I left a sanitary towel in my knickers...

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Okay. As the title suggests... (also name change!)

Maybe this is gross for some? But for me I don't think so at all!

I have just started my period. It's very, very light, so I've just been wearing a panty liner.

Anyway cut a long story short, I was really poorly yesterday and had to come home form work with a migraine. I got changed in the bathroom and had a shower. I just picked up all my clothes and threw them in the laundry bin when I got out. Obviously forgetting to take my liner out of my knickers to dispose of.

So, today I'm back at work and receive a shitty text from my dp about it. Saying how disgusting it is and 'what the hell ' etc. I felt mortified!! So embarrassed. But at the same time, when I got home, he'd left all my clothes in the laundry bin, and I obviously took the liner off straight away to dispose. There was barely anything on it- I mean perhaps a ten pence piece of a very light cycle.

Am I being U?? It was a mistake and not like I leave them lying around everywhere. It's just a period for goodness sake, it's not like I've got the plague!! It's made me feel really shit about myself?! But why!

To be honest, from your updates it just sounds like maybe he was having a bad day for whatever reason and snapped at you. The cause being fairly irrelevant. I know I've been a grumpy arse at my partner now and then over stupid things. If hes been fine through all the other episodes of ill health and bodily fluids - it doesn't sound like this one off grump is a huge deal. Maybe he was just fed up of doing washing in general or feeling hard done by for some other reason. I dont think I'd worry too much as long as it's a one off sorta thing. We all snap unfairly now and then.

Cant remember the name of the lady whose husband went out to buy chocolate and pads for his daughter but echoing the others, what a kind and thoughtful man.

Another one who think OP's partner over reacted and could have been kinder about it all

Which is very weird because (or you are not U.K.) HCAs empty the catheter bag post surgery (or nurses) certainly not relatives

What on earth are you talking about? Why are some people so unwilling or unable to comprehend that just because something is outside their own experience then it is ‘weird’ or unbelievable? Some people require long-term catheterisation after surgery therefore, they are discharged home with a catheter in situ. It is a complete waste of resources for a HCP to have to visit just to empty the bag. Of course people/carers deal with it themselves. Just educate yourself before you make wildly inaccurate assertions.

RuggerHug... realised after the cycle started!' love it!! Good little chuckle!!

You need to have an honest conversation about how his reaction has made you feel.

Or buy him a hazmat suit.

@disneyspendingmoney - Try soaking bloodied things in cold water before washing. (Heat sets the stain.)

Sorry I think this is gross and can see his point. I really think that women should not leave them for their cleaner to empty they should be wrapped up.
Having said that it was an accident . Worked somewhere where they left a used condom on the floor that was gross but I suppose it was natural .

I actually disagree with the majority here and think that's pretty disgusting. Though I also wouldn't like it if a bloody towel from a nosebleed or cut was left around. It's unhygienic and not pleasant and certainly shouldn't be left for someone else to clear unless there's a medical reason why you can't do it. Then I'd expect more understanding. He maybe overplayed it but I understand why he was disgusted, so would I be and I have periods.

@disneyspendingmoney of course you can talk about this. Everybody should as it's just part and parcel of life. I hope your DD is doing ok. Hint - soak stuff as soon as possible in COLD water to remove the blood first before washing. If you put it straight into a hot wash it will "set" the stains and make them much harder to get out.

Laughing at pooing in laundry baskets and flinging pads about

I have severely heavy periods and my DP was shocked to see that much blood but when i've been dizzy from it will come into the bathroom and remove the (absolutely soaked) liner for me and bin it. He's a gem

Likewise if he were to be poorly and have an accident or be sick etc, id happily help him. I think your DP needs to grow up, sorry you were made to feel this way OP

I occasionally come across my DDs panty liners in the wash,after I've done it.It is annoying but they come up intact and clean!
My ex was good when I had periods,even washed blood out of a hotel sheet and hair dried it to save me embarrassment,1st wedding anniversary.
My DD has black sheets for period days🙄 and black knickers.

OP your DP sounds oddly uncomfortable with women's bodily functions. I asked my DH what he would do in this situation, he said it wouldn't bother him, and he would just quietly dispose of it, and wouldn't even think it was worth mentioning.

If you are planning to have children then how will your DP cope with nappies etc? I can see he might be squeamish around blood, some people are. But it sounds as if he has a distaste for women's bodies on some level. I would find that very off-putting, and a potential problem in someone I hoped to have a satisfying relationship with.

I mean it's not lively as they go mouldy v quickly but you obviously didn't do it on purpose. I'd not expect a reaction like that. DP has laundered my bloody pants after a bout of unpredictable and irregular periods

Presumably he likes your vagina in other ways? But just not when it’s doing other natural things like bleeding?!

I left my mooncup in the shower, realised later, knew that teenage son would have since showered, sent him a "whoops" txt and he just shrugged and said it was ok.

Glad I've raised my son to accept women don't need to hide the fact they menstruate.

To the lone dad, Ibuprofen for period pain,it's supposed to reduce bleeding to.If it gets very bad then see your go.A small hot water bottle for her back or tum helps,preferably in a nice cover.

I do this all the time. My DH never bats an eyelid. But he isn't phobic of women and periods. To send a horrible message to you is just uncalled for.

OP sorry to have stolen a chunk from your thread, I forgot to say that I've pulled towels out of knickers in several occasions now and from down the side of her bed ¿?¯\(ツ)/¯ so what your DP's beef is, is a smidge on the extreme side.

Thanks everyone for your advice. What I seriously don't get us why some fella thought that towels need to be scented? It really doesn't improve anything. I can just imagine the product design meeting - "Ah! Mr Marketing-Executive please tell Miss Dogsbody, to order several thousand gallons of Zoflora, we can't go offending ladies delicate sensibilities with our product,now can we. And we don't want the chaps thinking anything remiss in the nether regions, do we"

And why are those droplets icons blue? I'm nearly 100% sure the target market know what they are for. Even I twigged that.

If any mumsnetters work for the manufacturers, can you get me the CEO's direct dial and I will have some stern words with him.

Lol men like to pretend that periods do not exist. It upsets their small minds

Kennehora bad wording on my part, she started this months period yesterday

Sounds like an over-reaction to an accident. My exH was fine when we were first together, but looked for reasons to get angry and tell me I was wrong at the end and would over-react.

The other day I had left a wrapped towel in the bathroom window as had forgotten to take to the bin. When I found it later it had unravelled. I was glad my partner and DC hadn't been in first as not nice for them, but I know that none of them would call me disgusting as they care about me and my feelings.

Any man who would seek to shame you over a non event like this is fucking vile.

@disneyspendingmoney

Weird that you’d have to repeatedly take towels out of knickers / from down the side of the bed if she only started yesterday.

As for why the droplets are blue, probably the same reason adverts used to show blue liquid being poured onto the pad, other colours were associated with different bodily functions/ fluids so advertisers chose to use blue so as not to “disgust” the audience.

Don't feel shit about yourself.. you have done nothing wrong! Your dp sounds like a right prick.