If your husband had a month long affair with colleague, would you want to know?

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If your husband of just 3 years had an affair with a colleague for a month, which he initiated would you want to know if that affair had now ended?

It should be noted that the couple in question also have a 7 month old baby.

The affair involved lots of daily messaging, sexting and pictures, meeting a few times for kissing and touching and two times for sex.

The affair ended when the other woman stopped it because she had feelings for the husband but some more sexting happened after this, initiated by her. The husband then had an accident and was off work for a few weeks and decided himself that the affair should end.

If you were the wife would you want to know?

Yes

Absolutely yes

Yes absolutely

Yes definitely

I would, yes.

Who are you in this scenario?

Yes. And my marriage would be over too.

Unless the wife is your best friend, I wouldn't get involved x

Yes, I’d definitely want to know.

Yes

Yes. Are you the OW?

Absolutely. My marriage and my trust are based on our commitment to one another. If one side of a couple is shitting on the other (and regardless of excuses cheating is the absolute ultimate, inexcusable disrespect) the other side has every right to know and make an informed decision based on the facts.

Yes of course. Even if she's the first, I vet she won't be the last.

Yes. Although I haven't always been brave enough/considered it important enough to call the H at the time out on it, I've always been glad of the information. The truth will set you free - to decide how to live your own life.

Yes I would want to know, if I decided to stay in the marriage I wouldn't want the ow to have secret knowledge if we had to cross paths at some point.. I probably wouldn't stay in the marriage though.

Yes

Doesn't matter who I am really as it doesn't change what he has done. So, even if he did the right thing in the end, you would still want to know?

Yes of course. But let me guess, you'd only be doing it because it's the right thing to do

Yes. BUT, If you are the OW, question yourself - WHY are you wanting justification for telling his wife? It isn't because you feel bad or that she deserves to know. Because if she had been important enough to be considered then you wouldnt have fucked her husband. Be honest about why you want to tell her, because you are going to destroy her life. If you are not the OW, please ignore the above

If you are the Ow which I suspect you are then what are the motives for telling her? Because you feel sorry for her or jealousy that he didn't pick you?

But it doesn't matter if I am the OW, the husband, or just someone in the know. Everyone has said they would want to know... as would I.

Caveat - I think finding out from the other woman would probably be as painful as it could get..

No I wouldn't want to know.

It absolutely does matter who you are. Because she doesn't know and if you are the OW which your post suggests you are, your motivation is not honest.

Yes the husband is a cunt in tgese scenarios but so is anyone who knowingly gets involved with a married man

Agree Furrydogmum and a total fucking pig act by the OW.