Yes Atilla I did post under the name Jazzi - and things are no better, what to do though eh?
Hi Jazzicatz
Thought it was you originally but did not want to presume in advance. I am sorry (although if I am to be honest here not really surprised) to read that things are no better with regards to him.
Another thing you need to consider here is that his primary relationship first and foremost is with drink. He drove whilst intoxicated; he could have killed your child, another driver or a pedestrian quite easily. Nothing untoward happened this time but he is a timebomb waiting to go off.
You cannot change him but you can change how you react. You also need to stop enabling him.
Did you yourself grow up with alcoholism as a part of your childhood?. Was your Mum or Dad alcoholic?. You don't have to answer these questions to me but if you said yes to that I would not be surprised either. Many people who grow up in such circumstances are more likely to be with partners who are themselves alcoholic.
Al-anon is worth calling and I woudl urge you to call them. They help families of problem drinkers and you certainly need some support.