To be livid over this lazy awful excuse for parenting last night

[Spanglyprincess1]

I wnet out for girls night and was drinking, baby is normally breastfed but will take formula as I struggle to express.
We havbr used a bottle for several months so I told dp they probably need washing and re sterilising. He said he checked and they didn't need washing just sterilising.
Checked this morning as baby now. Awake and I can't breastfeed yet due to alcohol, last night, and there three bottles with black mould on them in steriliser. I've hit the roof. How lazy is it not to check?
He thinks it isn't a big deal but I'm freaking out that he's put the baby at risk just because he cba to wash up 4 bottles before starlising them!
I know he has ds while I was out but wtaf
I'm panicking that I need to take ds to Dr now.

Good grief please don't 'dump the bad milk'. This is utter tosh and you can feed now. I donated BM and the guidance has changed a long time ago. If you were totally hammered maybe avoid, otherwise you'd be fine.
You can wash bottles rather than sterilise at that age.
Your partners behaviour is really odd. Tbf he probably did just one and gave that to the baby. I'd be worried about why he thinks it's acceptable to leave the rest and if it was intentional to scare you into staying home.

Why does it matter how the bottles got mouldy?

OP is not that one that fed the baby with them.

I'm utterly amazed at the ability of some people to turn a fuckup by a male into the fault of woman...who wasn't even there?

Yes in the micro starlise. Uts like mildew not mould. They are washed n re staralised but maybe some risidule water must be there.
Maybe drying n storing between if we don't use them is a better idea. But tbf I don't use them
Dp has 4 kids. This is my first but his 4th

I agree with everyone about the mould as it doesn’t develop that fast.

You can breastfeed, don't pump and dump!!

I don't understand how they are black with mouldy so quickly!

It wasn't all of them it was one teat and ring and one bottle in steriliser. But I'd have not used any to be safe. Anyway, all washed now and re sterlaised and I'm going to dry them a d put them in the cupboard rather than keep in the steriliser.
Not sure why it's my fault when I never e er use them as I exclusively breastfeed bbay. He had mabye 5 bottles of formula in the last 4-5 months of that.
Usually because I was stuck at work or out or unwell.

@CaptainBrickbeard

Really fabulous post.

Well, if your DSp has 3 older children who he hasn't poisoned and seems relaxed about this, I'd think your baby will survive.

I imagine he would have vomited by now if the mould was going to do anything to him.

Glad baby will very much most likely be okay as I freaked out.
He's very active and happy now as just woken up and breastfed.

Genuinely thought you had to pump n dump, hv said so to me!

I think in cold light of day I'm going to chuck the big steriliser as he leaves bottles on it.
I'll. Wash n dry them and then he will have to sterilise for each use in the mini microwave steriliser we have.
So in a way a good learning curve!
Silver linings and all that

It is disgusting but I am really confused as to why the bottles we’re mouldy in the first place place. I know you don’t use them much but they must be cleaned,sterilised, dried totally and put away after use to prevent mould. They were not fit to be used if they have been left in such a way that mould could build on them. Sorry OP you need to take some responsibility for this too as these bottles shouldn’t have got mouldy in the first place and he shouldn’t have used them. Although even if scrubbed them and sterilised them it may not have been enough to have cleaned them enough too to use them. If they had mould in them they are only fit for the bin.

It's not food mould it's water mould. Eg mildew I think is best discribed as.
Anyway I'm bored of explaining that point.
Also I DON'T USE THE BOTTLES Ever.
I only noticed as I had to use the breasypump and a piece of it was in steriliser

I assume OP means something like this rather than a big fluffy ecosystem on it's own. It's easy to miss in something that you haven't used in a while. Especially if under the rim and inside the teat and the bottle is done up. Hell apparently it's easy enough to miss for parents with kids that use their bottles everyday at school.

Op now you say one bottle win mould

In your op it was there three bottles with black mould on them in steriliser.

Ugh I hate those bottles @YourSarcasmIsDripping . Terrible for getting mouldy!

Jesus OP hide this thread.

It wouldn’t be your fault if there was a whole penicillin factory in the bottles.

Your DP was in charge of feeding the baby. Your DP is by the sound of it the only one who ever gives baby a bottle.

Washing up the fucking bottles isn’t your responsibility!

'Sorry OP you need to take some responsibility for this too as these bottles shouldn’t have got mouldy in the first place and he shouldn’t have used them'.

Yes OP. You are responsible for your DP's inactions now.

Three bits, eg three parts which I couldn't as three. But cheers

Yes like that stuff.

I didn't know you got it on sports bottles. Ewww. I've checked his sippy. Cups now. But I clean those evry day and there fine. His stuck straw one I had to get a straw cleaner thing for as it was gross.

Thank you to those who've been helpful.
I was prob a bit mean on original title as I was freaking out. Baby seems very happy this morning and is racing about.
Phew all round.
Plus I've learned something ref pump n dump.

@Snowdropheaven what a fucking stupid comment, woman has ONE night off breastfeeding!

Are your issues with alcohol, a woman socialising, being away from a baby. All of those are normal things and you need to address your ridiculous issues.

@Spanglyprincess1 YANBU.

Also to clarify I don't feel responsible for bottles as I never ever since he was born have ever given him one not even for water as he's used a cup or breastfed.
Dp using it for bottles as a backup

What a twat, but on a separate note you're fine to breastfeed. Alcohol moves in and out of the milk so I'm pretty sure by the next day there shouldn't be any problem with your milk

When will HVs stop giving out such inaccurate and unhelpful advice like that you need to pump and dump!? The research is right there about levels of alcohol that make it into breastmilk. I'm so sick of the uneducated being able to foist their outdated bollocks on bf mums.

As for the poster who tried to shame the OP about having a night out - just ignore them OP, I hope you had fun.

Reported snowdrop. OP does your H normally pull passive aggressive stunts when you go out or do something for yourself?

Ermm I don't know tbh I don't do it often.
He cut the cable off the lawnmower the first time I asked him to. Cut the grass! But I think it was an accidnrt