to not expect to my dp to come home steaming drunk with my ds (4) from his nursery presentation day??????

[Jazzicatz]

Well am I??????

I agree drinking and driving is criminal, of course, but am less shocked at this than at the fact the nursery staff (who were presumably all sober? Jeez maybe they were drunk too?) watched them go.

Banning him would only backfire on me though!!

I don't think you should "punish him" - you are not his mother! He has put your child's life at great risk (and others) I would look at his drinking and address the whole issue. Do you think he is an alcoholic (he could not say not to one too many, inspite of having his child with him speaks volumes).

Would you consider reporting him to the police? I think I would. He could have killed your child, he needs to wake up. OTOH if he is convicted/jailed your whole family is in a world of shit, you'll have to function without him. It's difficult. But I don't think I could stop myself personally, I would be spitting blood and feathers.

Better that than someone dying because of his behaviour.

they might not have realised how much he'd drank though... they probably had kids to look after...
but knowing your dh drives when over the limit .... words fail me

If he regularly drinks and drives jazzi he has some serious alcohol problems. Anyone who can't control their drinking to even stay within the law should seek help.

Given that this is the situation I would imagine he had already been drinking before he got to nursery, wouldn't you?

I doubt there's any good in reporting him to the police now - it's after the event. I would certainly tell him that I would be calling the police if he was ever in charge of a car whilst over the limit again.

"Banning him would only backfire on me though!!"

what about if he ran over someone's kid - that would ruin your life a whole lot more

It makes no difference whether it is after the event or not. He still did it. People don't normally get let off crimes because it is after the event.

Yeah, and you know what else would backfire on you??

When he kills some innocent woman out taking her baby or a walk, or a child on a bike, or a man coming home from his days work

I am not ashamed to say my mam reported my dad for drink driving, years ago, he was banned. Had to retake his test. We had a huge family & my mam couldn't drive. Good job she didn't think about it backfiring on her, eh?

Well at our preschool end of term bash they were serving Pimms. It's hardly a problem if you have a couple. If you're absolutely pissed then that's not good.

Jazzi I would imagine this is all a big shock to you.

I know you posted asking for opinions but us lot waving our pitchforks isn't really going to help you think through what you want to do right now.

I suggest buggering off the computer and going to try and sort your head out a bit. You obviously need to do some serious thinking. Good luck with it.

banning him would backfire on you? but letting him drive so drunk he can't walk and may one day kill someone...that wouldn't backfire on you then?

I know he could kill someone and that makes me so angry with him, I really don't know what to do!!!!!!!!

You should henna tatoo onto his forehead

'I drink and drive with my children in the car'

...he won't do it again after that's been on there for 5 days.

sorry xposted with fairy

or
left had 'I am a'
right hand 'tosser'

that'd do it too.

Well for a start I might let him read this thread, let him see how many people think he is a twat.

Then I would suggest he thought about his alcohol consumption. I would also suggest he think about your marriage & about putting your kids before himself for a change.

Pay attention to F&Z.

Ok, here's my opinion for what it's worth. I think you already know that it's not unreasonable to be furious at your husband as you know that drinking and driving is just shitty, not only that he was putting his own life and your child's in danger, but that he was driving and could have taken the life of someone else too. I think you should contact the police and get him charged with driving under the influence... maybe then he'll understand. If not, print off some pictures of drunken road traffic casualties and present them to him when he wakes up with a greasy breakfast.

But with drunk driving I was always under the impression they had to catch you at it. Him being drunk now and at home does not mean he drove home over the limit.

You can, if you can prove he's been driving and have witnesses (i think)

He isnt diabetic is he??

just hinking about how you said you were surprised how drunk he was and how quickly it happened. If he is as big as you describe, acting durnk can be a symtom od low blood sugar??