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Original poster

to be abit peeved that DS age10 on sleepover -

230 replies

bamboowarrior · 09/06/2019 15:50

was allowed to watch a 15cert film without the parent checking in with me first?

what age do you allow your kids to watch 12cert and 15cert and 18 cert films? wouldn't you, out of courtesy, check in with the parents first?

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OpportunityKnocks · 09/06/2019 15:52

What was the film?

icecreamsundae32 · 09/06/2019 15:55

Depends on the film. My aged 8&10 have seen all the marvel avengers films and no issues, they are 12a/15

ShaggyRug · 09/06/2019 15:57

Depends on the film and the 10yo.

I allowed DD to watch certain 15’s at that age.

TeenTimesTwo · 09/06/2019 15:57

Film is irrelevant. YANBU.

Unfortunately I have discovered that many parents seem to think this is OK.

I would never show an over age film to a child without checking with the parent.

OP - sadly you need to explicitly mention films / games to parents.

pikapikachu · 09/06/2019 15:58

12A is usually fine for 10yo but 15/18 isn't imo.

Did the parents put the film on or did the kids do it? In my experience streaming services and tv don't make the certificate obvious and if it's the parent's account then al certificates would show. If it's a dvd then the certificate is very clear so I'd be more annoyed by that. Did another child bring a dvd with them?

steppemum · 09/06/2019 16:00

I don't think it is relevant what the film was. You are not the parent and it isn't up to you to decide whether they can watch a 15.

We had a blanket ban on older age films. One reason it was a blanket ban was simply that my oldest will argue the hind leg off a donkey, and I wasn't prepared to argue every single film with him. So, aged 10, no 12 and no 15 films.

By age 10, I knew he would see some 12 at other people's houses, but would be pretty cheesed off if they were watching a 15.

NeedAUsernameGenerator · 09/06/2019 16:00

I have a nearly 10 year old and I wouldn't be happy with this either. I might show a 12A to other children (with permission) but I wouldn't show my DD a 15 yet so definitely wouldn't show one at a sleepover.

werideatdawn · 09/06/2019 16:01

Really depends on the film.
Bad language and moderate action type stuff I wouldn't be too bothered about.
Sexual violence or excessive gore I would be very angry.

Wildorchidz · 09/06/2019 16:03

You are right to be annoyed. I would be too. When mine had friends over I’d always check with parents.
Do you know if the parents were aware the children were watching it?

Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 09/06/2019 16:05

I am on guard atm as dd's friends are turning 13 and multiple pics on SM of girls with alco pops! Films I am less upright about but alcohol supplied to teens ffs?!?!
Yanbu to be a bit pd. Other dps should not make decisions for guests.

GetUpAgain · 09/06/2019 16:08

If I knew, I would check with other parents, but its easy enough for kids to stream something that is too old. I tended to have conversation with my child first about the rules so they could let me know if anything like this was brewing...

BlackCatsRock · 09/06/2019 16:08

YANBU

My 12 year old son is not allowed to watch 15/18 rated films and I'd be fuming if he went to a sleepover and the parents allowed it without checking. My son is very sensible and would more than likely speak up.

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bamboowarrior · 09/06/2019 16:09

OMG alcopops? Gulp! I'd better ask if they had them too!!!

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Sootyandsweep2019 · 09/06/2019 16:13

I don't really see the issue with 13 year Old's having a glass of WKD/ Bacardi breezer at a sleepover under parental supervision :s

  1. Alcopops are designed for teenagers - surely nobody over 18 is actually going to buy or drink WKD when they are out 🤣

  2. It's very hard to get drunk off of a glass of WKD/ Bacardi breezer etc. Surely a glass with friends, alongside pizza and a film at a sleepover is a much, much better introduction to alcohol than getting absolutely wasted on your 18th birthday.

  3. Drinking small amounts, with friends, over food and music at a party is a much more civilized introduction to alcohol than drinking off a park bench.

Back to the op; it would totally depend on the film.

DizzySue · 09/06/2019 16:15

Depends on the film.

What was it?

AlaskanOilBaron · 09/06/2019 16:17

I don't really see the issue with 13 year Old's having a glass of WKD/ Bacardi breezer at a sleepover under parental supervision :s

Are you joking?

Ithinkmycatisevil · 09/06/2019 16:17

Depends on the film really. I’m think I’d let my 14 year old watch most things really.

The 11 year old, maybe a 15 depending on the film.

I’m pretty relaxed unless it’s very sexually explicit. I wouldn’t let the 14 year old watch 50 shades of grey for example.
I would however be ok with the 11 year old watching something like terminator.

AlaskanOilBaron · 09/06/2019 16:18

Really depends on the film but I probably have more lax judgment than others.

BlackCatsRock · 09/06/2019 16:18

To those who think it's ok, please can you name the 15 rated films that you think are appropriate for a 10 year old to be watching?

AlaskanOilBaron · 09/06/2019 16:19

I couldn’t, but I know I’ve been surprised at what’s 15 before.

Teddybear45 · 09/06/2019 16:21

Depends on the film.

Moneybegreen · 09/06/2019 16:21

Depends on the film I think?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 09/06/2019 16:22

I wouldn’t no-and no alcohopops either!

hopefulhalf · 09/06/2019 16:23

Unfortunately Sooty although we may like to think so, the research does not bear that out. Much better to avoid alcohol until 18.
www.aricsigman.com/

icannotremember · 09/06/2019 16:23

Like pp have said it depends on the film. And also on the child tbh. My 10 year old is so easily upset and would be really disturbed by things his elder brother took in his stride at that age.