I left a sanitary towel in my knickers...

[happygoluckylucky]

Okay. As the title suggests... (also name change!)

Maybe this is gross for some? But for me I don't think so at all!

I have just started my period. It's very, very light, so I've just been wearing a panty liner.

Anyway cut a long story short, I was really poorly yesterday and had to come home form work with a migraine. I got changed in the bathroom and had a shower. I just picked up all my clothes and threw them in the laundry bin when I got out. Obviously forgetting to take my liner out of my knickers to dispose of.

So, today I'm back at work and receive a shitty text from my dp about it. Saying how disgusting it is and 'what the hell ' etc. I felt mortified!! So embarrassed. But at the same time, when I got home, he'd left all my clothes in the laundry bin, and I obviously took the liner off straight away to dispose. There was barely anything on it- I mean perhaps a ten pence piece of a very light cycle.

Am I being U?? It was a mistake and not like I leave them lying around everywhere. It's just a period for goodness sake, it's not like I've got the plague!! It's made me feel really shit about myself?! But why!

WineOrGin they've been around for some time. Victoria Wood did a very funny sketch once in which she said she'd got her flip open mobile out of her handbag and put it to her face, only to discover it was a black ST!

He’s being an asshole

Another reusable user. My DH deals with my towels/pantyliners on an almost daily basis with no drama. Same as how I deal with his underwear.

We also touch each other genitals and share bodily fluids so really we'd be being dickhead hypocrites to call one another's body functions/underwear disgusting.

Just wondering what would happen with a man like this if you became ill or disabled. That happened to me and DH has to sometimes dress me/care for me if I'm too out of it, which includes changing pads. I think to shame someone for this is awful.

Wow. He sounds weird, especially as he has removed the pad but left your dirty washing but ...
He's usually amazing, he's emptied my catheter when I had surgery and got wee all over him!! He didn't care about that
Which is very weird because (or you are not U.K.) HCAs empty the catheter bag post surgery (or nurses) certainly not relatives

Jesus he’d love it at our house then.
DD & myself have horrendously heavy periods & you can guarantee that bedding & underwear ends up with blood on it at some point each month. DD uses reusable pads (dark ones), they get chucked in the wash basket with everything else & I use a Mooncup which sometimes gets left in the bathroom (washed obviously) when I’ve finished my period. DH does the washing in our house & it’s just a part of being a woman as far as he’s concerned. He’d never say anything to any of us.

He needs to give his head a wobble, I (accidentally) left a tissue wrapped used tampon in our van (no where to dispose of) and forgot about it - my dh found it a month later when it unravelled when he picked up the tissue! When he'd finished retching he found it fairly amusing. I did get a lot of demands for a cup of coffee in bed for a few days but he got over it - your dp should too- this stuff happens! Surely a grown man is worldly enough to not be bothered by something so minor!

I've not really seen him since I've been back, I said he was being ridiculous. He's out currently but I think if I bring this up he'll say that he was joking and that I'm being sensitive./

Let him. But also tell him that the next time he has skiddy underwear you'll be reminding him of this. Just to make a point about how much of a dickhead he's been.

He's a dick.

If it had gone through the wash and exploded and left bits of gel everywhere he may have had a pint in quietly mentioning it when you were home, but other than that....he's a dick.

He's definitely being a dick, not long after I met DH I had one of the worst periods of my life, I was staying at his flat, had to call in sick to work. I went to his bed while he went to the shop to get me supplies, I was in so much pain, when he got back I'd fallen asleep, I woke up to discover to my horror that I had bled through and all over his bed. he helped me up and into the bath and by the time I came back he'd remade the bed and put the sheets in to wash.
However as it's a one off I'd probably talk to him about it to make sure he's not a repeat offender.

How ridiculous it's a natural bodily function.

Have you had a baby with this man? If you plan too, yeah, good luck with that.

How lovely Bibibirdie! I think my ex may have laughed but it’s the same as leaking in your knickers or when your period starts and you weren’t sure! You shove them in the wash!

So sweet buying the chocolate too BiBiBibirdie. He sounds lovely.

Sux2buthen yes there are separate bins in public toilets. There aren't in most people's bathrooms and most people aren't bothered about a sanitary towel wrapped up in its wrapper, put in a bin with a bin bag in, which is only going to be pulled out and tied up.

Apart from obvious plastic waste of course! Why I use a mooncup now.

Man's gonna have a shock when he has to change a nappy.

I thought you were gonna say you'd washed your knickers in the machine with us panty liner on. I do that loads

I stayed in a youth hostel once and an older lady had a bunk and she brushed het teeth at the shared sink then rinsed her pants and her panty liner out and left both drying at the sink for use the next day.

DP washes our sheets (by hand until we can afford a new washing machine) and our underwear. Doesn't bat an eyelid at it.

I don't use pads, but I don't think he'd be bothered by that either, as it would save him soaking and scrubbing from my misjudging/coming on early, which I do sometimes.

My husbands washes (then hangs on the line.) My reusable sanitary pads. He doesn't even flinch. This is normal. What he said and how he acted is not.

That's horrible of him. Really shitty to embarrass you. I once did something similar by accident with a fairly new bf - I was embarrassed, he laughed it off and told me not to worry. Obv!

Something wrong here. We are a couple and share everything and always have done. What’s wrong with him.

What a nob! My poor DH has dealt with much worse (D&V - couldn't get both ends over the toilet quick enough - you get the picture). He scrubbed like a trooper bless him, and picked me up and put me in the bath. I was mortified but helplessly ill!

Urgh. My ex was like this. A sanitary towel in the bin was some kind of crime against men kind. Not sure where else I was supposed to put them?!

I agree with the minority of posters who find this a bit untasteful. Yes, DP overreacted but he sounds a good egg unphased by your pee, wounds etc

@Crazycat16 nope. I was sent home with a catheter and had it for 10 days. We emptied the bag (which was Velcro'd around my leg) into the toilet or I had a bag at night which was huge on a stand on the floor next to me. Can't expect me to pop to the hospital every time my bag was full!