I left a sanitary towel in my knickers...

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Okay. As the title suggests... (also name change!)

Maybe this is gross for some? But for me I don't think so at all!

I have just started my period. It's very, very light, so I've just been wearing a panty liner.

Anyway cut a long story short, I was really poorly yesterday and had to come home form work with a migraine. I got changed in the bathroom and had a shower. I just picked up all my clothes and threw them in the laundry bin when I got out. Obviously forgetting to take my liner out of my knickers to dispose of.

So, today I'm back at work and receive a shitty text from my dp about it. Saying how disgusting it is and 'what the hell ' etc. I felt mortified!! So embarrassed. But at the same time, when I got home, he'd left all my clothes in the laundry bin, and I obviously took the liner off straight away to dispose. There was barely anything on it- I mean perhaps a ten pence piece of a very light cycle.

Am I being U?? It was a mistake and not like I leave them lying around everywhere. It's just a period for goodness sake, it's not like I've got the plague!! It's made me feel really shit about myself?! But why!

Apologise and confirm it was a mistake

Wtf? Why?

Sorry, but you're living with a tosser.

A tiny bit of blood is really not that gross. Does he never cut his finger? How on earth does he deal with the horror of that?!

He sounds ignorant about women's bodies (and maybe a little bit scared of them or repelled by them). I've never had a DP who would be fazed by that, and certainly not one who would accuse me of being disgusting.

Personally I would be questioning whether I wanted to stay with him.

Silly man. Needs to learn about 'the facts of life'.

Your DH sounds squeamish about women's bodies in a way that would make me feel uncomfortable. Wait until he has to fish them out of his teen daughters knickers for the laundry and wash her blood soaked smalls - all perfectly normal things my DH does without making an opera out of it. (Then again, he never thinks a period has to stop play, so is obviously insouciant about menstruation as a normal female bodily function).

That’s not normal OP. He shouldn’t be phoning you up to tell you that. Is he usually like this?

Apologise - for what? She hasn’t done anything wrong.

During my period I’m in total agony (endometriosis) and dosed up on morphine. Accidentally left a very full pad on the side of the bath last month after changing it - I was in a very bad way. DH didn’t say anything, he just binned it for me.

Similarly I’ve cleaned up his bodily fluids when he’s been severely unwell.

Knobend getting all grossed out because he was exposed to periods.
My DH is cool with it. Which is good because DD now has hers and when she had leaked the other day and was upset/embarrassed, he simply grabbed her some underwear and pajamas, waited until I had given them to her and she was all dressed, then gave her a hug and told her not to worry. He then went to Asda, on the pretext of getting some bits and bobs, and picked up black underwear, thicker pads and a big bar of chocolate. He figured the black underwear was better as if it stained you can't see and chocolate makes anyone feel better.
He's never been squeamish about periods, because it's completely normal and natural and part of being around women.

Ugh. What a baby.

How do you manage to shag such a complete tosser ?

Ltb
honestly, he doesn't deserve to be living with a woman

Hilarious!! He wants to live in my house, where 13 year old DD uses washable pads. She is meant to rinse in cold water first, but, well, being 13, she doesn't always remember.

He would have a nightmare!

He's an absolute prick. When DH and I first lived together I woke up with awful stomach cramps, having bled all over the bed sheets and both of our pyjamas. I was mortified. He wasn't. He ran me a bath and made me a cup of tea and while I soaked he changed the bedsheets, made me a hot water bottle and downloaded a cheesy film for me to watch. You're with the wrong kind of man OP.

Has he only just realised that you have a vagina?

Or perhaps he finds all vaginal things gross? In which case he should probably not be in a relationship with a woman.

My male lodger and I used to share a washing basket, I did exactly the same as you - but it went through a hot wash, as lodger was shaking my pants to put them on the line

I’m not a prude but doesn’t this somewhat overstep the boundaries of landlord/lodger relations???

Awww @Bibibirdie your DH is so thoughtful. That's lovely.

OP, your partner is a tosser.

He clearly doesn't want to have anything to do with your vagina. Ever. At all.

With the mirena I have periods of bleeding that go on for weeks. Not enough for a ST so I just wear dense cotton knickers (like support pants). I don’t hide these from DH or my DSs for that matter if they’re in my room. It’s a fact of life.

On the other hand, the state of their underwear..... are all men the same???

Never have a child with this man.

Asshole. My dh rinses and washes my reusable pads. And that's no small feat as I have extremely heavy and lumpy periods.

I am sure it happens more than you think.
I don't know what he is making a fuss about.

I've come across the odd stray panty liners in the wash (belonging to my absent minded daughter). I just Chuck them in the bin and carry on. I might remind her to bin them herself if I can be bothered... It's a part of life and he needs to grow up a bit.

I wouldn't have felt mortified when my DP texted, I'd have just been furious at him for saying it was disgusting. It's natural. What the heck would he say if you'd had a heavy period?

He's the one who should feel like shit for saying that to you. What is your relationship like usually? I can't imagine he's wonderfully supportive and respectful if he can say such a thing to you.

Hes being ridiculous! Dh has seen a massive clot that I passed post birth,i needed to show someone as I was panicking and he didn't say a word.He wouldn't bat an eyelid at what you describe,its not like you flung a dirty pad at him.Hes being precious imo.

Tell him to grow the fuck up.