I left a sanitary towel in my knickers...

[happygoluckylucky]

Okay. As the title suggests... (also name change!)

Maybe this is gross for some? But for me I don't think so at all!

I have just started my period. It's very, very light, so I've just been wearing a panty liner.

Anyway cut a long story short, I was really poorly yesterday and had to come home form work with a migraine. I got changed in the bathroom and had a shower. I just picked up all my clothes and threw them in the laundry bin when I got out. Obviously forgetting to take my liner out of my knickers to dispose of.

So, today I'm back at work and receive a shitty text from my dp about it. Saying how disgusting it is and 'what the hell ' etc. I felt mortified!! So embarrassed. But at the same time, when I got home, he'd left all my clothes in the laundry bin, and I obviously took the liner off straight away to dispose. There was barely anything on it- I mean perhaps a ten pence piece of a very light cycle.

Am I being U?? It was a mistake and not like I leave them lying around everywhere. It's just a period for goodness sake, it's not like I've got the plague!! It's made me feel really shit about myself?! But why!

It’s note the most pleasant thing to be faced with but it’s just a fanny pad.

I’d not long moved in with my partner when I forgot I’d stuck a used pad to the bathroom tiles. It was normally only there for long enough to get the wrapper off & fit the new one then I used the wrapper to bin it. This time I forgot & his sister visited. Nothing was ever said. We both cried with laughter when I realised what id done.

My dh rinses and washes my reusable pads. And that's no small feat as I have extremely heavy and lumpy envy periods

Nope. That’s just weird.

Doesn’t he know what a period is?

He sounds like an absolute arse.

Sounds like he finds a woman’s bodily functions somehow distasteful. What a prick.

Wow. He’s being an idiot. Has it traumatised him for life?

I had to have a hysterectomy due to advanced adenomyosis and endometriosis. I was in terrible pain and ended up on morphine with my periods in the end. My dh never flinched over my bloody pads or any of the carnage. My periods were very heavy and the blood prolific. I bled everywhere - the loo, the bath mat, the bed etc.

Your dp doesn’t sound nice. What a misogynistic reaction to a normal bodily function.

This man is either 16 (and an unusually stupid 16) or repugnant and misogynistic. I'm going with the latter. I've dumped blokes for less. Dumb fucker.

Another one who thinks he is ridiculous and i'd be really upset if my dp did this to me! I've done it with pantyliners a couple of times and felt really embarrassed when I saw what i'd done. But DP has had the good grace not to mention it and embarrass me if he has noticed. He would know it is a mistake.

I expect if dp was putting a wash on he would either leave them for me to sort when I realised, or coyly tell me he thinks i'd forgotten something and say he'll leave me for to sort!

escapade
Why is that weird?

My DH once cleaned the bathroom up after a 13 week miscarriage when I got rushed to hospital.

I think your blokes got some issues .

Op, he is a man child and a prick.
Do yourself a favour and don't have a child with him. I have a feeling that he is one of those men who wouldnt change dirty nappy because its gross etc

Haha these posts have cheered me up!!

Thank you.

I was at work when I received the text and I just instantly felt really embarrassed!? Which you are all right, I shouldn't have to feel like that over a small amount of menstrual blood.

He's usually amazing, he's emptied my catheter when I had surgery and got wee all over him!! He didn't care about that.

I've not really seen him since I've been back, I said he was being ridiculous. He's out currently but I think if I bring this up he'll say that he was joking and that I'm being sensitive.

I mean, I don't like going to use the bathroom after him as it smells, but I don't make a big deal out of it!!

I've accidentally ended up with one in the washing machine before now!

TBH I can understand why people don't want to have to see used towels and tampons. After all, having a shit is a normal bodily function, but I still don't want to be faced with DH's mega turd when I go into the bathroom.

But it's no big deal if something gets left lying out in our house. It just goes in the bin.

I find that really gross but he really overreacted.

I thought you were going to say you were out in public? Omg he is a prick. When he has finished with his cheesy gorgonzola encrusted boxers rub them in his face.

I’d apologise if my partner had to take a pad out of my knickers as it’s not a pleasant task to deal with someone else’s bodily waste, however natural it might be, and I consider that where possible we should deal with our own waste. That said my partner is perfectly capable of doing so and has helped change the bed etc when I’ve leaked on it. I’ve always thanked him for that as it’s not a pleasant task and it’s nice to acknowledge that.

But I agree that his reaction was completely over the top and uncalled for.

I did exactly this last week (black liner on black pants) and my husband was worried part of my underwear had torn away! 😂

He didn't actually care when I told him what it really was, though I was a little embarrassed.

Your partner is a knob.

The reasons for special bins in most public places is so they'll fit within the stall. Hotels and other similar places that have bathrooms more similar to the ones at home normally don't have special bins for disposable menstruation products and housekeeping and cleaners still deal with them.

The guy wouldn't last long here. While I keep disposable supplies for guests, and only one bin in the bathroom, my daughter and I use cloth pads which goes with the rest of the wash, often still attached to the underwear, and even hung up to dry - sometimes by my spouse or teen. I really do not get how dealing with a barely used liner wasn't a 2 seconds and forget it task and your partner was very unreasonable to give you that much grief over it.

@AskMeHow I think growing up with three older sisters and a single mum helped. He is a star though.

I obviously must reiterate that this isn't just me being lazy and leaving my pads laying around everywhere. I was out of it last night and just a mistake.

I've been with him for three years and he's been very good so far!! Very caring etc. He has helped me with my two surgeries I've had for endometriosis. Changed my catheter bags, cleaned my wounds.

We've had sex and I've come on before, and he didn't make a fuss then.

I want to talk to him about this but really can't be bothered to make a deal out of it! But it has made me feel crap.

@escapade1234

Yes, we had an odd relationship! Like husband and wife without the sex. This was 20 years ago - we're best friends now and go on holiday with our respective families each year. We don't share a washing basket any more though!

I’m glad to hear he’s usually amazing. Let’s put this down to some strange episode then!

If my husband EVER said anything negative or told me off about period blood or the fact that he had to see it, I would chuck the sanitary towel in his face!! I actually use moon cups and my husband has seen me rinse it in the sink, and will continue to do so!! He also changed my pads after my c section as I couldn't move!! Period blood, whilst not the nicest thing, is perfectly natural, as natural as maybe his semen, which I'm assuming you have seen and most likely touched.

I don’t think I’d like to clean up after someone else in this way I have to say. But he did overreact could of told you when you got home and asked you to be more careful in the future.