I left a sanitary towel in my knickers...

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Okay. As the title suggests... (also name change!)

Maybe this is gross for some? But for me I don't think so at all!

I have just started my period. It's very, very light, so I've just been wearing a panty liner.

Anyway cut a long story short, I was really poorly yesterday and had to come home form work with a migraine. I got changed in the bathroom and had a shower. I just picked up all my clothes and threw them in the laundry bin when I got out. Obviously forgetting to take my liner out of my knickers to dispose of.

So, today I'm back at work and receive a shitty text from my dp about it. Saying how disgusting it is and 'what the hell ' etc. I felt mortified!! So embarrassed. But at the same time, when I got home, he'd left all my clothes in the laundry bin, and I obviously took the liner off straight away to dispose. There was barely anything on it- I mean perhaps a ten pence piece of a very light cycle.

Am I being U?? It was a mistake and not like I leave them lying around everywhere. It's just a period for goodness sake, it's not like I've got the plague!! It's made me feel really shit about myself?! But why!

@disneyspendingmoney Once you've done the cold soak, hand rinse, applied stain remover then washed on a cool wash, dry the sheets outside in the sun as the sun fades whatever stains are left.

I always do this

I always do this

I always do this

I forget to take my towels off a lot as my periods are awful. Dp just disposes of them quietly with no fuss. Similar to how I wash the skid marks on his boxers.

Next time make a big deal about the shit stains in his boxers or the smell in the bathroom after he has used it. Maybe it’ll give him some perspective.

Christ the amount of times I've accidentally left a pad in underwear or on the side I'd be in big trouble with your dp!

I actually think it’s ok if he didn’t want to remove the pad. He could have just left the knickers in the basket though, and said nothing, gone about his business.

Sending a text about it was a dick-move of the highest order.

Just echoing others. My DP wouldn't even bring it up, it's a non issue.

Please inspect his underwear next time you do some washing and 'pull him up' if his kecks are anything but spotless.

This is a subject that is trolled a fair bit on MN unfortunately.

God. He is a first class dick.

I remember once, when my and DP had just started dating, we went away for the weekend. I was having a -fucking awful- very heavy period (bad timing), and got up to go to the loo in the night. I couldn't find the light switch in the dark, so was floundering about trying to change my towel in the dark. Completely missed the bin with the old one (unbeknownst to me) which then somehow unravelled itself to display its gory glory.
I stumbled back to bed unaware of unfortunate faux pas.
DP then got up to pee, also couldn't find light, but managed to somehow stand on my sodden pad and nearly slip. I was still awake and put on the bedside light to find out what the commotion was about.

I was completely MORTIFIED. But he laughed, and then we both laughed and then be got cleaned up and we got on with our
lives.

Your partner's reaction is over the top and ridiculous. Utter twat.

Sometimes I have put one through the washing machine. I have also put his tissues through the washing machine. I loathe picking up used tissues when he has a cold, he leaves them everywhere. Would rather pick up a sanitary towel, no bugs on those.

My ex was like this.
I have endometriosis so very heavy periods and occasionally there would be still be a little bit of blood in the toilet basin after flushing. He would kick off and explain how disgusting it was and horrible for him to deal with 😳
Apparently his skiddy undies and complete lack of personal hygiene was ok though....

My DH though completely unphased...I flooded in my sleep one of the first times he spent the night. It was everywhere 😥 and he was totally chilled about it. I was scrambling trying to strip the bed in case he kicked off and he sat me down and said it's completely natural and nothing to be ashamed of 😊

What a dick. Tell him to grow up.

He's a big old drama queen.

If his white shirts come out pink, THEN he can complain. Big baby that he is.

And yeah I would have a problem with being made to feel gross over a friggin pantyliner.

someone mentioned painkillers in a purple box helping them, I think they might mean feminax.

Yes. Feminax is ibuprofen. You can also get Feminax Ultra, which is Naproxen, but you need to ask the pharmacist, and they might not give it to under-16s, can't remember.

The reasons for special bins in most public places is so they'll fit within the stall.

It's more to do with them getting disposed if as medical waste. If you have to deal with a first aid situation, and have soiled dressing, the best place to get rid of them is in the sanitary bins in the ladies' loos. (Unless you work in the sort of place that has clinical waste bins anyway.)

H2OH2OEverywhere. Did you not have a feeling it was imminent eg back pain, cramps etc? I don't know how old you are but you should have a grasp on periods by now and how your body feels just before one starts!!

I accidentally left a sanitary towel in the bathroom once. I’d woken up in a rush, undressed, rolled up the sanitary towel (we didn’t have a bin in the bathroom as the loo was separate) and put it on the side to take out once I was done and then forgot about it. My flatmate then sent me a very dramatic text (complete with incriminating photo) about what a filthy awful person I was later that morning.

I still think she was being a bit of a precious dick tbh. We were both student midwives, I bit of blood on a pad was hardly unusual for us and it was a genuine oversight, it’s not like I’d stuck it to her pillow!

I take a high dose of aspirin for medical reasons so my blood is very very thin. I also have very heavy periods. Recipe for disaster.

The first time I met OH’s parents I was on. Woke up in the morning in their house in white bed sheets and knew there was a problem. I’d had a massive leakage. I managed to leak down the corridor, all over the bathroom floor, over the white bath mat (TBH it couldn’t of been any worse).

God I was absolutely mortified. My OH refers to it as like a scene from alien. But you know what.... no big deal and we still have a laugh about it.

Your OH sounds like a teenage boy. Tell him to man up.

It happens. Live with women and you have to accept it . Respect a person's dignity- not hard for him. Childish response on his part.

@Rache49 not everyone has a feeling it's about to start; what a strange thing to say.
My cramps etc ramp up after it's started.

It's not gross and your DH is being a total arse. Don't you dare feel ashamed about it!

I think most women have done that at one time or another. Your partner sounds like a pathetic princess. Are you sure you want to be in a relationship with someone who shows such disgust towards a normal womanly function?

My ex was a bit of a dick in many ways but when I was in hospital he changed my tampons for me - the nurses were run off their feet and I was pretty out of it on morphine. You already feel really vulnerable when you can't move much or do self care after surgery and I'll never forget he suggested it without making me feel even a tiny bit embarrassed, it really was lovely of him.