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To be livid over this lazy awful excuse for parenting last night

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:15

I wnet out for girls night and was drinking, baby is normally breastfed but will take formula as I struggle to express.
We havbr used a bottle for several months so I told dp they probably need washing and re sterilising. He said he checked and they didn't need washing just sterilising.
Checked this morning as baby now. Awake and I can't breastfeed yet due to alcohol, last night, and there three bottles with black mould on them in steriliser. I've hit the roof. How lazy is it not to check?
He thinks it isn't a big deal but I'm freaking out that he's put the baby at risk just because he cba to wash up 4 bottles before starlising them!
I know he has ds while I was out but wtaf
I'm panicking that I need to take ds to Dr now.

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RapscallionKat · 26/05/2019 05:17
Shock

YANBU!!

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:20

Are you serious it's one night off?! Other arrangements were made n baby was with his dad. He feeds twice a day I did hisfeed before I went out so it's max two formula feeds in 48 hours

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Coolcoolcoolcoolcool · 26/05/2019 05:20

Snowdropheaven that's unnecessary and mean.

HollyBen · 26/05/2019 05:22

WTAF Snowdropheaven! OP isn't allowed to drink alcohol whilst breastfeeding but not no comment on the lazy arse DH who thinks it is ok to feed a baby with bottles which are mouldy. Confused

ValleyoftheHorses · 26/05/2019 05:23

Snowdropheaven
What a horrible thing to say! Why shouldn’t she have a night out, the baby has two parents who should be looking after him equally.

RapscallionKat · 26/05/2019 05:24

Ignore snow. What a weird train of thought

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:25

Will baby be okay? Sorry first time mom and I'm really freaking out. He's not been sick at all and seems OK

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:26

He's 10mths old

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Hobsbawm · 26/05/2019 05:29

If you were drinking last night you can breastfeed this morning. Drinking doesn't mean you can't. Just so that you know.

I have no idea about how your baby will be but I'd have hit the roof too!

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:31

I've washed all bottled n steriliser n expressing off bad milk now. In warm bath.
Produce lots of milk but expressing always been hard.
I might ring the NHS helpline n ask, which seems mad but I've no idea what else to do

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Fireballfriends · 26/05/2019 05:34

Honestly OP I think your baby will be absolutely FINE, stop panicking!! Babies are very resilient. I'd have panicked if that happened to my first child but the last one? Nope! I could tell you some horror stories about stuff my kids have eaten/had in their mouths and they've all be ok.

Your DH is a lazy arse and YANBU - you have every right to relax on a night out knowing your baby is cared for, he's just denied you that on this occasion and presumably the next as well.

Ignore Snowdropheaven - very odd thing to say

RebootYourEngine · 26/05/2019 05:36

Is he normally this clueless. Surely you would just wash the bottles anyway before sterilising.

How is your baby this morning?

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:37

Thanks.
It's more that he was like I check and is doesn't matter, I'd be horrified if I'd done something like that even by accident but its just lazy not to wash up 4 bottles and then re sterilise.
I just did it in under 5 min. (starlkser time on top)

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:39

This is. My first but his 4th so you would think he'd know!
I'm so cross, so so cross, baby woken up squelling but he's teething and had a bad week as cutting new teeth. So very hard to tell

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Teddybear45 · 26/05/2019 05:41

You really need to blow up at him. Mould can seriously harm a baby. If he’s usually this careless and can’t see where he went wrong, he’s a safety risk to the baby and you probably need to give him an ultimatum. In the meantime throw out the affected bottles and make him pay for new ones from his personal money

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:43

I should have just washed them and sterlaised again myself before going out. But I reminded him that he needed to do it before I left.
We even have a small microwave sterlaised so he could have just done the one bottle he needs

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giantdinosaur · 26/05/2019 05:44

YOU CAN BREASTFEED!

Sorry OP- but don't worry about the alcohol you consumed last night. It is fine to breastfeed now.

Veterinari · 26/05/2019 05:45

Fuck off @Snowdropheaven and stop being a sexist arsehole

Op i’m Sure baby will be fine but you absolutely should be furious at your DP

Happyspud · 26/05/2019 05:45

Had they been in the steriliser for weeks or something? But in any case, you don’t need to sterilise after 6 months (if course I did on baby #1 but by baby #4 it was 6 months and no more!). So just keep your bottles washed and dry in the cupboard from now. You can use them straight if they’re clean or give a little wash if you feel they’ve gotten dusty.

AmeriAnn · 26/05/2019 05:46

I didn't drink while breastfeeding but my midwife told me to have a drink if the baby won't go to sleep. I just remembered this - mind you my baby was born in 1975.

HollyBen · 26/05/2019 05:48

I would think baby will be fine OP. If it will put your mind at rest give NHS24 a ring.

I would be livid!

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:50

I've calmed down. Blind panic at 5 am I think after three hours sleep.
I've spoke to him and he just said I'm not taking about this. Then just said ones I used didn't have mould on so it's fine and I'd sterlaised it again. I said mould I'd dangerous and he said he's not talking about it and gone to bed.
Just wash them up!!

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TheSerenDipitY · 26/05/2019 05:51

you are extremely unreasonable to not WASH AND STERILIZE the bottles ( and pump) every fucken time you use them... EVERY FUCKEN TIME!!!

giantdinosaur · 26/05/2019 05:51

And honestly I wouldn't fret too much about the mouldy bottle. Just keep an eye out for any symptoms.

I imagine this is not that uncommon. I know my DC have drunk from those squirty bath toys which get so mouldy inside. And they're totally fine!

I would still be fuming with my DP though...