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To be livid over this lazy awful excuse for parenting last night

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Spanglyprincess1 · 26/05/2019 05:15

I wnet out for girls night and was drinking, baby is normally breastfed but will take formula as I struggle to express.
We havbr used a bottle for several months so I told dp they probably need washing and re sterilising. He said he checked and they didn't need washing just sterilising.
Checked this morning as baby now. Awake and I can't breastfeed yet due to alcohol, last night, and there three bottles with black mould on them in steriliser. I've hit the roof. How lazy is it not to check?
He thinks it isn't a big deal but I'm freaking out that he's put the baby at risk just because he cba to wash up 4 bottles before starlising them!
I know he has ds while I was out but wtaf
I'm panicking that I need to take ds to Dr now.

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Ginfizplease · 26/05/2019 06:52

I've reported Snow's post.

And come on people on this thread. Why is the OP getting a bashing from some? Why should she have to be the one to wash them before she left? Why can't her DP? It's one time in however many months when she's clearly done pretty much every other feed!

I'd be angry with DP too! I would also ditch the bottles and get new if you need them. And there'll be no alcohol in your milk now. It'd be like chucking a glass of wine in a full bath tub last night. It disappears in the same way alcohol does from your blood stream.

Oysterbabe · 26/05/2019 06:55

I disagree with those who say you don't need to sterilise after 6 months. You always have to sterilise with formula irrespective of the child's age.

CaptainBrickbeard · 26/05/2019 06:56

Just to reiterate what everyone else has said - you can drink and breastfeed. The baby won’t get any alcohol. The alcohol level on your milk is the same as in your bloodstream - which is a teeny tiny perecentage. If you had drunk enough for it to make your milk alcoholic, you would be dead. The only issue is not to feed whilst actually drunk and unsafe to care for the baby because you might drop them or fall asleep.

It really worries me when I see people posting that women have to be teetotal from the day they conceive to the day they finish breastfeeding as so many women are already daunted by breastfeeding, struggle with it and get very little support and tons of misinformation about it which is why breastfeeding rates are so low in this country. I don’t think any woman should be pressured to breastfeed but I think it’s a shame when women can’t because of all the nonsense that is constantly spouted about it.

So, drinking whilst breastfeeding is nothing like drinking whilst pregnant! Alcohol will not pass through the milk!

cranstonmanor · 26/05/2019 07:00

I agree with you OP. Your DH orobably wouldn't eat moulded lasagne so he shouldn't give the baby moulded food. Some moulds are dangerous.

SunshineCake · 26/05/2019 07:06

I hope you had a nice evening.

Today I would be having very strong words with your partner after checking if baby needs checking. Then he'd be going out to buy all new bottles as the mouldy ones would be binned. Some would wash them a few times in the dishwasher if you have one, or very hit boiled water, but I know I'd feel better chucking them.

What an idiot.

Cobblersandhogwash · 26/05/2019 07:12

You can breastfeed. No need to worry about that.

www.llli.org/breastfeeding-info/alcohol/

MyInnerAlto · 26/05/2019 07:12

^^What Captain Brickbeard said. I never pumped and dumped once in my cumulative 11 years of breastfeeding. Admittedly I'm not and have never been a big 'night-out' drinker, but I've certainly bf after a couple of glasses of wine - if you are able to care for a baby you are able to breastfeed him or her.

MyInnerAlto · 26/05/2019 07:14

There was a huge thread on here in the Very Olden Days about sterilising (or not) post-6 months - wonder if it's still around?

Amibeingdaft81 · 26/05/2019 07:15

@Oysterbabe

I disagree with those who say you don't need to sterilise after 6 months. You always have to sterilise with formula irrespective of the child's age.

Is this according to medical expert aka oysterbabe

Or actually guidance by NHS? backed up in BMJ perhaps? even formula manufacturers etc? Genuine question

Pissoffbranthebroken · 26/05/2019 07:16

Yeah is be pretty annoyed at him too. However... we all make mistakes and he’s a first time parent too I’m assuming ? Throw the teats away along with any guilt. Keep an eye on any sickness from baby but I doubt there will be. When my DC was just crawling so quite young, they found and sucked an older DCs mouldy dummy from the bottom of a toy box. Must have been years old! Blush but they were absolutely fine.

Also I hope you had a lovely time, tonight pour yourself a large glass of wine whilst you breastfeed your baby and dont be so hard on yourself or DP. Shit happens, baby’s fine.

floraloctopus · 26/05/2019 07:17

It's down to both of you about the black mould on the bottles as that didn't get there overnight, those bottles have been dirty for a while.

Woodifer · 26/05/2019 07:18

OK so imagine you had a big barrel and put in 7 to 8 pint glasses of water (or blood but that's a bit yuck) - so that's a rough approximation of your blood volume

Now throw in your alcoholic drinks (which aren't 100% alcohol anyway 5% for beer, 12% wine)

Now "processs" (magically remove) 1 (or half) a drink per hour since you drank each drink (so if you drank 1 drink (1/2 pint, small wine) an hour you'd be "processing" it anyway)

The concentration of alcohol in the liquid in your barrel (i.e in you blood or milk) is very very low - even on the night you've been drinking (if you're not completely blotto), and incredibly low the morning after.

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Fatted · 26/05/2019 07:23

@Oysterbabe

Once I caught my DS licking his dirty pram wheels at about six months old and coming to no harm, I realised there was no point sterilising everything anymore.

OpportunityKnocks · 26/05/2019 07:25

Did you leave the bottles in the micro steriliser? I did with my first and that happened quite quickly . I threw them away.

I'd be utterly livid though.

Offer him a lovely glass of water in a black mould glass.

jaseyraex · 26/05/2019 07:25

"It's important to sterilise all your baby's feeding equipment, including bottles and teats, until they are at least 12 months old"

From NHS website. It's not the bottle that's the issue, it's the formula that isn't sterile and causes stomach upset.

Anyway, OP I think baby will likely be fine but I would call 111 if you're worried. Your OH is a lazy git. Cleaning the bottles take 5 minutes. Even if he didn't sterilise them, he must have noticed the mould and common sense would be to bloody clean them.

LIZS · 26/05/2019 07:26

Unless you got absolutely paralytic you are being ott by not bf. You also could have checked bottles beforehand, bit late to be fussed now. Your baby will be fine.

Oysterbabe · 26/05/2019 07:30

The NHS says to sterilise until 12 months. Most people switch to cows milk then.

longwayoff · 26/05/2019 07:31

Are you serious? Have you tried washing and drying food containers directly after they've been used? That will solve any future mould issues.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 26/05/2019 07:33

I'm another one who doesn't understand how the bottles were mouldy? Unless they've been left without washing up the last time they were used. Which is pretty gross in itself.

Amibeingdaft81 · 26/05/2019 07:39

Odd that so uptight about this

And yet bottles are able to grow mould in a month, which is unlikely in such a short time.

However if we take your word for it - means they weren’t properly washed and dried before storage.

Ilovefriday · 26/05/2019 07:39

In defence of the OP I can see how the bottles went mouldy. I imagine they were washed and sterilised but put away slightly damp and then not used for a few weeks. We have had this problem with plastic sports bottles.

User8888888 · 26/05/2019 07:39

I’m glad the sterilisation issue has been clarified. There is always advice on the boards that goes against current guidance for bottle feeding (both in terms of formula prep and cleaning) which is stated as fact despite going against nhs advice.

magicBrenda · 26/05/2019 07:39

Those bottles have been sat there a while. Black mould doesn’t grow that fast