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Original poster

to not expect to my dp to come home steaming drunk with my ds (4) from his nursery presentation day??????

204 replies

Jazzicatz · 20/07/2007 18:27

Well am I??????

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coddy · 20/07/2007 18:55

no on has EVEER been tipsy wiht a kid in tow?

eevr on holiday?
at a aprty?

ever?
come ON
!

coddy · 20/07/2007 18:56

imgiane a 19 year old nurseyr nurse says to the dad you are drunk
yes i am sure he was drunk but i htihk its HIS problem

greensleeves · 20/07/2007 18:57

Yes cod, but not when I have to travel home/negotiate traffic with the child in tow. At a party where the kids are going to be put to bed safely, of course. It's not the same.

Pan · 20/07/2007 18:57

am not English, or uptight.......just imagined me collecting/being at nursery after drinking, for dd. Doesn't compute.

No, cod, they just don't let him go off with any child when unable to look after them. Simple child protection issue.

edam · 20/07/2007 18:57

Did he drive ds home? If so, I'd be beyond furious. With nursery too, if they knew he was driving and let ds go with him. They should have phoned you.

coddy · 20/07/2007 18:58

i if he drove
.......

Pan · 20/07/2007 18:58

Hnads up here. Have never been drunk/tipsy/anything with dd around.

mumma1980 · 20/07/2007 18:58

Why are you so uptight about alchol Firenze?

Mercy · 20/07/2007 18:58

I've seen various tipsy parents (usually at the school disco) but never so drunk that they could'nt get home.

And I've seen pretty pissed parents in charge of kids at non-school events.

But agree, not a good idea at a school event - and in particular with only one parent present. dh and I take turns

ggglimpopo · 20/07/2007 18:59

i think that the english part of all this is getting pissed - the french school that I worked at had wine on the table for the teachers and most social occasions (schools, whatever) serve alcohol. I have never seen anyone drunk (altho I admit to getting tiddly in the queue for a Marc Levy booksigning, but there were no children there and I hid it well )

Uncouth of your dp and shame on him!

greensleeves · 20/07/2007 18:59

whether he drove or walked, it's still pretty disgraceful. WHY get drunk at a nursery event? He's behaved like a tosser.

UCM · 20/07/2007 19:00

I bet they both had a fantastic time though

coddy · 20/07/2007 19:01

yes but you share care of your dd non?

Fireflyfairy2 · 20/07/2007 19:01

How did they get home? Did he drive?

Jazz, can you tell us what happened? One line posts hardly answering Q's pee me off

I don't mind dh having a beer if I am there to drive, I would be ready to slap him if he was alone in charge of my kids & he got airlocked!!!!

Are you sure he wasn't drinking all afternoon? How long would he have to have been at nursery & how much would he had tp have drank to get so drunk he is asleep now??

I'm not English & I'm not uptight, but I'd hate for my child to be with one adult who was in charge of him & the adult was drunk.

NAB3 · 20/07/2007 19:01

I'm not sure she is being uptight about alcohol. Her idiot partner got drunk at a nursery do which is ridiculous and then DROVE HOME with her child in the car. Unacceptable. Drinking and driving is illegal you know.

Pan · 20/07/2007 19:01

Moi? Yep. Same rule still applies though.

JoanCrawford · 20/07/2007 19:02

Agree with ggg, I think your should be at your dp, not the nursery.

Not their fault he cannot control himself or take his responsibilities as a parent seriously.

coddy · 20/07/2007 19:02

"Drinking and driving is illegal you know. "

coddy · 20/07/2007 19:02

totaly adn i think jcs post is out of guilt tbh

that eihter her dh is a tosser( liekly)
or that she wasnt there

Original poster
Jazzicatz · 20/07/2007 19:03

I am not pissed off with the nursey as it was dp's rational decision to get hammered. I cannot believe he would drive home with our ds in the car. I am so angry with dp but he has now passed out so I will have to leave the yelling until tomorrow when he has a hangover

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TootyFrooty · 20/07/2007 19:03

It's no one else's fault but your dp's. Don't blame the nursery. Why is it their fault that your dp can't handle his booze and thinks it appropriate to get smashed when he's in sole charge of your ds?

coddy · 20/07/2007 19:04

passed out?

oh yes well knee him int he balls

FirenzeandZooey · 20/07/2007 19:04

Cod cod, I am not saying it's not legal to be in charge of a child when you're drunk

I am saying it's not legal for a NURSERY to let a child go home with a drunk PARENT

Mumma, because I, my dp, my father, and my MIL all have / have had drink problems. Once you stop drinking you notice how many many other people have problems, as well. Needing to have alcohol to celebrate at an academic event for 4 year olds is a screwed up way of living.

FirenzeandZooey · 20/07/2007 19:05

he drove home as well? and the nursery let him go? JESUS

JoanCrawford · 20/07/2007 19:05

shave off his eyebrows!