To be raging my birthday cake was cut?

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Had a big birthday party last night, I was brought an absolutely beautiful cake. After blowing out candles etc, everyone was stuffed so we didn’t cut it and sent it home. Arrived down this morning to find a huge slice out of it! We’re having a celebratory lunch with my kids today and I just assumed we would do the old candles thing with the beautiful untouched cake for their benefit. Is it just me or do you not cut a cake without the birthday girl there? I am ENRAGED, but I can’t really be with them because they were baby sitting for me....so I’m raging on here instead. AIBU???

Bloody hell who cut it???
What a cheek!!!

Who cut it? The babysitter?

You’ve already done the candles thing, so not sure why you would do it for their benefit.
Wouldn’t bother me if I’m honest. I would have had it for breakfast 😊

Who is them??

That's so rude of them.
It's not their cake, therefore they shouldn't get to dictate when it gets cut.
If they were babysitting and hungry, they should've helped themselves to something else. Cereal, crisps, whatever. Just not a birthday cake.

Very rude!

Tbh I wouldn’t care.

Who are 'they'?

Umm.. Happy birthday. Unless this is your 6th birthday then yes YABU. Raging? Come on. Are you really going to make a fuss (even if it's just inwardly) and spoil your day with your kids? The cake had had its moment at the party and was sent home. I'm not one of those mnnetters who thinks adults shouldn't celebrate birthdays by the way, but I do think you are being v v OTT about this.

I'd be annoyed too. Very rude. Whoever cut it is very thoughtless.

It's a bit odd but not something to get worked up about imo.

This wouldn’t bother me. I don’t see the big deal

Two family members. I suspect either one of the cake eaters, or the other cake eaters mother, actually paid for the beautiful cake which means even more I can’t openly rage...

If it was my mum or sister who was doing a favour babysitting I wouldn’t mind.

If it was a babysitter who was there for that role only, I’d be a bit hmmm about their manners.

Meh

Meh, not ideal but if you get a party, lunch, babysitting and a cake then you can't really complain.

I think unless it’s your own birthday cake you should probably always check it’s ok to cut the first fucking huge slice out of it. Especially as an adult

If it doesn't belong to you, you don't cut it without asking.

It is cheeky and I would be cross but otoh you weren't planning on having a cake since it was bought for you and presumably a surprise so you're no worse off than you planned to be.

Wouldn’t really bother me unless I wasn’t planning to eat it and/or take photos.

Not the best etiquette but still, meh. Are you thinking that the eaters were sending you some kind of PA message that they think you should have offered them a slice?

I can’t imagine cutting into someone else’s uncut cake birthday or otherwise tbh. That’s just rude.

Once there’s a slice made all bets are off till the last bit which obviously you don’t touch!

If you don’t want the confrontation there’s not much you can do really. You’re right though.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

"Enraged"? "Raging"?

"Disappointed" maybe, but come on! It's only a cake. You can still put candles on it if you want to.

I always find it’s odd and cheeky to have a nice cakes on display at a party to not to cut it and share it out with the guests, clearly you’re guests wanted some cake.

Who were the “family members”?