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Teacher shouted at me

223 replies

Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 11:54

Dropped my DD off at nursery and walk round past the junior school building to get out. I’m pushing a buggy, which has my 1yo asleep in. A teacher opens her door and starts shouting at me. I can’t hear so walk closer to her and say pardon and she shouts at me “we are trying to do a test in here”. I’m confused and look around and say ok? Then another parent comes over and picks up her nursery aged child who had wondered over to the classroom window. The teacher obviously thought the child was mine. I’m pretty shocked. Firstly, when did it become ok to shout at parents on school grounds? Secondly, you're shouting at the wrong parent. Thirdly, it’s nursery pick up time and your window is on the pick up route (there’s no alternative). Would I be unreasonable to drop in the office on my afternoon run to mention it? Or is this just the norm now?!

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ThanksItHasPockets · 13/05/2019 12:14

No need to be so rude.

Agreed.

Power tripping.

Oh give over.

Ellisandra · 13/05/2019 12:16

You sound a bit like my 8yo when she got all upset because a teacher shouted. The teacher wasn’t being rude, the teacher raised her voice to be heard! My 8yo had to learn to toughen up and to understand why we raise our voices.

The teacher couldn’t leave the classroom, they’re under a controlled test.

So he had to shout over to let you know that. And quickly.

His mistake was that it wasn’t your child - but I wouldn’t hang him for that!

Let it go. Even with any stress he might have had around SATs, it just sounds like he was calling over to you because you wouldn’t have heard otherwise. No big deal.

Teacakeandalatte · 13/05/2019 12:17

Sorry but teachers need to keep their stress under control if they are getting that worked up no wonder we see young children having problems. It's an SAT not an A level and even then I would expect the teachers to behave calmly and professionally to help their students.

Hutchismo · 13/05/2019 12:18

WE'RE TRYING TO DO A TEST IN HERE!

Seems counterproductive.

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 12:19

These SATS are for 10 and 11 year olds. One of minequality has them this week and has worked hard preparing. They only last around 45 minutes so a disturbance even just one can cause Luss of concentration which tne children then have to get back. This can cause extreme stress to some children. I understand tbe teachers annoyance perfecalypso well Toddlers should not be prancing up to classroom windows during any lesson, it's disrespectful. I know it's not your fault OP my comments are directed to posters who seem to think tbe teacher was in the wrong, trying to put it into some perspective for them.

LadyRannaldini · 13/05/2019 12:19

It's SATs spelling and it may have been a recording to listen to that couldn't be repeated, have some thought for others.

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Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 12:19

Definitely no signs up but I take the point they couldn’t leave the room.

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Fakenametodayhey · 13/05/2019 12:20

Did the teacher not even apologise when they realised the kid wasnt theirs?
Were there signs up?
How about they close the blinds during sats if they know hirsery drop off time will coincide?

I would expect an apology but id be too scared to cause a fuss- especially since you have another 7+ years. And especially if you want more children. The teacher might end up interacting with your child and you never want them having a bad idea about them.

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Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 12:20

LadyRannaldini It wasn’t my child!!!!

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Ski4130 · 13/05/2019 12:20

It's SATS week - cue stressed teachers and kids. I'd let it go.

LadyRannaldini · 13/05/2019 12:21

teachers need to keep their stress under control

Pricless, especially on this site! Were I to replace 'teachers' with 'parents' I would be on the naughty step!

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Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 12:22

Fakenametodayhey When she realised it wasn’t my child she just turned around and shut the door! No further discussion. Yes I’m mindful of the fact I have 2 children going to this school and don’t want to get a name for myself already 😂

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Millie2018 · 13/05/2019 12:24

I might go into my office and suggest they send an email to let parents at infants and nursery know it’s SATs week and keep the noise down because I had no idea.

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flumpybear · 13/05/2019 12:24

If you know who the teacher is then go see her. Explain that it wasn't your child, there were no signs anyway, and whilst you appreciate children are doh g SATs you didn't know and besides which it was someone else's child suggest:-

Put up signs (no one is a mind reader!)
Don't be rude
Apologise if you're being rude in error if you insist on being rude

Springwalk · 13/05/2019 12:25

I would leave it too. Not worth the time or effort. Clearly a jumped up or stressed out teacher. She was being more disruptive by making such a huge deal of a little noise?!

my2bundles · 13/05/2019 12:25

To be fair to the teacher she was supervising a test, it's bad enough her class was disrupted she didn't have time to offer apologies aswell.

Catchingbentcoppers · 13/05/2019 12:25

It's SATs week. Give them a break.

Drogosnextwife · 13/05/2019 12:26

See OP what you don't understand is, teachers can do whatever the like because their job is so stressful. They can shout at whoever they want, they can say anything they like but everyone has to let it go, because, you know, no one is under as much pressure as teachers.
Police officers are under terrible pressure every day, they have to deal with and see horrendous things on a daily basis. If they walked about shouting at people in the street for no reason people would report them straight away.
Hillarious!

lazylinguist · 13/05/2019 12:28

If it weren't day 1 of SATS, I'd say complain. The teacher shouldn't have shouted at you (even if it had been your child), but I expect she was trying to conduct the SPaG test, needed silence and for the kids not to be looking out of the window, and wouldn't have been able to come out and explain or apologise.

Catchingbentcoppers · 13/05/2019 12:28

See OP what you don't understand is, teachers can do whatever the like because their job is so stressful.

Who said that? Where? Did I miss it? Or perhaps you're being a little hysterical ... Grin

clairemcnam · 13/05/2019 12:29

Until MN, I didn't realise people got worked up about things like this. This is the kind of thing that I probably would not even remember to tell DP about when he came home. Honestly, forget about it. It is such a minor thing.

Catchingbentcoppers · 13/05/2019 12:30

But you're right of course, complain, complain, complain about every little thing. It'll make you feel much better.

Notonaschoolnight · 13/05/2019 12:32

Op suggesting the send out a ParentMail is a perfect idea

Catchingbentcoppers · 13/05/2019 12:32

Until MN, I didn't realise people got worked up about things like this. This is the kind of thing that I probably would not even remember to tell DP about when he came home. Honestly, forget about it. It is such a minor thing.

Couldn't agree more @clairemcnam, it's baffling. Some people love to have a moan about fuck all. Even better if you can try and get someone else a bit of a telling off, some folk love that.

lazylinguist · 13/05/2019 12:32

Ffs Drogosnextwife - all the teacher said was "We are doing a test in here!". I fail to see how that equates to teachers being able to do whatever they like.