Cousin copying everything i do..

[Getyaownstyle]

I’ll start by saying that I know many would say imitation is the greatest form of flattery but it’s driving me insane.

I come from a close family and live about 20 mins from my cousin and her family. Cousin in question is in her early thirties (there’s only 18 months between us). We’re not teenagers.

I had my first baby last year. She’s nearly 1. Cousin had her first (a girl 3 months ago). Every single bit of baby paraphernalia is identical to mine - pram, changing bag, nursery decor and furniture, clothes, muslins, bouncer, you name it.

We’re all going on holiday as a family next week. I went round to hers to visit and she showed me her baby’s bits and pieces - and her baby’s suitcase is near on identical to my dd’s, pretty much every outfit.

I know it sounds petty but it’s wearing me down. She babysat my daughter at our house a while ago so must have had a snoop then.

Perhaps your cousin isn't confident in her parenting and looks to you to see what is 'right' to do? Perhaps talk to her? On holiday you could see an outfit and say oh your dd looks lovely in this colour? To give her some help and direction?

This is one of those threads I see on here and think if only the op had phrased that differently the advice would be so different. Same problem, different wording and there would have been drastically different replies.

My cousin copies absolutely everything, my hair, my home, my child's clothes. She babysat recently I think she snooped in the spare room because when I visited again she had purchased everything almost the same. But the weirdest thing was my child's nursery, it's exactly the same. Aibu to be a bit unsettled/annoyed? = same problem and I beg the replies would have been different, certainly nicer

And we are going on holidays on the 15th, my dd's clothes have been in the case a month, no special wardrobe just no sunshine here yet and there will be where we are going. If the sun came out here I'd simply open the case and get use out of the clothes. It's not a hard concept to grasp really

@fairweathercyclist - A friend recently found themselves in a situation when they hande dover a lot of abby stuff to a fmaily member maing it very clear that they would need it back, and guess what, the fmaily member most likely sold them, and claimed they 'misplaced them' and then kept on forgetting to look for them. Friend had to repurchase everything, so hand me downs are not always that great.