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Teacher shouted at me

223 replies

Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 11:54

Dropped my DD off at nursery and walk round past the junior school building to get out. I’m pushing a buggy, which has my 1yo asleep in. A teacher opens her door and starts shouting at me. I can’t hear so walk closer to her and say pardon and she shouts at me “we are trying to do a test in here”. I’m confused and look around and say ok? Then another parent comes over and picks up her nursery aged child who had wondered over to the classroom window. The teacher obviously thought the child was mine. I’m pretty shocked. Firstly, when did it become ok to shout at parents on school grounds? Secondly, you're shouting at the wrong parent. Thirdly, it’s nursery pick up time and your window is on the pick up route (there’s no alternative). Would I be unreasonable to drop in the office on my afternoon run to mention it? Or is this just the norm now?!

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PamelaX · 13/05/2019 12:33

Once upon a time, teachers had a little respect and support from parents. Now people complain for the fun of it.

Even without the SATS, you would be ridiculous to complain.

Purplecatshopaholic · 13/05/2019 12:33

I would absolutely complain to the Head. If you can’t cope with the stress of whatever you deal with at work, go do something else.

HarryElephante · 13/05/2019 12:33

Lead by example and deffo dob her in.

You were at a school, after all.

sandcastlemadewithshells · 13/05/2019 12:34

I think it's totally wrong for teacher to shout. It's not a good sign that teacher is under so much pressure, and it will have effect on children.

Maybe you should phone up the school office and suggest they should put the sign up to keep quiet during Sats week. . That's what they do at our school.

PamelaX · 13/05/2019 12:36

I couldn't hear the teacher, he shouted at me.

Oh yes, do complain, you will look great.

diddl · 13/05/2019 12:37

I'm thinking the teacher didn't see the child being collected by someone else?

I might suggest they put signs up tbh-and not make assumptions about which kid belongs to whom!

Mia1415 · 13/05/2019 12:42

I'm struggling to see what the teacher did wrong here.

Her class is doing an exam. She can't leave the room.

A random child is disrupting the exam. She looks at the window and sees you and assumes the child is yours (presumably because she can't see another adult). She shouts to you, presumably because you are quite far away as you had to move nearer to hear her. If she hadn't have shouted, you wouldn't have heard her at all I assume.

What do people think she should have done?

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 12:42

Teacher was advising parents a test was happening. The class was disrupted by a toddler, the teacher had every right to inform the parent. We don't know if the teacher was stressed. Disrupting a class taking a test is stressful to some students who at 10 and 11 are still very young. What 8s thete to complain about? The teacher was doing her job ensuring her students had the right environment to take a test. Some parents need to give their head a wobble and realise not everything is about them and their precious toddlers.

Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 13/05/2019 12:45

You were clearly making more of a disturbance than you imagine

Individually, or collectively, and you bore the brunt of it.

It's SATs. Which is a horror show for all concerned.

somecakefather · 13/05/2019 12:48

Would I be unreasonable to drop in the office on my afternoon run to mention it? Or is this just the norm now?!

I'd let it go. She probably has nursery kids up at the classroom window every day but today because of tests she was more stressed.

Original poster
Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 12:48

Maybe I’m a bit sensitive, I was actually quite upset by it. It was just a bit of a shock. She had to shout twice because the first time I didn’t realise she was shouting at me and as such didn’t hear exactly what she said. I obviously heard her shouting. I was worried something bad had happened and she might be shouting for help.

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Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 13/05/2019 12:50

Ah - sorry I misunderstood
You'd be an arse to complain or to think about this again, much, ever

MissingInActionYouSay · 13/05/2019 12:51

As others have said, its SATs week. The teachers are under so much pressure, my daughter has been worried sick all week about today and the next four days. I would really give them a break.

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 12:52

I imagine some if the children who where concentrating, studied for months and already feeling anxious where more upset about the disruption than you.

Baffy · 13/05/2019 12:53

I think it's fine for you to be a bit upset or put out by someone shouting at you for something you didn't do and can't control OP.

I like your idea of suggesting a mail to all parents to inform them that it's SATs time and to be quiet around the school grounds during the day - at least that way something productive has come out of this Flowers

sonlypuppyfat · 13/05/2019 12:54

I love the way everyone is jumping on you. The toddler
wasn't the OPs child

echt · 13/05/2019 12:56

I would imagine the teacher was shouting to you rather than at you, OP.

PinkiOcelot · 13/05/2019 12:57

Her shouting like a banshee wouldn’t have distracted the children. More so than a toddler outside I would have thought.
God forbid, don’t complain about a teacher!!
I would have been on the phone to the head by now. Disgusting. SATS or not!

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 12:57

The teacher needed to stop the disruption but due to the fact they where supervising a test under strict exam conditions she didnt have time to work out which toddler belongs to which parent.

coffeegrounds · 13/05/2019 12:59

I wouldn't be happy at all OP. I understand it's SATS week (only bc of freinds, I am in Scotland where we don't have this) but I don't think that gives teachers the right to shout at anyone. The fact that she shouted at the wrong person, ok mistakes happen, but to not apologise? This teacher was way out of order.

Some people seem to think it's a minor detail but I would be fizzing over the injustice of it. Probably comes from being blamed for many things I didn't do as a child, but I don't deal well with this kind of thing and I would go into school because I would have to tell someone it wasn't me.

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 12:59

Pink then you will eternally be known as THAT parent.

AhhhHereItGoes · 13/05/2019 12:59

Surely shouting will interrupt the kids more?

Instead she should have put a sign up and also motioned to you to come closer to talk if there was any issues.

I think the kids will be glad of a break from exams. They are just so naff in Junior school. But if they must, they should do it somewhere not on the nursery route. Hardly the parents fault they are taking an exam.

fedup21 · 13/05/2019 12:59

I would imagine the teacher was shouting to you rather than at you, OP.

This.

There’s a difference between raising your voice to call across a room/playground so someone can hear you and shouting AT them.

SignedUpJust4This · 13/05/2019 13:01

Leave it. For the love of God. Let it go.

PamelaX · 13/05/2019 13:02

Some people seem to think it's a minor detail but I would be fizzing over the injustice of it.

you are an adult, you really need to get over yourself!