a much harder time of it and cut them some slack.

I don't understand this. Why do I need to cut anyone some slack? If they aren't affecting me why do I need to cut them any slack?

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 16/06/2019 14:50

One of my dc has asd, he’s never drank water. We finally have in at 18 months after him drinking nothing but breast milk till that point and have him juice

I had far more to be worrying about than a bit of juice

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