I left a sanitary towel in my knickers...

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Okay. As the title suggests... (also name change!)

Maybe this is gross for some? But for me I don't think so at all!

I have just started my period. It's very, very light, so I've just been wearing a panty liner.

Anyway cut a long story short, I was really poorly yesterday and had to come home form work with a migraine. I got changed in the bathroom and had a shower. I just picked up all my clothes and threw them in the laundry bin when I got out. Obviously forgetting to take my liner out of my knickers to dispose of.

So, today I'm back at work and receive a shitty text from my dp about it. Saying how disgusting it is and 'what the hell ' etc. I felt mortified!! So embarrassed. But at the same time, when I got home, he'd left all my clothes in the laundry bin, and I obviously took the liner off straight away to dispose. There was barely anything on it- I mean perhaps a ten pence piece of a very light cycle.

Am I being U?? It was a mistake and not like I leave them lying around everywhere. It's just a period for goodness sake, it's not like I've got the plague!! It's made me feel really shit about myself?! But why!

I've done this several times. Easy mistake. Dont know what all the fuss is.

do the washing here (he does the ironing). If I picked a pair of his boxers out of the washing basket and they were covered in poo or jizz I’d be leaving them for him to deal with. And yeah I’d probably roll my eyes at him too.

Same here...

I’m definitely in the minority but I would be mortified if this happened to me and I wouldn’t expect my DH to have to deal with it.

Mind you - I can’t work out how you accidentally leave a used sanitary pad in your underwear? Don’t you see it when you take your knickers off? And if you know you’re on your period and that wear pads how can you forget you’re using one and so not think to dispose of it when you take your underwear off?

Anyway - your DH’s text was a bit harsh and it would have really upset me but yes, I’m sure it wasn’t the nicest thing for him to be faced with.

I'd always feel embarrassed remembering I'd left one but my ex never made a big deal or made me embarrassed and would dispose of even the heaviest period pads that I'd left at the side of the bath when I'd quickly jumped in and out.

He needs to grow up mistakes happen and it’s only a wee bit of blood from a normal bodily function. My DH has watched me give birth 4 times, actually third time he caught the head (he’s very proud of that), has wiped my poo away in labour. He’s changed thousands of nappies and now he had teenage daughters and we talk about periods openly as I never want them to be ashamed about their bodies.

It’s just another way of shaming women and making us feel dirty about our “monthlies” we can’t even say period!

would dispose of even the heaviest period pads that I'd left at the side of the bath when I'd quickly jumped in and out.

You would bath with a saturated sanitary towel sitting on the side of the bath next to you?!

If you had taken it out of your knickers when you got undressed why wouldn’t you have just disposed of it there and then? I assume you weren’t planning on using it again?? Why put it on the side of the bath and leave it there whilst you bathe?! I can’t think of much worse things to look at when I’m lying in the bath....

Menstrual blood is not poo.

@QueenofmyPrinces side of the bath like down the side, on the floor when I'd undress - we don't have a bathroom bin!!

greentruck - I’m still baffled how just forget it’s there? Don’t you see it when you scoop up all your clothes?

We see threads on here a lot about moms complaining of teenage girls leaving their used sanitary towels around and most responses say it’s so unhygienic, dirty and completely disrespectful of the girls to leave them around for other people to find and deal with....

......so I’m not sure why suddenly the rules have changed on this thread just because it’s a different scenario?!

In fact, shouldn’t grown women be even more responsible in terms of discarding of used sanitary towels than teenage girls may be?

I don’t know..... I’m just a bit baffled by it all

BTW - I’m not judging at all, lol, I’m just baffled

@QueenofmyPrinces Because it was an accident, not OP being lazy or disrespect. It was a one off oops moment not regular or can't be arsed behaviour.

Because it was an accident, not OP being lazy or disrespect. It was a one off oops moment not regular or can't be arsed behaviour.....

There are just so many women here having one off oops moments

Like I said - my mind just can’t comprehend how someone can forget they’ve removed a sanitary towel from their underwear and then leave it lying somewhere.

Like I said - no judgement, I just struggle to understand it

I’m just surprised how frequently it happens

He is being v v unreasonable. I got my period when camping, bled over the blowup mattress, sleeping bags, everything. My DP made me a cup of tea, washed down everything with wipes (we were in a field in the middle of nowhere) and took the children for the day. He didn’t flinch x

@QueenofmyPrinces I think it's probably a kind of bias because people are more likely to mention in solidarity to the OP that they've done the same.

And women are more likely to start their own thread about it than the millions of women who haven't ever forgotten.

So we'll only really hear about the oops moments, unless people start threads titled "I've got my period and remembered to change my tampon!"

Like I said the OP didn't mean to be disrespectful, we all forget stuff sometimes!

Ridiculous. If he's really that squeamish he should have just left it there for you to spot, there was no need to say anything, it's just blood ffs.

My Dp would have disposed of it and probably never said anything. I'm not going to share my embarrassing period story though as it's 1000x worse than any of these, but safe to say your DP would have a breakdown.

Bleed in his boxers for a few days and then tell him to grow up and stop being such a prick.

My DH's ex accidentally dropped her tampon in the loo while she was drunk and didn't flush with the apparent intention to fish it out in the morning.

Cue my DH stumbling still semi drunk into the bathroom for a morning piss and not noticing until mid flow that the toilet was full of blood

Awesome story :D

What a dick ..is he usually so nasty

Are any of you old enough to remember the Ben Elton skit that said that if men had periods everyone would know about it, and they would boast openly about how heavy their flow was.
I hate the fact that we are meant to be embarassed about having a period, it's how we propagate the species ffs!